I have a both a son and a Daughter. After reading this and thinking about it, I'm harder on my son than my daughter. It may be because he's 4 and my daughter is only 1 and a half. I'll prolly be very hard on both of them but I try to keep a nice balance. My wife says I let them both get away with murder but I disagree. I believe in taking the middle course in my affairs....walk softly and carry a big stick. My kids are spoiled with love but they listen to me more than they listen to my wife. So I think I've established something with them.

I pray and I plan to try to maintain my relationship with my children. I feel that its up to me to coach and rear my son to be a man and up to my Wife to teach my daughter how to be a woman BUT!!! At the same time its a team effort for both parent to work hard as heck to help thier children to acheive adulthood. ANother thing thats important is example. My kids follow what I do NOT what I say. They dont wanna goto bed if we are up and they will only eat all thier food if we all as a family eat at the same time. I also see both of them watching me and my wife very closely. My son mimics me better than anyone. So I keep my example in mind.

As far as relationships go I think my relationship between me and my wife will play a big part in that. I want my son to grow up and treat women with respect. I also want both of my children to grow up and be able to choose good mates off the rip. This one of my major fears. Many parents shield thier daughters and let thier sons run free with any women they choose but a guy can be takien off his thing by a woman quicker than a woman by a man if you ask me.

I can keep going but I method will be using the spiritual social building system of Islam and applying it realisticly.....Allot of prayers and gray hairs too.

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"Beware the leader who bangs the drums of war in order to whip the citizenship
into a patriotic fervor, for patriotism is indeed a double-edged sword.

It both emboldens the blood, just as it narrows the mind.
And w