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You gotta let it go. *Teddy P high pitch* LET IT GOOOO!
Vacation dix before yawl were serious...it basically doesn’t count.
Real talk mane, maybe she coulda kept the confession to herself! But as long as she doesn’t still have contact with the dude she bonged and she didn’t catch something and give it to you, there’s not much to this. I could kinda see it if this was some dude she works with and you have to see him at the holiday party every year knowing that he smacked it up, flipped it, and/or rubbed it down. That would be more of an oh,noooo! But even then, you’d probably need to put those feelings in a body bag.
‘Exclusive’ talks aren’t retroactive. And certainly not that early in the deal. You can’t say ‘hey, we’re just us, right?’, get a yes, and then get/stay broken up about something from before then.
You’d known her for 3 weeks. You first smashed sometime in week 2. She got at somebody else around week 4 or 5 when she was on vacation. Yawl had the talks week 6 or 7. It’s fine if she was your Whitley Gilbert but you weren’t her Dwayne after 3 weeks!
Let me be clear, it’s fine as long as you’re confident that yawl are good to go now and she’s not at risk to suck a rando dick on a cruise next month or something. I assume that’s not the case here! So....
Don’t let pride preclude your fall. A good relationship that’s worth taking seriously long term is not worth fucking off because of a week 4 loosie. You’re on week 109 or something now.
>Hi y'all, what do you think about couples confessing what >they got up two before being exclusive? > >I'm starting to get very serious with my girlfriend of about >two years. She said she didn't want any secrets and told me >she slept with someone while on a 10-day vacation she left on >3 weeks after we met and 10 days after we slept together for >the first time. We had the exclusivity talk about 2 weeks >after she returned from that vacation. > >This has me all fucked up cause I didn't really consider that >she might have got her freak on during that trip. I guess it >was just something I didn't really think about, a sort of >don't ask, don't tell thing. > >I definitely get the sense this is more my problem, based on >insecurities and some immaturity, but this information has >made me see the relationship differently. I see our initial >time as much less romantic. How meaningful is our first kiss >if she slept with some guy afterwards? I hate that I feel that >way, but can't stop it. > >I know we weren't a couple then, but I was crazy about this >girl from the start and didn't really want to pursue anything >with anyone else. I know that was my own choice. > >I just hate this ugly asterisk hanging over the relationship. >How canI get my head right and get over this? Any thoughts?
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