18. "Don't deny your feelings man. And there's always an asterisk*" In response to In response to 0 Thu Mar-21-19 08:29 AM by flipnile
*except in very rare cases, lol.
Seriously, don't lie to yourself about how you feel. it's YOUR relationship, and if you don't like something then it's a real issue for you.
Don't let these folks shame you, fam. It'l lead to you being emotionally stunted if you never explore your feelings and accept that it is valid for you to feel. You outlined WHY you feel the way you do pretty logically right here:
>this information has made me see the relationship differently. >I see our initial time as much less romantic. How meaningful is our >first kiss if she slept with some guy afterwards?
Questioning whether she's into you the same way that you're into her is very valid.
One major piece of advice that I have is that if you're not FEELING it, then DO NOT get into an exclusive relationship with her. You will be insecure until you come to grips with these feelings inside of you. Think about what YOU want from a relationship, and if you can't find that with her then you have to accept that and move on. Figure all of this out for yourself (don't go dumping your emotions onto her). That's what 'getting in touch with yourself' is about.
All the "you're insecure!" in the world won't change the feeling inside of you, even if you convince yourself of it logically.