11. "RE: Love Their Sons, Raise their Daughters" In response to In response to 0
I've heard this for sure - but specifically that Black women love their sons and raise their daughters - guess I got it wrong. Anyway, it's true. I have a friend whose mother practiced this to a fault - the sons had trouble w/ drugs and still live w/ mommy - the daughters were discouraged from following their dreams tho they defied her on that point (successful artists in their youth - one a singer the other a dancer) and were encouraged to raise families of their own. These women ended up not only raising their own kids later but also their brothers' variously mothered kids.
My own mother loves her first son more than any of the rest of us (she'd never admit that) - but I wouldn't say she didn't raise the boys - we were all pretty much raised the same. I do think parents in general can play favorites. I think they can expect the worst from either gender based on today's society. I also think they can depend on a certain gender to "do right" - take care of them when they get old, graduate, make money, etc. Their own hang-ups push this favoritism probably more often in favor of boys for any number of reasons: not to break their spirit, cuz you can't hit a grown-ass man (some boys under 18 are mad big & tall), cuz a girl is the one who has to carry a baby, etc. Expectations don't breed responsibility tho - the sad part is a parent's hang-ups can turn into the kid's hang-ups.
----------------------------------- "Everybody's talkin' 'bout the kids! The kids got funky soul" Jay Kay "Everything I do gon' be funky... from now on" Toussaint / Dorsey