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"That ONE time I dated a white man..."


  

          

My friend's boyfriend felt the need to explain why to his friend who liked me by saying "Oh, well you know she went to private school."

The ONE time I dated a white man.

After over 15 years of only dating brothers.

Not that I ever gave a shit about people who date interracially, but my experience when I dated a white man further cemented why I didn't care:

I don't look at someone else's mate choice and give it meaning to my life.

I don't see someone else's gain (in this cause, a non-Black woman with a Black man) as my lack.

Also, fuck Roland Martin for trying to troll us. https://twitter.com/rolandsmartin/status/785998500634976256

Queen Latifah's role in Jungle Fever was over 20 years ago. Give it a rest. Brothers: Most Black women don't give a shit who you date.

Now, if you're like Dennis Rodman, and you date non-Black women as some slight to Black women, you need chapstick and prayer. Like Dennis Rodman.
/rant.

  

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I aint gonna lie...
Oct 12th 2016
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:(
Oct 12th 2016
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I'm sorry man, there's a lot that goes into it
Oct 12th 2016
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      nah i'm just breaking balls.
Oct 13th 2016
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To me it depends where you live.
Oct 12th 2016
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      If you live in SoCal, Manhattan or Park Slope you good
Oct 12th 2016
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           .... DC
Oct 12th 2016
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RE: That ONE time I dated a white man...
Oct 12th 2016
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I don't understand the question but it looks like I'd have to care
Oct 12th 2016
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      Yeah. Don't let my bad jokes affect you.
Oct 12th 2016
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      Can you jump straight from Lupita to Allison Williams, is the ?
Oct 12th 2016
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           RE: Can you jump straight from Lupita to Allison Williams, is the ?
Oct 12th 2016
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Most playery Black females don't care but irl? Sheeeeit.
Oct 12th 2016
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Maybe I'm insulted by being lumped in w/ people...
Oct 12th 2016
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you call them brothers, but i don't notice any actual solidarity.
Oct 12th 2016
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      Yeah I'd hate myself if I were you.
Oct 12th 2016
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      If "us"= The ashy, Youtube Illuminati video-watching hotep brigade
Oct 12th 2016
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           whoa. you have no idea what type of person i am. fascinating.
Oct 12th 2016
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                he date's white dudes... his hate is strong
Oct 12th 2016
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                The irony is so delicious.
Oct 12th 2016
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                i agree. it seems we've found ourselves in a curious position.
Oct 12th 2016
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                But your fool-ass knows what type SHE is.
Oct 12th 2016
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                     girl, quit playing on my phone.
Oct 12th 2016
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                          LOL.
Oct 12th 2016
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"playery Black females" a dying breed round these parts
Oct 12th 2016
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Luke Cage viewership? wtf..lol
Oct 12th 2016
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      No, Colter is married to a white woman irl
Oct 12th 2016
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           oh, see... I had no idea
Oct 12th 2016
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Exactly n/m
Oct 12th 2016
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Not lying.
Oct 12th 2016
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Okay, so who was throwing rocks?
Oct 12th 2016
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I don't care and never cared.
Oct 12th 2016
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RE: That ONE time I dated a white man...
Oct 12th 2016
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*head nod*
Oct 12th 2016
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THIS BLACK FEMINIST SAYS OTHERWISE.
Oct 12th 2016
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Didn't think the backlash to the backlash would take this form....
Oct 12th 2016
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whyever not?
Oct 12th 2016
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Hurt voices are always the loudest
Oct 12th 2016
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Theory: Black men/Black women project their trauma on each other
Oct 12th 2016
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Either I am confused or you just posted some racist shit.
Oct 12th 2016
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nah, it's clear as shit...
Oct 12th 2016
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You're confused. The original message wasn't prescriptive
Oct 12th 2016
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      ...
Oct 12th 2016
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      I think it's racist to think black relationships are inherently harmful/...
Oct 12th 2016
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           ALL relationships involving people w/ unhealed trauma are harmful
Oct 12th 2016
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                If it isn't exclusive to black people, why are you making this point now
Oct 12th 2016
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                Imma say this, and nothing else
Oct 12th 2016
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                     I hear you but your descriptive sounds prescriptive if you are observing...
Oct 12th 2016
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                          Nope. Nope. Nope. *sigh*
Oct 12th 2016
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                i feel you
Oct 13th 2016
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Sometimes this is the case. I grew up listening to rap music so I would
Oct 13th 2016
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lately I've only been approached by them...
Oct 12th 2016
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what do you think the mystery is?
Oct 12th 2016
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      I'm honestly not sure...
Oct 12th 2016
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           I would guess that they are attracted you
Oct 12th 2016
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                lol
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                     let me explain so that it doesn't tickle you...
Oct 12th 2016
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                          talk to them and find out
Oct 12th 2016
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lol!
Oct 12th 2016
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WHITE ON!!!
Oct 12th 2016
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Was with a group of black women recently and they asked me how
Oct 12th 2016
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Certain Asian countries are ridiculously sexist, how could you blame the...
Oct 12th 2016
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      So the white dude is better to her than the Asian-background guy
Oct 12th 2016
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           That is the perception. If nothing else, she can loosen the leash of
Oct 13th 2016
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A surprising amount of home girls from school ended up marrying white.
Oct 12th 2016
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what do you think that means?
Oct 12th 2016
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      The ice is actually colder
Oct 12th 2016
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      Nah, poor choices and bitter/jaded-ness
Oct 12th 2016
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      what nigga?
Oct 12th 2016
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           They realized when a white man is nice... he is soooo much nicer
Oct 12th 2016
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                yep
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                Proof you can never break patterns on a surface level
Oct 12th 2016
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                I've inquired...
Oct 12th 2016
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                Yup. Its rarely a (BLACK) man or woman issue.
Oct 12th 2016
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                and more times than not its a lie
Oct 12th 2016
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                bitchiness is one thing
Oct 12th 2016
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                I'm loving the truth in this reply
Oct 12th 2016
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                I struggle w/ the fact that the white guy did treat me better
Oct 12th 2016
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                     I won't let you do this...
Oct 12th 2016
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                          I had bad choices for not choosing a white man who treated me bad??
Oct 12th 2016
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                               You could have found a black man that treated you well
Oct 12th 2016
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                               she. doesn't. date. white. guys.
Oct 12th 2016
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                               Ok. I see that. But why COMPARE?
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    I denounce making mate choice a political choice by default
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    i'm not sure you're actually reading this post and her words.
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                                         You're probably right, bruh.
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                               I did. He treated me better than 70%
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                                    how far did you and the white man get beyond sex?
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    You are a brother I would be happy to let a white woman have. nm
Oct 12th 2016
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                                         im sorry. im not interested in dating white women.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    nope you have to say
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                                    #ALLBLACKDATESMATTER LOL
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                                         RE: #ALLBLACKDATESMATTER LOL
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                                              Y'all stay on this. Yet most dudes commenting are all married / beau'd u...
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                   good as fuck.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                   Being in a relationship just means you've found your reflection
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                        deep. did you read this on instagram?
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                                                        welp
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                                                        BLOOP!
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                                                        :( i sense major dissatisfaction with many of your life's choices.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                             i smell a troll
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                                  troll? honey, that's your rancid snatch.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                                       you smelling yourself
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                                                                       oh. you're a follower. makes sense.
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                                                                       You're too clever for this vulgar shit, man.
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                                                                       agreed.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                        I said WE GOOD, lol.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    that ONE time i slapped my momma.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                         y'all do this to yourselves
Oct 12th 2016
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                                              don't you put that evil on me!
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                   you in the exceptional part!
Oct 12th 2016
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                               no. your reference to being treated better...
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    you seem to be using her story to make a point.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    I am...how it shows up for me.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                         bless your heart.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                              its know different than how you represent the gays...
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                                                   ONE GROUP!?!? I'm talking about ONE MAN.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                   mm-hmm.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                                   girl stop
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    Don't use terms like "FACT" please
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                                         yep
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                                         Just a thought.....
Oct 12th 2016
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                                              The 70% largely consist of one-offs
Oct 13th 2016
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      Ionknow what it means. I always considered it settling on their part.
Oct 12th 2016
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I'm getting real tired of this shtick on 2 Dope Queens
Oct 12th 2016
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I don't know how y'all can consume this stuff.
Oct 12th 2016
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because the guests are always popping. im never not laughing
Oct 12th 2016
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Yeah they may fit in the female Dennis Rodman category
Oct 12th 2016
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I think they have two approaches happening
Oct 12th 2016
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Lol, why even entertain that shit?
Oct 12th 2016
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yep the doing too much section
Oct 12th 2016
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Are you a dude?
Oct 12th 2016
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alright, I'll play, what do you mean?
Oct 12th 2016
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      You know what. I don't have a point. Good call.
Oct 12th 2016
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           I mean, I've talked about this topic with my woman
Oct 12th 2016
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I've seen Jessica Williams all over Brooklyn with her white dude.
Oct 12th 2016
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Roland is lying per usual, Black women support films/tv that
Oct 12th 2016
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BOAN didn't flop... I wish people would stop with this lie
Oct 12th 2016
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      It opened 6th, made under $10 mil, Fox Searchlight paid almos
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           they projected 9 to 10 mill opening week.
Oct 12th 2016
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Hold on to these RECEIPTS
Oct 12th 2016
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Can someone send Roland Martin these links on Twitter?
Oct 12th 2016
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Done and done
Oct 12th 2016
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      Thanks. I just didn't have the strength. nm
Oct 12th 2016
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yep
Oct 12th 2016
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One says 61% was female, the other says 61% was black female
Oct 12th 2016
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1st is a random tweet w/no source listed, 2nd is article
Oct 12th 2016
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someone on twitter pointed out that 12 Yrs a Slave was
Oct 12th 2016
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      Shhh. Don't use facts. Black women are petty and don't support our men
Oct 12th 2016
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           speaking of supporting our men...if black women DID boycott
Oct 12th 2016
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           Alot of black women did choose not see it because of the rape case.
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           grrr argh
Oct 12th 2016
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idc
Oct 12th 2016
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I don't think I've ever really entertained the idea of dating a white wo...
Oct 12th 2016
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I feel you on this...
Oct 12th 2016
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      Right now 90% of my grad school cohort is white women. I feel like I'm i...
Oct 12th 2016
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      no you don't - you got all dressed the fuck up for a date with a white
Oct 12th 2016
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           Your posts read like if Tyler Perry & Tariq Nasheed co-wrote a script
Oct 12th 2016
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           ...that was edited by Khalid Muhammad.
Oct 12th 2016
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           I hate when you do this.
Oct 12th 2016
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           he hates it too.
Oct 12th 2016
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                It's a bad knockoff of BuildingBlock's shtick.
Oct 12th 2016
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                     every one who doesn't agree with you all isn't a troll.
Oct 12th 2016
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                     no but you are a fucking troll ass punk bitch.
Oct 12th 2016
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                     Dude, leave her alone. Everyone should be left alone for who
Oct 12th 2016
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                          leave her alone? is she in danger? am i calling her a honky-loving bitch...
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                               i have nothing but disdain for you.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                    what's odd as fuck is your clear propensity for verbally antagonizing.
Oct 12th 2016
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                                         "I enjoy pushing people's buttons"- you
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                     that shit is never 'good'.
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                          does your anger and hated know no bounds? you're closer of a troll
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                               toward you? no.
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           I mean, those things aren't mutually exclusive.
Oct 12th 2016
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                your point - white woman on my couch offers me discomfort.
Oct 12th 2016
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So I actually DJ'd my first Black Bride - White Husband Wedding on Sat
Oct 12th 2016
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My brother in law is white
Oct 12th 2016
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      Ehhh...why did she get with him?
Oct 12th 2016
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           Obama babies... she is dark skin, my wife is lite skin
Oct 12th 2016
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                Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan, fuck!! They have kids too??
Oct 12th 2016
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                4 kids
Oct 12th 2016
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                So they're a perfect match is what you're saying...
Oct 12th 2016
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That ONE time I dated a white woman...
Oct 12th 2016
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That wasn't a date bruh
Oct 12th 2016
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Bruh, that was some dance mania Theo shit
Oct 12th 2016
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I can not disagree with you.
Oct 12th 2016
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Nigga what? Lmao...
Oct 12th 2016
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fam I am dying laughing
Oct 12th 2016
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lol, how did I miss this?
Oct 13th 2016
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cold blooded
Oct 13th 2016
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Y'all niggas falling for the Kwesi hook line and sinker
Oct 12th 2016
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who's falling for what?
Oct 12th 2016
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thig guy is a self admitted troll, but im the one with the bad rep.
Oct 12th 2016
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cry about it.
Oct 12th 2016
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I miss the "k"
Oct 12th 2016
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"Deport them" - Sean Paul
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you lames can have this shit.
Oct 12th 2016
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      correct. I dont identify with anything you perceive to be "cool"
Oct 12th 2016
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           what're you typing about? i think moms are cool. especially loving ones
Oct 12th 2016
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                Im very okay with being lame to you
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i came back just to laugh at this.
Oct 13th 2016
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After all these years, "Interacial Dating" is still a #1 jam.
Oct 12th 2016
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it really isnt. these sad blacks just want to compare black men &
Oct 12th 2016
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Instead of admitting they have poor taste and date shitty dudes.
Oct 12th 2016
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We still putting each other down over it, that's the problem
Oct 12th 2016
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and very smart brothers does it again =)
Oct 12th 2016
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exactly.
Oct 12th 2016
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This post demonstrates so well why this place is the way it is now.
Oct 13th 2016
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you date white dudes or nah?
Oct 13th 2016
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Don't answer. NM
Oct 13th 2016
To keep it 100, the OP seems like a rehashed version of this:
Oct 13th 2016
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she said she skipped the line... lmao
Oct 13th 2016
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I'm sorry I didn't make the post you wanted
Oct 13th 2016
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im sorry we didn't respond the way you wanted.
Oct 13th 2016
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ok, NONE of what you wrote applies to me.
Oct 13th 2016
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Cool it, stretch. It's basic math.
Oct 13th 2016
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      i suspect he and others only skimmed your post
Oct 13th 2016
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      I pray his reading comprehension really isn't this poor
Oct 13th 2016
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           that makes sense.
Oct 13th 2016
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      these are just assholes, being assholes
Oct 13th 2016
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OKP = 4chan/Reddit for black nerds.
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      if you hate it so much, why don't you leave?
Oct 13th 2016
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           that's what racists say to blacks about America
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                stop. just stop.
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                     nah, dont torment people and ask them why they dont leave
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Nah, she put it up pretty plainly, y'all niggas went poast
Oct 13th 2016
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      some black women wouldn't even dream of going on a date with
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      i really wish you would stfu
Oct 13th 2016
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      Post this on Twitter or FB and reply here with the reactions that you ge...
Oct 13th 2016
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      They want an echo chamber bruh
Oct 13th 2016
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      I find this interesting taking a bigger look at the boards
Oct 13th 2016
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           No one on this boards alludes to being a sexual predator
Oct 13th 2016
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                Y'all haven't seen The Little Rascals?
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                YOU DATED A WHITE NIGGA FOR FOUR MONTHS???
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                It's not that simple tho
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      YEP
Oct 13th 2016
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      OKP = a septic tank dominated by clowns.
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      don't forget about the white apologists.
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      we're too sensitive...
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           Sensitive, nah. I agree how it was always ignorant tho
Oct 13th 2016
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           everything you just said
Oct 13th 2016
           Intolerant?
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           Exactly
Oct 13th 2016
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it's way worse than it's ever been
Oct 13th 2016
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shitty lives? cut the crap.
Oct 13th 2016
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      yes, cunty men with shitty lives
Oct 13th 2016
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      inflicting misery? i make a boatload of jokes.
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           nigger, stfu.
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           you are blinded by rage.
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           Fool, I'm over here laughing.
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           finally!
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                ...at your ho ass.
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                     The real problem with okp^^^
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                     you too.
Oct 13th 2016
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                          Sit yo Braveheart ass down
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                               Fuck you, ho.
Oct 13th 2016
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                                    Objection
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                                         Still not stopping. That's called "going".
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                     ok. feel better now?
Oct 13th 2016
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                          I don't read your shit, dummie.
Oct 13th 2016
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                               you don't read my shit - but notice all the vile shit i type to people?
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                                    *yawns* *farts* fuck you.
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                                         pointless. call me if you have any questions.
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           there's a whole bunch of posters id say this to
Oct 13th 2016
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           I havent called you out of your name
Oct 13th 2016
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                you've called me a coon. repeatedly.
Oct 13th 2016
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                     when the hate dont work they start telling lies
Oct 13th 2016
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                     The same people wishing you death are claiming they never
Oct 13th 2016
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                          he even loves calling me 'nigger'. i refuse to search, but i know it's t...
Oct 13th 2016
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                          you're deflecting to get more replies
Oct 13th 2016
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                          deflecting? what are you doing when you decide to call me nigger?
Oct 13th 2016
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                               new sig.
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                                    exactly. and still, you're an ingrate.
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                                         Can I call too?
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                                              don't be afraid.
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                          Bruh, some okps said their shit doesn't stink
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                               You said this needs to stop. Why aren't you stopping?
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                          You said this needs to stop. So.....stop.
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      This shit needs to stop.
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           So stop. You're a contributor. If it needs to stop......stop.
Oct 13th 2016
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           O_0
Oct 13th 2016
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                You just said this needs to stop.
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^^^^
Oct 13th 2016
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we need a *soul wince* gif, like the crying indian
Oct 13th 2016
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* *Do The Right Thing OKP* *
Oct 13th 2016
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Lmao... bruh, even when I do he won't stop
Oct 13th 2016
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You're not stopping. you said it needs to stop.
Oct 13th 2016
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See, this dude is pressed as fuck
Oct 13th 2016
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      You said this needs to stop. Why aren't you stopping?
Oct 13th 2016
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      Of course....
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           Don't dignify him with a response, let's just talk about/around him!
Oct 13th 2016
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lol. y'all gotta stop playing on my phone like a bunch of kids.
Oct 13th 2016
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RE: lol. y'all gotta stop playing on my phone like a bunch of kids.
Oct 13th 2016
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Why on earth would you do that?
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      ladies and gentlemen, put your attention toward the second ring!
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           I just want to talk. Can we talk?
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                sure. we're all adults here.
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                     What should we discuss?
Oct 13th 2016
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                          individualism vs collectivism. which do you think is 'better'?
Oct 13th 2016
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                               How did you ever get my number?
Oct 13th 2016
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                                    damn. you still suck at this. NEXT!
Oct 13th 2016
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                                         Hmmm. Seems like a perfectly reasonable question
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realityrap
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1. "I aint gonna lie..."
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when I see any black person dating a white person..

I dont openly front on you or get mad, but there is a little box in my head that I put you in

and this is from a nigga who has gone in public with white jumpoffs. So, my word is not bond on this subject.

  

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Cold Truth
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Wed Oct-12-16 07:48 AM

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3. ":("
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realityrap
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52. "I'm sorry man, there's a lot that goes into it"
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Not as simple as I made it just now. I respect what everyone does ultimately.

  

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Cold Truth
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204. "nah i'm just breaking balls. "
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So here's a real discussion on the subject:

I’m this weird racial “gray” without any sense of loyalty to whites or Latinos or anyone else for that matter. Frankly I find it incredibly freeing since it releases me from the burden of all manner of cultural dogma, but there are definite downsides to being on such a cultural island. I’m basically a Tigger.

Because of that I don’t really identify on a personal level with why a man like you would have issues with interracial coupling. On the flip I’ve always held very close relationships with black folks, up to and including my wife and because of that proximity have grown to understand- to whatever degree someone like me can- the implications for blacks marrying/procreating outside of the black community.

Such integration can be a potentially greater detriment to such a historically maligned minority, whereas whites can actually stand to benefit from it. I’m speaking on balance, mind you, and realize there’s a ton of nuance here that I haven’t touched.

For me it’s simple because I lack such attachments. Obviously, having no real cultural home base means I literally can’t marry one of “my own” because I have none.

For you there are entirely different considerations. Since I believe people should choose to date and build families with whomever they choose, that means people should also be free to choose not to marry out and I get why, on balance, many black men and women are uneasy seeing so many choose to marry out.

  

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MEAT
Member since Feb 08th 2008
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Wed Oct-12-16 07:53 AM

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4. "To me it depends where you live. "
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If you live in a place where there's a number of black women and you date white I judge hard.

But I'm a judgemental asshole and occasional hypocrite.

------
“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

  

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6. "If you live in SoCal, Manhattan or Park Slope you good"
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Everywhere else... ye shall be judged accordingly.

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7. ".... DC "
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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

  

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2. "RE: That ONE time I dated a white man..."
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>Queen Latifah's role in Jungle Fever was over 20 years ago.
>Give it a rest. Brothers: Most Black women don't give a shit
>who you date.

What's the ruling on the color scale though?
Say after you date someone dark skinned, does one have to transition to a lighter shade? Or is there a melanin range?


Asking for a friend

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10. "I don't understand the question but it looks like I'd have to care"
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about something I don't care about to answer.

  

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15. "Yeah. Don't let my bad jokes affect you. "
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It's too early.

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40. "Can you jump straight from Lupita to Allison Williams, is the ?"
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Or do you have to transition first to Kelly Rowland, then Michelle Williams, then Solange, then Allison? (My vote is stop at Kelly and lock that down, but that's me).

  

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58. "RE: Can you jump straight from Lupita to Allison Williams, is the ?"
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I went from a full sized chocolate woman to a petite bright skinned woman. I felt legit bad about the optics.
The previous woman's personality was wack. But the looks were bad.

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5. "Most playery Black females don't care but irl? Sheeeeit. "
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She gotta be bad as shit or they judging...

Black men judge too...

and Roland is right.

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9. "Maybe I'm insulted by being lumped in w/ people..."
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...who spend THAT much time thinking about other people's decisions.

  

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11. "you call them brothers, but i don't notice any actual solidarity. "
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besides.

why is anyone listening to you?

you dated a white guy.

you're dead to us.

it takes a certain kinda black woman to even make that move.

  

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13. "Yeah I'd hate myself if I were you."
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I could only spew that kind of mess at a person if I hated myself. And I'd hate myself for spewing it. I'd be toxic. Thank goodness I'm not as vile as you.

fuck you.

  

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19. "If "us"= The ashy, Youtube Illuminati video-watching hotep brigade"
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>besides.
>
>why is anyone listening to you?
>
>you dated a white guy.
>
>you're dead to us.
>
>it takes a certain kinda black woman to even make that move.

I hope it was a lovely service

  

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22. "whoa. you have no idea what type of person i am. fascinating. "
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23. "he date's white dudes... his hate is strong"
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25. "The irony is so delicious. "
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> whoa. you have no idea what type of person i am. fascinating.

  

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29. "i agree. it seems we've found ourselves in a curious position."
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but i still think you not caring about who your counterparts date is not a sign of genuine solidarity.

i think partner choice says a lot about a person.

it seemed weird to read 'brothers' i don't care who you date - it says nothing about you.

  

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26. "But your fool-ass knows what type SHE is."
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My god you're like a cancerous boil on this place. You should be excised.

fuck you.

  

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30. "girl, quit playing on my phone."
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170. "LOL."
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https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

  

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16. ""playery Black females" a dying breed round these parts"
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>and Roland is right.

No.

The huge viewership for Luke Cage practically shut down Netflix. I know at least one black woman who didn't want to watch it because of Colter's white wife (she ended up watching it anyway), but most I know just felt it's "his loss" not to be with a sista, but loved watching him in all his "dark chocolateness."

So, no. Fuck Martin.

#NP: Janelle Monae-DC, Pusha T-Daytona, Royce-Book of Ryan, Blue Note All-Stars-OPOV, Chris Dave/Drumhedz-Glow, Conway-GOAT, Black Milk-Fever, KRIT-4eva Is a Mighty.., Phonte-NNIGN, August Greene, Jericho Jackson
@LargesseMorlu

  

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legsdiamond
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21. "Luke Cage viewership? wtf..lol"
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they don't introduce the white girl until the 6th or 7th episode...

and wtf does any of that have to do with real life situations?

You really brought up a comic book series as proof?

now that's playery

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27. "No, Colter is married to a white woman irl"
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#NP: Janelle Monae-DC, Pusha T-Daytona, Royce-Book of Ryan, Blue Note All-Stars-OPOV, Chris Dave/Drumhedz-Glow, Conway-GOAT, Black Milk-Fever, KRIT-4eva Is a Mighty.., Phonte-NNIGN, August Greene, Jericho Jackson
@LargesseMorlu

  

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28. "oh, see... I had no idea"
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but then again I assume most Black actors are married to white people.

even black athletes shake their head at the ratio in hollywood

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32. "Exactly n/m"
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...

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http://gravalicious.tumblr.com/archive

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90. "Not lying. "
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8. "Okay, so who was throwing rocks?"
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12. "I don't care and never cared."
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I used to be stunned when I saw blacks dating outside the race down south. Bc I was still on that Emmitt Till shit and had heard 'the lecture' on my way down there.

fuck you.

  

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14. "RE: That ONE time I dated a white man..."
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>After over 15 years of only dating brothers.

Thank you, we luuh you too!

>Queen Latifah's role in Jungle Fever was over 20 years ago.
>Give it a rest. Brothers: Most Black women don't give a shit
>who you date.

Qualifying this with "most" makes me unsure to outright say this is wrong, but cmon. I know plenty black women who will object in certain situations, shit even in some circumstances with very light skinned or ostensibly mixed black women. And honestly, tho I think it's wrong, I'm still sympathetic and would never talk down to a sista about it.


>Also, fuck Roland Martin for trying to troll us.
>https://twitter.com/rolandsmartin/status/785998500634976256

Now, this got me pissed too. He acting like he was sleep during the whole rape shit with Nate Parker. He brought a whole new reason to the table that wasn't even relevant to the discussion around BOAN. And truth is, lots of my facebook black women friends have been supporting the movie, many of them who I know voiced their disgust about that interview and his rape. It's a difficult situation for black women to be in, and at the same rate, these contradictions kinda defines what it means be a black woman.

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@LargesseMorlu

  

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caramelapplebttms
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38. "*head nod* "
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Nm

  

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17. "THIS BLACK FEMINIST SAYS OTHERWISE."
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https://medium.com/@inthe9thhouse/birth-of-a-nations-box-office-flop-and-the-unrepentant-pettiness-of-black-feminists-9f3f598819aa#.gmloa2f22

SHE GOT RECIEPTS; TALKING ABOUT HOW THE NATE DOGG 'bIRT HoF a nATION" HATE HAPPENED PRE-RAPE WHEN HIS WIFE GOT EXPOSED. LOOK AT THIS ETHER:

"The hypocrisy with shading the white woman he’s married to but caring so much about him raping one."


While this post is in jest, and I think the writer has a problem with making Black Feminists=twitter trolls (lol), there’s def. a mean 4chan like undercurrent ive noticed across the board….its a weird cycle of where self hate kind of gets self-propagated and becomes self-fulfilling; like you said this was a lighting point decades ago and I feel like millennials and Gen-Z’ers have picked up mantles (no good black men, black women are all bitches, etc) less about the reality of the situation or actually caring, but because they are miserable and need someone to blame.

  

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20. "Didn't think the backlash to the backlash would take this form...."
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>https://medium.com/@inthe9thhouse/birth-of-a-nations-box-office-flop-and-the-unrepentant-pettiness-of-black-feminists-9f3f598819aa#.gmloa2f22
>
>SHE GOT RECIEPTS; TALKING ABOUT HOW THE NATE DOGG 'bIRT HoF a
>nATION" HATE HAPPENED PRE-RAPE WHEN HIS WIFE GOT EXPOSED.
>LOOK AT THIS ETHER:
>
>"The hypocrisy with shading the white woman he’s married to
>but caring so much about him raping one."
>
>
>While the article is in jest, and I think the writer has a
>problem with making Black Feminists=twitter trolls (lol),
>there’s def. a mean 4chan like undercurrent ive noticed
>across the board….its a weird cycle of where self hate kind
>of gets self-propagated and becomes self-fulfilling; like you
>said this was a lighting point decades ago and I feel like
>millennials and Gen-Z’ers have picked up mantles (no good
>black men, black women are all bitches, etc) less about the
>reality of the situation or actually caring, but because they
>are miserable and need someone to blame.
>


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63. "whyever not?"
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who exactly do you think is on your side paying to watch?
seriously
thats your ride or die
enjoy that shit
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
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You cannot hate people for their own good.

  

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24. "Hurt voices are always the loudest"
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I don't look at dog-and-American flag Twitter and say that ALL white people are voting for Trump.

The problem is, people don't rant when they don't have an opinion. You can't take the loudest, angriest voices and say they represent the majority.

  

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18. "Theory: Black men/Black women project their trauma on each other"
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emotionally when it comes to dating.

Black women just tend to keep dating Black men and repeat harmful patterns, while (some) Black men just opt out of dating Black women. Not even consciously.

Men are way more emotionally sensitive. I can still date Black men after being abused and assaulted by Black men, but being called "corny" by Black women will be enough to make some Black men defect. I also know Black women who date non-Black men b/c their blackness was always questioned by Black men.

Someone made a post about people who date exclusively outside of their race and I said that if that's what they need to not project their issues on their mate, then by all means.

Sometimes a change of scenery helps. It still doesn't make a difference to me though.

  

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33. "Either I am confused or you just posted some racist shit. "
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>emotionally when it comes to dating.
>
>Black women just tend to keep dating Black men and repeat
>harmful patterns, while (some) Black men just opt out of
>dating Black women. Not even consciously.


Is the suggestion that after being in a harmful relationship with a black person people should break the pattern by dating outside their race? Why wouldn't they date a black person who isn't toxic? Why would dating one bad black person affect my decision to date other black people going forward?

Again, I could be confused but it really sounds like you are saying black people should date outside their race to break the pattern of abuse that comes with black relationships.

Please tell me I read you wrong.




>
>Men are way more emotionally sensitive. I can still date Black
>men after being abused and assaulted by Black men, but being
>called "corny" by Black women will be enough to make some
>Black men defect. I also know Black women who date non-Black
>men b/c their blackness was always questioned by Black men.
>
>Someone made a post about people who date exclusively outside
>of their race and I said that if that's what they need to not
>project their issues on their mate, then by all means.
>
>Sometimes a change of scenery helps. It still doesn't make a
>difference to me though.


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35. "nah, it's clear as shit..."
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sometimes people need some real motivation to date outside their race.

my first GF was from Cali and always feared I would leave her for a white girl. She was half right.

Nah, seriously tho... I broke up with her because she wouldn't stfu about it.

She ended up marrying a white dude.

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37. "You're confused. The original message wasn't prescriptive"
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I'm not even going to start on why "racist" doesn't even apply to a theory about how Black men and women relate to each other.

You added the "should" word. Not sure why.

  

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41. "..."
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It's the "repeat harmful patterns" part that confuses me.

  

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42. "I think it's racist to think black relationships are inherently harmful/..."
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>I'm not even going to start on why "racist" doesn't even
>apply to a theory about how Black men and women relate to each
>other.
>
>You added the "should" word. Not sure why.


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43. "ALL relationships involving people w/ unhealed trauma are harmful"
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until healing takes place, we either repeat patterns or reject all aspects of these traumatic experiences. Sometimes we do both.

Most people navigate this world unconscious of their pain and repeating patterns. This isn't exclusive to Black people.

  

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44. "If it isn't exclusive to black people, why are you making this point now"
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in the discussion of dating black people?

IDK. It sounds like you are saying it's hard to date black because of the unhealed trauma associated with the black experience.



>until healing takes place, we either repeat patterns or
>reject all aspects of these traumatic experiences. Sometimes
>we do both.
>
>Most people navigate this world unconscious of their pain and
>repeating patterns. This isn't exclusive to Black people.


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55. "Imma say this, and nothing else"
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>in the discussion of dating black people?
>
>IDK. It sounds like you are saying it's hard to date black
>because of the unhealed trauma associated with the black
>experience.
>

"Hard to date Black?"
It's hard to parent Black. It's hard to work Black. It's hard to drive Black.
It's hard to BE Black

But MOST OF US do it.

What I'm saying is, if rather than healing, a Black person wanted escape the trauma on a superficial level, dating someone who doesn't look like the people you associate w/ these experiences is easiest.

I'm saying I get it. Again, I'm not posing this as a suggestion. How could you possible think I was?

  

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149. "I hear you but your descriptive sounds prescriptive if you are observing..."
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that it's easier to date white.

When you add up all the costs and benefits, I don't think that is true.

Which I think you came to the same conclusion if you found that you couldn't continue dating a "perfectly good" white boy.



>>in the discussion of dating black people?
>>
>>IDK. It sounds like you are saying it's hard to date black
>>because of the unhealed trauma associated with the black
>>experience.
>>
>
>"Hard to date Black?"
>It's hard to parent Black. It's hard to work Black. It's hard
>to drive Black.
>It's hard to BE Black
>
>But MOST OF US do it.
>
>What I'm saying is, if rather than healing, a Black person
>wanted escape the trauma on a superficial level, dating
>someone who doesn't look like the people you associate w/
>these experiences is easiest.
>
>I'm saying I get it. Again, I'm not posing this as a
>suggestion. How could you possible think I was?
>


**********
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155. "Nope. Nope. Nope. *sigh*"
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>that it's easier to date white.

IF this theory applies to you. It's called a theory, and most theories are unproven. Comment on its plausibility, but stop trying to turn it into something I personally adhere to.

Healing is hard. People can date all kinds of people in an attempt to hide from themselves. Living unhealed is harder, from my experience.

>When you add up all the costs and benefits, I don't think that
>is true.
>
>Which I think you came to the same conclusion if you found
>that you couldn't continue dating a "perfectly good" white
>boy.

What's with the quotes dude? I didn't say that. WHO are you quoting?

  

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200. "i feel you"
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"They used to call me Baby Luke....but now? The whole damn 2 Liiiive Crew."

  

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198. "Sometimes this is the case. I grew up listening to rap music so I would"
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be a complete fool to deny that this isn't a thing.

  

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31. "lately I've only been approached by them..."
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I'm still trying to figure out why..

  

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66. "what do you think the mystery is?"
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“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

  

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87. "I'm honestly not sure..."
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190. "I would guess that they are attracted you"
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“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

  

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193. "lol"
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prolly not much more to it

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

  

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195. "let me explain so that it doesn't tickle you..."
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Yes, it may be attraction. however, it's the increase that baffles me.

Could it be?

I've never paid attention
the new city
being single so I'm more aware

I'm not sure...

  

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196. "talk to them and find out"
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You probably just notice it more cause you're single.

“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

  

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34. "lol! "
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36. "WHITE ON!!!"
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****************
TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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39. "Was with a group of black women recently and they asked me how "
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I feel when I see a black woman with a white man. I told them I'm only salty if the woman is someone I would be interested in, because I irrationally am guessing that means I never would have had a shot with her. But if she's not someone I find attractive, I couldn't care less and I'm happy for her. The women's minds seemed blown that I only cared if I'm interested.


But I will say this, seeing Asian women with white men bothers me. Conversely, I'm always internally elated when I see non-FOB Asian women with Asian men. And I'm not super into Asian women like that, so it's not about me wanting to date them, like with black women. I just feel like the way so many non-FOB Asian women seem so eager to get with white men and steer clear of other Asian men is disgusting.

  

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57. "Certain Asian countries are ridiculously sexist, how could you blame the..."
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>But I will say this, seeing Asian women with white men bothers
>me. Conversely, I'm always internally elated when I see
>non-FOB Asian women with Asian men. And I'm not super into
>Asian women like that, so it's not about me wanting to date
>them, like with black women. I just feel like the way so many
>non-FOB Asian women seem so eager to get with white men and
>steer clear of other Asian men is disgusting.

Your feelings of frustration are misdirected.
When the guy who possibly fetishizes you treats you better than your father treats your mother, there's a huge problem there.


  

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84. "So the white dude is better to her than the Asian-background guy "
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will be? Is that what you're saying?

  

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197. "That is the perception. If nothing else, she can loosen the leash of "
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>will be? Is that what you're saying?

cultural & familial expectations.

  

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45. "A surprising amount of home girls from school ended up marrying white."
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And I am talking about girls who didn't even really have white friends in college. I ain't mad at none of them though because I know that they all made an effort to date black and it just didn't work out that way.

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46. "what do you think that means? "
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47. "The ice is actually colder"
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****************
TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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50. "Nah, poor choices and bitter/jaded-ness"
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54. "what nigga?"
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61. "They realized when a white man is nice... he is soooo much nicer"
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than a black man.

It's not true imo but my dudes who date white always say Black women are so mean. Meanwhile the white girl is just as mean but in different ways...

Ionno, niggas be real happy when they got a white girl. Shit seems unnatural.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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69. "yep"
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>Meanwhile the white girl is just as mean
>but in different ways...


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70. "Proof you can never break patterns on a surface level "
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>It's not true imo but my dudes who date white always say Black
>women are so mean. Meanwhile the white girl is just as mean
>but in different ways...
>

TEXTBOOK! These brothers would be better served asking why they are attracted to women who mistreat them. There are assholes in every race and gender.

>Ionno, niggas be real happy when they got a white girl. Shit
>seems unnatural.
>
>

  

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75. "I've inquired..."
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the ladies I know that date/dated non black men say it's the same. which I believe. what bothers me is when we bad mouth each other.

I love men, period!









  

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76. "Yup. Its rarely a (BLACK) man or woman issue."
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Its just general dating pitfalls that we feel are special to us but every motherfucker faces. Same complaints I hear from my black friends, I hear from my white friends, lol.

  

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99. "and more times than not its a lie"
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those white peole prolly treat them just as well as Black folk they dated but since they are white their actions get put on a pedestal.

****************
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79. "bitchiness is one thing"
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add the 'we-got-y'all-nxggas-thru-slavery' levels of blk woman rage (patriarchy, glass ceilings, sorry-ass mates et al) and you got a MONSTER.

and a lot of that pent-up rage goes pack to repeating harmful patterns as stated above.

I get it.

My wife is black. She can be tough...I also understand the unhealed trauma. I don't judge her...I DO wonder if women from other cultures have a more tolerable angst that won't shred my little ego to pieces. I'd be lying like shit to say I didn't wonder.

IG: amadu_me

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82. "I'm loving the truth in this reply"
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>
>My wife is black. She can be tough...I also understand the
>unhealed trauma. I don't judge her...I DO wonder if women from
>other cultures have a more tolerable angst that won't shred my
>little ego to pieces. I'd be lying like shit to say I didn't
>wonder.

  

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83. "I struggle w/ the fact that the white guy did treat me better"
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than about 70% of the brothers I dated.

I HATE that. I HATE IT!

I hate the fact that he had the means to make sure that I never went into my pocket the whole time we dated.

I've dated good brothers who I know would have given me the lavish treatment if they could have afforded to.

It was the most feminine I ever felt in a relationship. I was able to be completely receptive. I ended it because I didn't feel a long-term connection and he wanted marriage and kids. If I'm going to spend that much time w/ a person, we need to have a soul mate-level connection, and we just didn't.

  

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86. "I won't let you do this..."
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fuck that...
Your choices were poor.
you very well could have found a white man whom treated you bad

  

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89. "I had bad choices for not choosing a white man who treated me bad??"
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>fuck that...
>Your choices were poor.
>you very well could have found a white man whom treated you
>bad
>
>

You have time to edit, re-read the message, and just re-think your interpretation of this in general.

In 15 years of dating, anyone I dated for more than three months was 1) Black and 2) a good guy, with one exception (he was Black and abusive), but I was 15 and didn't know any better. So shame the 15 year old me if that makes you feel good.

I didn't choose anyone based on the money they made. I chose poor dudes, but they weren't poor choices.

  

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91. "You could have found a black man that treated you well"
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There are plenty out there, but we all know by now they just don't have the best "shelf appeal," especially when they are younger.

Pretty much EVERY black woman that dates white guys uses the same few reasons:

1. Black guys just didn't pay any attention to me / never hollered
2. The black guys I dated were losers / treated me badly


Thing is, why not just say:

1. I like to date white guys


Instead of comparing them to black men and tearing down black men in order to justify why it was a good decision to date white.

Personally, IDGAF who one dates, but when they gotta go on on propaganda campaign to prove that black men ain't shit (so I date white) then it becomes more nonsense being spread.

  

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93. "she. doesn't. date. white. guys."
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she dated

ONE

white guy.

and is PAINED to admit he treated her better than many (all?) of the black men she has dated.

she has dated ONE white guy.

ONE.

fuck you.

  

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122. "Ok. I see that. But why COMPARE?"
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That's what gets me. If she's happy with her ONE white guy then why lament about black men?

She's doing THE SAME THING that she claims to denounce, actually. How is this any different than when black men say that "Becky treats me better than ______" ?

  

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126. "I denounce making mate choice a political choice by default"
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>That's what gets me. If she's happy with her ONE white guy
>then why lament about black men?

Lament= complain and I've never done that.

>She's doing THE SAME THING that she claims to denounce,
>actually. How is this any different than when black men say
>that "Becky treats me better than ______" ?

It's probably true. Becky probably doesn't have a lifetime of trauma she's trying to suppress, just like that ONE WHITE GUY didn't have a lifetime of racial economic disadvantages to overcome. It is what it is. It's still not about me.

  

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132. "i'm not sure you're actually reading this post and her words."
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i think you've skimmed it maybe and have inserted stuff you've read/heard elsewhere.

fuck you.

  

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171. "You're probably right, bruh."
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Gonna fall back. It's late in the workday.

  

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94. "I did. He treated me better than 70%"
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WHICH MEANS THERE IS A WHOLE 30% WHO TREATED ME AS WELL OR BETTER.

He was the most well-off economically, and it bothered me because I do feel as a white man he had a better chance to be successful. He wasn't the most educated, talented or ambition of the men I dated but he made the most money. THAT shit bothered me.

>There are plenty out there, but we all know by now they just
>don't have the best "shelf appeal," especially when they are
>younger.
>
>Pretty much EVERY black woman that dates white guys uses the
>same few reasons:
>
>1. Black guys just didn't pay any attention to me / never
>hollered
>2. The black guys I dated were losers / treated me badly
>
>
>Thing is, why not just say:
>
>1. I like to date white guys
>
>
>Instead of comparing them to black men and tearing down black
>men in order to justify why it was a good decision to date
>white.

OMG I DATED ONE WHITE MAN. SO NOW EVEN ONE WHITE MAN DENOTES A PREFERENCE!?!? IS IT LIKE HOW MEN SHARING UMBRELLAS= LIFETIME GHEY?

THIS IS THE SHIT I'M TALKING ABOUT. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!

I'm actually starting to think that Black men care about this more than Black women do. Most of the posters in that Donald Glover BM post are men.

*sigh*




  

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100. "how far did you and the white man get beyond sex?"
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did he meet the parents and friends?

yall held hands in public?

there are women who wouldn't even dream of dating a white man - let alone being attracted to him.

your ONE choice made a difference.

not shunning you, but you've got some explaining to do.

sorry.

  

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105. "You are a brother I would be happy to let a white woman have. nm"
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nm

  

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114. "im sorry. im not interested in dating white women."
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102. "nope you have to say"
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they all treated you better as well

even if its not your experience

all black men

egos are at stake here

ALL

or else

its you

that one white dude you got lucky and is likely why you were willing to even date him

nope!

all black men treated you better!

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109. "#ALLBLACKDATESMATTER LOL"
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Seriously, it's the dudes who know they'd be in that 70% who are hit dogging.


>they all treated you better as well
>
>even if its not your experience
>
>all black men
>
>egos are at stake here
>
>ALL
>
>or else
>
>its you
>
>that one white dude you got lucky and is likely why you were
>willing to even date him
>
>nope!
>
>all black men treated you better!
>
>~~~~
>When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so
>that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
>~~~~
>You cannot hate people for their own good.

  

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112. "RE: #ALLBLACKDATESMATTER LOL"
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>Seriously, it's the dudes who know they'd be in that 70% who
>are hit dogging.


no argument here
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118. "Y'all stay on this. Yet most dudes commenting are all married / beau'd u..."
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>>Seriously, it's the dudes who know they'd be in that 70%
>who
>>are hit dogging.


We good.

  

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119. "good as fuck."
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121. " Being in a relationship just means you've found your reflection"
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It doesn't mean the picture is pretty.

  

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123. "deep. did you read this on instagram?"
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127. "welp"
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folks do think its the end all be all
and
all personal issues are solved

got trump using his marriage and daughters as a shield

but hey

THEY MARRIED
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134. "BLOOP!"
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>folks do think its the end all be all
>and
>all personal issues are solved
>
>got trump using his marriage and daughters as a shield
>
>but hey
>
>THEY MARRIED

Some people really believe they can't be awful if someone commits to them.

  

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136. ":( i sense major dissatisfaction with many of your life's choices."
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it'll be okay.

keep your chin up.

  

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147. "i smell a troll"
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be gone
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154. "troll? honey, that's your rancid snatch."
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^^^^^^

THAT'S trolling.

THAT's what sowhat has been doing.

me?

i just don't agree with you, while telling you everything is going to be okay.

get it?

  

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176. "you smelling yourself"
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thats bae
and if y'all haven't done anything to deserve his benefit of the doubt
i'm rollin with it
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181. "oh. you're a follower. makes sense."
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180. "You're too clever for this vulgar shit, man."
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Even in jest.

  

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182. "agreed."
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i need her to see what she's NOT dealing with.

  

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130. "I said WE GOOD, lol."
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True to what you said, but at this point I wouldn't be in a relationship if I wasn't happy in it.

I'm actually coming from a position of love with my snark. I keep seeing the same patterns in regards to relationships, and just try to offer by very-harsh but maybe-helpful advice. I'm also trying to not be blamed (as a black man) for other people's dating choices. Who they choose to date is on them. Why do I have to be lumped into the same category as some buster I don't even know?

This happens to black men in almost EVERY corner of life in the US, so it just becomes tiring.

  

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103. "that ONE time i slapped my momma."
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that ONE time i had sex with a woman without consent.

  

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106. "y'all do this to yourselves"
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i.swear.to.god.
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111. "don't you put that evil on me!"
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https://media.giphy.com/media/gPTTdOsD3lEQw/giphy.gif

that nigger is a loathsome obnoxious trolling fool. don't put his stain on all of us!

fuck you.

  

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113. "you in the exceptional part!"
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been did that work!

you know this!
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92. "no. your reference to being treated better..."
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the fact is, you didn't like the white guy either even though he treated you better.


  

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95. "you seem to be using her story to make a point."
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and to do so you're twisting her facts.

but y'all are on the same page. so i don't get it.

fuck you.

  

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115. "I am...how it shows up for me."
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especially since I made it known above that it bothers me to hear us talk down about each.


  

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116. "bless your heart."
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fuck you.

  

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128. "its know different than how you represent the gays..."
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I believe it's unfair to make the distinction that one group treats you better than another.
I'll own my shit.

you, she and lfresh can tag team if you want just know it has nothing to do with preference.


  

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131. "ONE GROUP!?!? I'm talking about ONE MAN."
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>I believe it's unfair to make the distinction that one group
>treats you better than another.
>I'll own my shit.
Then please own that you are projecting like shit in this post.

>you, she and lfresh can tag team if you want just know it has
>nothing to do with preference.
>
>
>

  

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133. "mm-hmm."
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sure.

fuck you.

  

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148. "girl stop"
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shtaaaaaaahp
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98. "Don't use terms like "FACT" please"
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>the fact is, you didn't like the white guy either even though
>he treated you better.
>
>
>
Not feeling a connection does not equal disliking someone.

Man this part of OKP is so scary.

  

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104. "yep"
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>Man this part of OKP is so scary.


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185. "Just a thought....."
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Perhaps you had a slight bias against white people to begin with. Or you had a preference for black men. If so....it would have taken a SPECIAL guy for you to make an exception. So....the reason the white guy happened to be nicer than all the other boyfriends is because he HAD to be nicer just to get a foot in the door.

Does that make sense? That you would've only given a white guy a chance if he was so good that he overcame any bias or preference you had that was working against him. So by definition, ANY white guy you end up dating will have had to meet higher standards to begin with.

  

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209. "The 70% largely consist of one-offs"
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Almost any guy I've dated more than two months was a good guy. My HS boyfriend is the exception.

Because I've only dated Black men with one exception, all of the guys in the 70% are Black men. It's not rocket science.

  

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135. "Ionknow what it means. I always considered it settling on their part."
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I am pretty sure almost all of them wanted black dudes, didn't find what they were looking for, and settled on a dude that was pleasant enough to them.

I never took it as black men ain't shit let me find a white man. Many of them would hit me up to introduce them to friends and the fact is I really didn't have single friends to introduce them to at some point.

I did have one who rejected, I thought, quality brothers and got with an extremely average white dude because she maye thought his ice might be colder (I doubted she would date a brother as extremely average as this dude was). But she had a lot of stuff going on with her (crazy family, only black girl in white environment, attracted to losers), that trauma that caramel speaks of, that would be baggage in any relationship.




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48. "I'm getting real tired of this shtick on 2 Dope Queens"
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you can be pro black and date white

sure.

have a cookie.

do you.





but


I am tried of hearing two beautiful black women worship white dudes

it would be one thing if they were into other types of men but they consistently circle back to white.

I can't help but feel some kind of way when one of them releases a book titled

"You Can't Touch My Hair (And Other Things I Still Have to Explain)"

and talks about BK blackness and the black experience but then is like...

"ZOMG WHITE DUDES ARE THE BEST YA'LL!"


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53. "I don't know how y'all can consume this stuff."
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I just can't focus on anything that even *seems* like it's denigrating to black men (and black people overall). Whether it's overt or subtle.

Shit is mentally and emotionally carcinogenic.

  

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59. "because the guests are always popping. im never not laughing"
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its just a solid ass show with the exception of the corny ass hosts

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56. "Yeah they may fit in the female Dennis Rodman category"
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They FLAUNT their IRs in response to the rejection they've felt from Black men in the past.

No race has a monopoly on good men or ain't shit-nicks.

  

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62. "I think they have two approaches happening"
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I think with Jessica she fell into the trap of being the only black friend in a group which lead to dating what was near

With Phoebe....I have no idea what happened

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64. "Lol, why even entertain that shit? "
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Reminds me of an African okp artist who was at the studio talking about white people like they were dogs... then her white husband showed up.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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72. "yep the doing too much section"
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can't do all that

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74. "Are you a dude?"
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77. "alright, I'll play, what do you mean?"
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80. "You know what. I don't have a point. Good call. "
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Something about me not understanding them because I'm a man and yada yada

It's been a long week.

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81. "I mean, I've talked about this topic with my woman"
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and it's shed some light on the topic for me

but

I still feel some kind of way about it.

If they were men I would still feel some way about it.


I get the desire to dismantle the paradigm but its hard to hear the message when ones own words regarding partnering are an item outside of activist rhetoric

its like Grandmaster flash singing white lines while being high on coke

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85. "I've seen Jessica Williams all over Brooklyn with her white dude."
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I'm salty about her, because I find her attractive.

  

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49. "Roland is lying per usual, Black women support films/tv that "
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are directed/created/starring Black men w/ non-Black spouses regularly. In fact, I bet a lot of Black women actually saw this flop on the low, but even if some Black women didn't go see BOAN b/c his wife is white...so tf what?

Also, lmao @ homie's explanation of your date...I would've gone full Joanne on that fool & told him to get out of my Caucasian house!

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68. "BOAN didn't flop... I wish people would stop with this lie"
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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78. "It opened 6th, made under $10 mil, Fox Searchlight paid almos"
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$20 mil ensuring a wide release, & it flopped. Maybe it will do well on Blu-Ray/award season like another sexual predator director's films seem to do (I.e. Woody Allen) tho.

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97. "they projected 9 to 10 mill opening week."
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it's a slave movie, there was no way it was going to make 20 mill the first week.

Also have to realize it made the most money in the South and the hurricane had an impact.

7.1 mill isn't a flop for a movie that was bought for 17 mill and spent 10 mill on marketing.

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51. "Hold on to these RECEIPTS"
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https://twitter.com/OwlsAsylum/status/786210731473694722

https://psmag.com/why-was-the-audience-for-the-birth-of-a-nation-made-up-mostly-of-women-bbb53d774524#.xquk64c9g

Estimated make of BOAN audience: 61% women

I'm still trying to find the official source of the metrics. I think you have to have an official account/pass with cinemascore.com to get the full data tho. We can of course assume it was mostly black women because slavery, but I'm not exactly sure what percentage of that 61% are black

#NP: Janelle Monae-DC, Pusha T-Daytona, Royce-Book of Ryan, Blue Note All-Stars-OPOV, Chris Dave/Drumhedz-Glow, Conway-GOAT, Black Milk-Fever, KRIT-4eva Is a Mighty.., Phonte-NNIGN, August Greene, Jericho Jackson
@LargesseMorlu

  

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60. "Can someone send Roland Martin these links on Twitter?"
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and remind him that his Twitter feed isn't indicative of anything other than who he follows on Twitter?

  

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67. "Done and done"
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I did. I thought I was being bold as fuck (I quoted "Ether"), but then saw that like a dozen people had already done it before me hahaha.

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71. "Thanks. I just didn't have the strength. nm"
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nm

  

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73. "yep"
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we not going to hold that blame
noap
because
there was no boycott
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88. "One says 61% was female, the other says 61% was black female"
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So either each and every woman who saw the movie was black, or that 61% black female number is (very) incorrect.

  

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186. "1st is a random tweet w/no source listed, 2nd is article"
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When i saw that the tweet didn't cite anything, i quickly googled to see what i could find. I only could find that but couldn't find the racial breakdown. I was hoping someone on the boards might have subscription to one of those metrics sites listed in the article.

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96. "someone on twitter pointed out that 12 Yrs a Slave was "
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directed by a black man married to a white woman and starred a black man married to a white woman. yet there was no 'boycott' by black women.

so what's this bullshit about BOAN and some boycott? lol

fuck you.

  

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101. "Shhh. Don't use facts. Black women are petty and don't support our men"
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>directed by a black man married to a white woman and starred
>a black man married to a white woman. yet there was no
>'boycott' by black women.
>
>so what's this bullshit about BOAN and some boycott? lol

^^^ Shh. We're angry and plan all of our entertainment around the life choices of entertainers. We also use the Wendy Williams Show as a reference guide.

  

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108. "speaking of supporting our men...if black women DID boycott"
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then where were the black men? why didn't we show up in droves to support our brother and his effort?

how come Roland is throwing black women under the bus but not black men?

fuck you.

  

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120. "Alot of black women did choose not see it because of the rape case."
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It probably had nothing to do with his white wife, I agree.

Someone on my FB cited an article that said the audience was about 50/50 black and non-black. I still haven't seen any numbers for what the breakdown of the black audience was yet (that 61% number in the tweet cited above doesn't make sense for the reason I mentioned above.)

But Roland Martin isn't helping any of this. If people decided they didn't want to see the movie because of the rape case, that decision shouldn't be denigrated, dismissed or ridiculed.

  

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110. "grrr argh"
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let me show my supportive anger

or is it non supportive


i forgets
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65. "idc"
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its more of a footnote
for other proclivities
like say

you can't marry a white women
be republican
AND try to make to potato salad

that too much

you can't marry a white woman
be the white woman that didn't stay for the rape trial
come back after the rape trial
be there for your husband writing the script with the other accused rapist
husband casting a woman that was raped
even white women side eying you and your black husband at that point

black women side eyeing Nates whole life
Gays along for the ride now because he threw out the homophobic indicator


its the sum total thing
just don't do too much
and there are ways to walk your ass back from things if you are so inclined
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107. "I don't think I've ever really entertained the idea of dating a white wo..."
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And I mean looking back on it, the last time I actually had a crush on a white girl it was in elementary school. I just can't see coming home, seeing a white woman on my couch, and feeling relaxed.

My need for companionship never overrides the fact that I'm more comfortable around black women.

  

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117. "I feel you on this..."
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>And I mean looking back on it, the last time I actually had a
>crush on a white girl it was in elementary school. I just
>can't see coming home, seeing a white woman on my couch, and
>feeling relaxed.

>My need for companionship never overrides the fact that I'm
>more comfortable around black women.

  

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124. "Right now 90% of my grad school cohort is white women. I feel like I'm i..."
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Making conversation is like pulling teeth. We try...but man I just feel like we're running on different operating systems.


(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

  

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125. "no you don't - you got all dressed the fuck up for a date with a white "
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man.

  

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129. "Your posts read like if Tyler Perry & Tariq Nasheed co-wrote a script"
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138. "...that was edited by Khalid Muhammad."
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fuck you.

  

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137. "I hate when you do this."
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I'm a fan of good trolling. But this isn't good trolling. It's not funny or witty or sharp. It's just pure antagonism. Chill regular, fam (c) SPM.

  

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140. "he hates it too."
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https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/50/4b/d4/504bd435ae2a92bb9b269aca2c41268b.jpg

fuck you.

  

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142. "It's a bad knockoff of BuildingBlock's shtick."
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When he's good, he's good, but lately he's been resorting to this flat version of trolling that's like a cup of ginger ale that's still sitting out from last night's pregame session.

  

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143. "every one who doesn't agree with you all isn't a troll."
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labeling me one is really what's so flattening about this conversation.

how can this woman go on a date with a white man, but understand how a white person on someones couch makes them uncomfortable?

i'm desperately waiting on a response to this.

  

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145. "no but you are a fucking troll ass punk bitch."
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fuck you.

  

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146. "Dude, leave her alone. Everyone should be left alone for who "
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they want to date, and for whatever reason they want. Whether that reason seems righteous to you or not. Going in on her for this is pointless and decidedly un-fun. And it also keeps the ladies away unnecessarily.

  

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150. "leave her alone? is she in danger? am i calling her a honky-loving bitch..."
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just above your reply is a guy who has been GOING IN on me.

explicitly.

that's the shit that should be left alone.

i simply want to make a distinction between the group she thinks she's a part of, and the group she's actually with.

maybe i should add some lols?

ok. lol.

  

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153. "i have nothing but disdain for you."
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i will give you nothing but vituperation whenever the fuck i feel like it you goddamned buffoon.

fuck you.

  

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158. "what's odd as fuck is your clear propensity for verbally antagonizing."
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people.

i can't tell if it's your skill, or talent, or gayness.

whatever it is, keep going.

it seems to help you get through your day.

im here for you.

  

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202. ""I enjoy pushing people's buttons"- you"
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Odd indeed.

  

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144. "that shit is never 'good'."
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but yes it's a bad knockoff of BB who was another noxious fool and i'm glad he's gone and i wish him nothing but the worst of everything.

fuck you.

  

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151. "does your anger and hated know no bounds? you're closer of a troll"
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than i am.

but you knew that already.

what do you want?

you want me to stop posting?

you want to practice your deep throat techniques on me?

just ask.

  

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152. "toward you? no."
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i got nothin but vitriol for you.

fuck you.

  

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139. "I mean, those things aren't mutually exclusive. "
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(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

  

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141. "your point - white woman on my couch offers me discomfort."
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her point - sure, i'll go on a date with a white man!

how can they both exist?

  

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156. "So I actually DJ'd my first Black Bride - White Husband Wedding on Sat"
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Both came from pretty rich families...and surprisingly, most richer Black folks I know in L.A. seem to marry Black. But in her case, just talking to her on the phone and meeting with her, it made sense...like yea, I could see her with a Black man, but can also understand why she married a White guy. From her accent, to the music she likes, knowing she went to a HS and College that was like 1.5% Black. Of course she looked good, and of course he was tall as shit.

I laughed when her brothers toasted, and kept on hinting to the fact that they're interracial, but without saying....basically saying "we all know opposites attract, and in this case, we all see that was the case. For one, he's 6'8 and she's 5'2. Two, she's very hyper and excited, while he's more reserved." And he talked about how he was sitting with the brothers as they debated Jay vs Nas, and he stopped to say "ok....who's Nas?"

All that to say....I never care or judge. I actually saw a super cute short Black girl with a tall White guy last night (wait..so y'all only date White guys if they're tall, huh?) and she had the same vibe as the bride. I don't seem to know as many "Inglewood" type Black girls who date White, not even the Issa types.

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159. "My brother in law is white"
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What's crazy is his wife is a nerdy coder who makes bank and he's a plumber.

My wife told me a black dude who was going to law school tried to get at her but she wanted no parts of him.

She is mean as shit, calls him white trash and acts like she was forced to marry this guy.

I couldn't no it tho... when I get home from a long gays work I want to be able to jokingly call em cracka ass crackas without it turning into a debate on race.

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161. "Ehhh...why did she get with him? "
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167. "Obama babies... she is dark skin, my wife is lite skin"
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She asked him to marry her.

What's crazy is he treats her like shit too. One Christmas he gave her the receipt to a gift he bought online that was going to be shipped after Christmas...

then he canceled the order.

She got exactly what she deserved imo.

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188. "Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan, fuck!! They have kids too??"
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191. "4 kids"
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One time it was obvious she was pregnant and I congratulated him and he was like "man, I knew she was pregnant but she kept swearing she wasn't pregnant"

She had a list and one of the goals was married by 27 and she ran out and found this guy after the last dude backed out of the wedding.

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189. "So they're a perfect match is what you're saying..."
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She probably didn't feel worthy of the brother who wanted to wife her.

If people end up together, for better or worse, they attracted each other.

  

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157. "That ONE time I dated a white woman..."
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We went to the movies in newport news and the black lady selling tickets wouldn't sell me an R rated ticket because I didn't have my ID (high school).

But then the white girl went into the movie by herself and I had to watch a G rated movie.

I've been salty ever since.

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163. "That wasn't a date bruh "
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165. "Bruh, that was some dance mania Theo shit"
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We woulda been watching the sun set or reruns at Radio Shack...

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169. "I can not disagree with you. "
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164. "Nigga what? Lmao..."
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183. "fam I am dying laughing"
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208. "lol, how did I miss this?"
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219. "cold blooded"
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“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

  

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160. "Y'all niggas falling for the Kwesi hook line and sinker"
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I HOPPED IN HERE LOOKING FOR HOT INTERRACIAL ACTION. MAYBE EVEN SOME LESBIAN AND GAY STUFF.

Now it's all all arguing with Sig-nigga freud.

  

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172. "who's falling for what?"
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i can't speak for anyone else who engages him but i do so of my own free will. i enjoy teeing off on him. i'm not 'falling for' anything. i like using him as a receptacle for all of the piss and vinegar that builds up on a daily basis. i can just unleash it on him b/c he's swine and he deserves nothing more than that.

OKP became a septic tank a few years back when we allowed all of the various class clowns to take over. at that point i said 'fuck it' and just started opening my bowels on this board whenever i feel like it. b/c that's what we seem to want around here. just shitting for lulz.

fuck you.

  

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177. "thig guy is a self admitted troll, but im the one with the bad rep."
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179. "cry about it."
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http://i.imgur.com/F8VuQ.gif

fuck you.

  

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187. "I miss the "k" "
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178. ""Deport them" - Sean Paul"
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184. "you lames can have this shit."
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peace.

  

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192. "correct. I dont identify with anything you perceive to be "cool""
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believe me, Im fine with that

  

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194. "what're you typing about? i think moms are cool. especially loving ones"
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where does that place you??

you hate moms, too??

you're such a fucking boob.

  

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199. "Im very okay with being lame to you"
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239. "i came back just to laugh at this."
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>Sig-nigga freud.

good one.

  

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162. "After all these years, "Interacial Dating" is still a #1 jam."
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It's simultaneously disappointing and strangely comforting, like coming home for Christmas and realizing your dad still doesn't close the door when taking a shit.

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166. "it really isnt. these sad blacks just want to compare black men &"
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white men.

and then act like we're all 'brothers' & 'sisters'.

for what? i don't know.

livin a lie!

  

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168. "Instead of admitting they have poor taste and date shitty dudes. "
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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173. " We still putting each other down over it, that's the problem"
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That old "This white wo/man treats me much better than that black wo/man ever did!" shit needs to stop.

Instead, it seems like it's accelerating (the wrong way) via social media.

  

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174. "and very smart brothers does it again =)"
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http://verysmartbrothas.com/on-black-women-as-boans-scapegoats-and-why-roland-martin-needs-to-delete-his-twitter/



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175. "exactly."
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fuck you.

  

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201. "This post demonstrates so well why this place is the way it is now."
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Black woman shares her experience.

One poster attacks her dating choice while he has bragged about his sexual encounters with white women in the past. Absolutely no help to the discussion and further cementing his abhorrent e-presence here.

Black and white men have fallen over themselves trying to tell her what she experienced isn't real OR told her her choices were based on bias, as if they were there watching themselves when she went out with this guy. I suspect that even if you all were there you would do the mental gymnastics required

You all make me so sick.

Some of you are incredibly tone-deaf. The significance in this "trend" is that it is very pronounced among the rich and powerful in entertainment. The business of programming our media. What message keeps being received is that the most talented among us will not find love with each other.

I guess this will become an issue when our 'population' falls below '13%' and anti-black racism is still present or growing, in part to the messages we receive through the programming. Horrible thing is now in 2016, Black women and men are doing this to themselves.

  

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203. "you date white dudes or nah? "
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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"Don't answer. NM"


  

          

NM

  

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205. "To keep it 100, the OP seems like a rehashed version of this:"
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http://www.filthyfreedom.com/blog/the-burden-of-dating-black-men

The only tangible difference that I saw listed by the OP was $$$, but I guess MORE MONEY == BETTER TREATMENT.

And you want to act like something is wrong with looking at that viewpoint sideways.

k.

  

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206. "she said she skipped the line... lmao"
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207. "I'm sorry I didn't make the post you wanted"
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Cause you're really responding to whatever you think about this topic. You have yet to respond to the OP. But I get it. People use this place to blow off steam.

I've dated brothers all my life and I write a post about how I got labeled for dating someone outside of my culture for four months.

And you responded by doing exactly what I said other people did.

We can say that white men have more economic access than EVERYONE, but I can't say that this fact bothered me when dating a white man w/ said access.

I can say that in 15 years of dating, I've only had long-term relationships w/ brothers, many of who deserved the economic access that the ONE WHITE MAN had, but that fell on deaf ears.

This place has really turned into 4chan for Black nerds. And I've been mostly lurking since 2004, so I've seen the regression. Almost no one who made this place great or influential is here anymore. They might have the right idea.

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210. "im sorry we didn't respond the way you wanted."
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213. "ok, NONE of what you wrote applies to me."
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Nowhere did I "label" you in any way in this post, I only pointed out that:

1. You probably chose to date the wrong black men
2. Your description of "better treatment" was only about money.

What's CRAZY is that by understanding that it's YOUR CHOICE the POWER lies with YOU. Instead, you'd rather be a victim so as to cast blame elsewhere.

Nowhere in this post did I question you dating a white man, but I DID question your negative assessment of black men, even if it wasn't overt.

I don't even know what 4 chan is, but ok.

And none of this shit matters to me:

>Almost no one who made this place great or influential is here
>anymore. They might have the right idea.


I've seen the "regression" here, and it's mainly been caused by Twitter, Facebook and hyper-sensitive people that react poorly when their views are challenged.

  

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227. "Cool it, stretch. It's basic math. "
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If I only date Black men w/ one exception, my experiences w/ men, good or bad, will be w/ Black men.

AND ALL I SAID WAS THAT THE WHITE GUY NEVER ASKED ME GO DUTCH.

I HAVE ALSO HAD BROTHERS DO THE SAME THING (30%)

AND I LIKE IT!

AND YOU'RE MAD ABOUT IT.

Edit to add: If I said that 30% of the men I've dated didn't ask me to split the bill, no one would have cared. I say that the white man I dated is in this 30%, and it's poastmates.

Whatevs.

  

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231. "i suspect he and others only skimmed your post"
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and inserted info they've read elsewhere.

b/c most of what they railed against wasn't in your post at all. LOL

fuck you.

  

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232. "I pray his reading comprehension really isn't this poor"
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I think he's just commenting based on what he wants to say, regardless of what I actually said.

  

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234. "that makes sense."
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fuck you.

  

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257. "these are just assholes, being assholes"
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it really doesnt matter what you said
they were going to find a way to act assholish
thats the modus operandi around here
im sorry it happened to you

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222. "OKP = 4chan/Reddit for black nerds."
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Yeah

fuck you.

  

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223. "if you hate it so much, why don't you leave?"
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229. "that's what racists say to blacks about America"
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235. "stop. just stop."
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242. "nah, dont torment people and ask them why they dont leave"
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people have the right to stay and handle toxic energy however they see fit

  

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211. "Nah, she put it up pretty plainly, y'all niggas went poast"
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The motherfucker posted about how she dated a white dude once and said he was better then 70% of the dudes she dated...which taken at face value aint that crazy.


If I posted that I fucked a white chick and the sex game was better then 70% of the black broads I dated y'all might clown of how silly the subjeect was off GP but you wouldn't make it an episode of Interracial Intervention. Shit wasnt as deep as y'all try to make it sound imho. She posted a decent topic and y'all shitted on her for it

  

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212. "some black women wouldn't even dream of going on a date with "
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a white dude.

wouldn't DREAM of it.

those are our sisters.

we are their brothers.

  

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259. "i really wish you would stfu"
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214. "Post this on Twitter or FB and reply here with the reactions that you ge..."
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>If I posted that I fucked a white chick and the sex game was
>better then 70% of the black broads I dated y'all might clown
>of how silly the subjeect was off GP but you wouldn't make it
>an episode of Interracial Intervention. Shit wasnt as deep as
>y'all try to make it sound imho. She posted a decent topic
>and y'all shitted on her for it

A similar statement to the OP's:

>I fucked a white chick and the sex game was better then 70% of the
>black broads I dated

You can even rescind it as a joke or a social experiment later in the day.

You probably already KNOW what kind of reactions that you would get, which would be nearly the same (or worse) as the ones here.


This acting like the reactions here are extreme or even abnormal is just complete nonsense.

  

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217. "They want an echo chamber bruh"
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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221. "I find this interesting taking a bigger look at the boards"
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>This acting like the reactions here are extreme or even
>abnormal is just complete nonsense.

Particularly since on another post its the exact opposite sentiment on some

'YO, WHY THEY CALLING US RAPISTS AND MYSOGYNISTS, THEY NUTS, THEY READING TOO IN BETWEEN THE LINES'

Now its all

"WELL OF COURSE YOU PUT A LITTLE BLOOD ON THE WATER ITS GONNA GO POAST"


lol

  

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224. "No one on this boards alludes to being a sexual predator"
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There aren't any rape jokes (at least any about raping WOmen). There is no joking or alluding to violence against women. I see very little use of negative language against women here like "bitch" "ho" "skank" etc. Trump's remarks were denounced here.

A fair number of male posters here are married or in stable relationships. Many are parents.


Yet some posters keep this "he man woman haters" shit up despite a nearly-complete lack of evidence that confirms that. But I guess is someone repeats it enough it must be true, right?

Shit is mad dishonorable, fam.

  

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225. "Y'all haven't seen The Little Rascals? "
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The He-Man Women Haters were a group of little boys who thought girls were gross.

So you're not akin to a group of boys who get together and troll girls for your own amusement?

>A fair number of male posters here are married or in stable
>relationships. Many are parents.

OK, then maybe "No Ma'am" would have been a better reference.

https://goo.gl/images/KaJFcB

>Yet some posters keep this "he man woman haters" shit up
>despite a nearly-complete lack of evidence that confirms that.

Some of y'all do troll women-authored posts for your own amusement though. There's enough evidence is in this post.

The same way I'm not affected by people who tried to make me out to be a negro bed wench for dating a white man for four months, you shouldn't be affected if this doesn't apply to you.

  

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226. "YOU DATED A WHITE NIGGA FOR FOUR MONTHS???"
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lawd!

  

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237. "It's not that simple tho"
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>There aren't any rape jokes (at least any about raping
>WOmen). There is no joking or alluding to violence against
>women. I see very little use of negative language against
>women here like "bitch" "ho" "skank" etc. Trump's remarks were
>denounced here.

You gave the, 'Well, you guys aren't getting lynched, so racism is cured' answer.

SURE, ill millyrock down the road that the verbiage is pretty tame here compared to other places.

But that doesn't mean there aren't asshole posts. You've been here long enough man, YOU KNOW there are posters here irl that irrationally harbor hate for some women (and visa versa too). That whole they married/etc stuff is besides the point, Trump married with girls, Cosby got a daughter, lol.

And its like, look man, I go to other corners on the internet where someone puts up a benign point, "Why do girls take so long in the bathroom" and get attacked for it, I GET IT. But honestly that's not OKP...we aren't that nuanced (that word!) yet. This place is more Mad Men then not. SOMETIMES, Its jokes. That I get, that's funny. But its not hard to see some people are posting from a damaged place even if they don't realize it

  

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215. "YEP"
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216. "OKP = a septic tank dominated by clowns."
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fuck you.

  

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218. "don't forget about the white apologists."
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220. "we're too sensitive..."
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I am
you are
she is
they is...

I think it's unfair tho to get mad and call people names because the opinion is different. Im also tired of the bullshit argument about what "OKP used to be"

okp ALWAYS had ignorant people/comments. We're growing older and can't tolerate a lot anymore.

and mainstream ain't gone....they're lurking!




  

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228. "Sensitive, nah. I agree how it was always ignorant tho"
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There's a difference between people posting dumb shit and getting heck for it, and people intentionally being mean.

Like Ill see a post go up with no replies, think to myself "they fucked up with that one" and unsurprisingly come back after an hour of work and suddenly that shit is just a bloody train wreck. Did the crowd go a little nuts? Sometimes Yeah, but its not hard to figure out how it went poast and ultimately to see how they did it to themselves.

However, there's an underbelly here that just posts just to shit on people maybe to get some negativity out. Which I am not necessarily opposed to since we are all relatively adults and can 'handle' ourselves including attacks. Some great posts were made by assholes. My issue is only three fold;

1)at a certain level it becomes this loop where the original topic is ignored and its just one big personal argument loop which brings nothing to the table(not even jokes), hence why they tend to get deleted.

2)People stalking/purposely poking the bear

3)People throwing stones/hide hands and try to act like it's not what they are doing. Its like come on man, we've all been arguing on the internet too long and we all know the tricks. So it devolves into a 'he/she started first!' like kindergardeners

This was ALWAYS a part of OKP, heck will always be a part of any community online or not. Only thing is that since the posts aren't as plentiful as they used to be when people used to get the bile off their chest by the end of the morning for instance, now it's all day sagas.



>I am
>you are
>she is
>they is...
>
>I think it's unfair tho to get mad and call people names
>because the opinion is different. Im also tired of the
>bullshit argument about what "OKP used to be"
>
>okp ALWAYS had ignorant people/comments. We're growing older
>and can't tolerate a lot anymore.
>
>and mainstream ain't gone....they're lurking!

  

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"everything you just said"


  

          

its just people going at others for the sake of it, and making that shit into personal attacks
nothing at all to do with what has been posted.
there's a reason not many post anything personal on here anymore
its a virulent group of people just waiting to drag you in the gutter.

>There's a difference between people posting dumb shit and
>getting heck for it, and people intentionally being mean.

>
>Like Ill see a post go up with no replies, think to myself
>"they fucked up with that one" and unsurprisingly come back
>after an hour of work and suddenly that shit is just a bloody
>train wreck. Did the crowd go a little nuts? Sometimes Yeah,
>but its not hard to figure out how it went poast and
>ultimately to see how they did it to themselves.
>
>However, there's an underbelly here that just posts just to
>shit on people maybe to get some negativity out. Which I am
>not necessarily opposed to since we are all relatively adults
>and can 'handle' ourselves including attacks. Some great
>posts were made by assholes. My issue is only three fold;
>
>1)at a certain level it becomes this loop where the original
>topic is ignored and its just one big personal argument loop
>which brings nothing to the table(not even jokes), hence why
>they tend to get deleted.
>
>2)People stalking/purposely poking the bear

YES!
>
>3)People throwing stones/hide hands and try to act like it's
>not what they are doing. Its like come on man, we've all been
>arguing on the internet too long and we all know the tricks.
>So it devolves into a 'he/she started first!' like
>kindergardeners
>
>This was ALWAYS a part of OKP, heck will always be a part of
>any community online or not. Only thing is that since the
>posts aren't as plentiful as they used to be when people used
>to get the bile off their chest by the end of the morning for
>instance, now it's all day sagas.

.
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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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298. "Intolerant?"
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Reg, I don't know. I'd liken it to being a spectator at a football game. There's always a group talking shit in the stands, and always a group that talk shit back to them.

I can laugh at it all as I'm not here to police anyone.

  

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254. "Exactly"
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Why is it ok to call someone out their name or tell them to die because they disagree with your opinion?

These people swear they are victims..

The latest Atlanta episode summed it up perfectly.

What's even scarier is one dude is a mod and routinely calls people shitty, rapey, etc.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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230. "it's way worse than it's ever been"
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at one point trolls going at each other was entertainment

now it's just cunty men with shitty lives trying to harm innocent folks

  

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233. "shitty lives? cut the crap."
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we happy.

i read your confession posts.

i wont throw your misery back at you, but you must understand that some people in this world are actually - happy.

happy with their career, happy with their lovers, happy with their homes.

we happy, bro.

...

let me guess, you hate happy now, too?

of course you do.

it all makes sense.

  

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236. "yes, cunty men with shitty lives"
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by all means, locate a Confession Wednesday post from 2016 where I said/implied I was miserable. you cant

I was depressed 2008-2010, I went to therapy earlier in the year because that's what people with good insurance do when they want to talk through things with someone. I tried anxiety medication and didnt love it

the difference between us is I dont have to lie about being happy while inflicting misery on others, Im content more often than not with plans of keeping it going.

  

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238. "inflicting misery? i make a boatload of jokes."
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im sorry you haven't found the ability to laugh at yourself.

it's a very freeing feeling.

you and your boyfriend call me names all day.

ALL DAY.

what are you trying to inflict on me?

misery?

why?

  

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240. "nigger, stfu."
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you don't pick on ppl here to get them laugh at themselves. stop trying to sell that bullshit. ain't nobody buying it.

and if that's really what you're doing then you're fucking piss poor at it.

i don't know why you pick on ppl here. i have suspected it's b/c you hate yourself but that's dimestore pop psych 101. it's worthless. the truth is i don't know why you are so goddamned meanspirited around here. but only the rest of the class clown brigade appreciates it. the rest of us DO NOT AT ALL. and it's not b/c we can't laugh at ourselves. i laugh at myself daily. but i do it w/myself and my actual ppl. ppl i know and love and trust. ppl who i know have my best interest at heart. you are NOT one of those ppl. i don't trust you for shit. i don't love you for shit. you don't love me. i wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. you have not earned the ability to laugh w/me. you don't know how to do it and you have not shown yourself to be worthy of that. instead you get nothing except castigation b/c that's all i see you give around here. that's why i call you a fucking cancer. when you've been banned i'm glad. i wish it were made permanent. i don't know why they keep giving you chances - you haven't earned them. every time you're allowed back here you slip back into the same bullshit abusive posting. if i ran this place you'd have been gone a long long time ago. you and the rest of the brigade would have no quarter here. i don't know why they bother w/you. you're a menace. you offer nothing good. i will be glad when you're gone.

fuck you.

  

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248. "you are blinded by rage."
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perhaps you misinterpret everything i type because of the blinding rage.

i offer plenty of normal conversation around here.

why do i pick on people? because you all are boring as shit.

the REAL reason OKP is not the same anymore is because you people turned boring.

simple as that.

i dont have the answer to why, i juist know i came back one day - and the shit was a snooze fest.

so i engaged.

along the way, i've typed about pleeeenty of shit. jokes, confessions, my honest life - even.

i've showed up at happy hours with other OKPs.

i even crashed someone one's house party.

i've never been met with any kind of hostility like this shit you type.

i dont even understand how you can hate someone you've never met.

but that's not for me to figure out.

so somehow you've trained your sights on my personality as if im some huge problem.

where was this rage when RJCC was at the height of his 'cunty/bitchy/miserableness'.

you here to fight crimes of 'meanness'?

maybe the world just needs heroes.

you want to be the hero?

cool, i'll be the villain.

  

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250. "Fool, I'm over here laughing."
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Rage?

Lol

fuck you.

  

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251. "finally! "
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253. "...at your ho ass."
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And your foolish assumption. Also at something I was reading elsewhere.

Fuck you.

fuck you.

  

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255. "The real problem with okp^^^"
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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261. "you too."
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I wish you nothing but ill will. I will celebrate when you're gone. My hate for you burns with the heat of a 100 suns. If I had 10,000 tongues I couldn't curse you enough.

All of the negative stuff I spew at you is just me trying to match the bullshit you throw out. I'm trying to post som'n as offensive as what you post in an attempt to either get you to see how foul your shit is so maybe you'll change or to get others to rise up against you. And to let the lurkers know not all of us agree with your horrific bullshit. I'm just returning what you clowns put on here but with a twist. If you buffoons either leave or change I would be glad. Notice you assholes are the only ones who get this from me. It's not my m.o. I do it to you for the aforementioned reasons. I'll be glad when it's over. If i could I'd just ban you.

fuck you.

  

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268. "Sit yo Braveheart ass down"
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The most I do is talk a little shit, disagree with super progressive views and tell a bad joke once every blue moon.

You and you traveling band of progressive misfits can't handle opposing views.

The second someone is on the opposite end you guys throw grenades of insults and when someone throws a few back at you the mods swoop in



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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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270. "Fuck you, ho."
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fuck you.

  

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276. "Objection "
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279. "Still not stopping. That's called "going". "
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You said this needs to stop, but here you are, going.

  

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260. "ok. feel better now?"
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oh. my bad you never felt upset.

you just like to type shit to people on the internet.

....

think about what you're doing.

me and you might be the same.

  

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263. "I don't read your shit, dummie."
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I have no idea what you're going on about. Don't care either.

fuck you.

  

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265. "you don't read my shit - but notice all the vile shit i type to people?"
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ok sowhat. ok.

  

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272. "*yawns* *farts* fuck you."
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>ok sowhat. ok.

fuck you.

  

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274. "pointless. call me if you have any questions. "
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202805682-four.

  

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264. "there's a whole bunch of posters id say this to"
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>i don't know why you pick on ppl here. i have suspected it's
>b/c you hate yourself but that's dimestore pop psych 101.
>it's worthless. the truth is i don't know why you are so
>goddamned meanspirited around here. but only the rest of the
>class clown brigade appreciates it. the rest of us DO NOT AT
>ALL. and it's not b/c we can't laugh at ourselves. i laugh
>at myself daily. but i do it w/myself and my actual ppl. ppl
>i know and love and trust. ppl who i know have my best
>interest at heart. you are NOT one of those ppl. i don't
>trust you for shit. i don't love you for shit. you don't
>love me. i wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. you
>have not earned the ability to laugh w/me. you don't know how
>to do it and you have not shown yourself to be worthy of that.
> instead you get nothing except castigation b/c that's all i
>see you give around here. that's why i call you a fucking
>cancer. when you've been banned i'm glad. i wish it were
>made permanent. i don't know why they keep giving you chances
>- you haven't earned them. every time you're allowed back
>here you slip back into the same bullshit abusive posting. if
>i ran this place you'd have been gone a long long time ago.
>you and the rest of the brigade would have no quarter here. i
>don't know why they bother w/you. you're a menace. you offer
>nothing good. i will be glad when you're gone.

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241. "I havent called you out of your name"
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I said cunty men with shitty lives post here, you took that bait and made it about you

  

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243. "you've called me a coon. repeatedly."
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that's just off the top of my head.

but i wont complain.

i just need you all to understand the hypocrisy.

  

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245. "when the hate dont work they start telling lies"
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Im the last person you can successfully troll, I wont give you the satisfaction of angering me

If I called you a coon (which I dont believe) there's no hypocrisy because you're what people hate about logging on

again, you fucking with people for your own amusement and people calling you out of your name in return is not equivalent. you brought your shit show to them uninvited

  

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258. "The same people wishing you death are claiming they never"
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called you out your name. These fools are some old face liars...

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262. "he even loves calling me 'nigger'. i refuse to search, but i know it's t..."
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NIGGER.

with the ER.

what kind of shit is that?

it's bullshit.

  

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267. "you're deflecting to get more replies "
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you dont control people's responses to you

some people who troll and act shitty cant deal with the phrase "your wife" or "your daughter", that's when they tell the mods to step in. yet they dont care enough to simply not fuck with people who dont fuck with them

  

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269. "deflecting? what are you doing when you decide to call me nigger?"
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and how don't you remember you be calling me out my name?

i don't need to deflect. and i don't really want replies about this.

THIS IS NOT A POPULARITY CONTEST

i actually would love to talk about this offline.

what do you think?

feel free to give me a call on my cell.

202805682-four.

i'm in a uber right now - but i'll definerly pick up.

  

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283. "new sig."
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>i actually would love to talk about this offline.
>
>what do you think?
>
>feel free to give me a call on my cell.
>
>202805682-four.

  

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285. "exactly. and still, you're an ingrate."
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nonetheless, you're welcome for the fun.

  

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287. "Can I call too?"
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291. "don't be afraid. "
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