legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Wed Jun-01-22 01:18 PM
1. "The skeevy teacher from Glee is skeevy IRL" In response to Reply # 0
my wife has a former student who is a finalist on So You Think You Can Dance so we have been following the show and then this news drops.
Dude was texting a contestant inappropriately and that person showed producers the text and they fired him.
Never watched the show but apparently he wasn’t acting on the show.. smh.
Now I’m curious who it was..
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Thu Jun-02-22 12:35 PM
11. "my wife lost her father a month ago" In response to Reply # 9
both my parents are gone. She now feels what I have been feeling for the last 10 years and I hate it.
worst part is now our kids keep asking when we will pass away and shortly after it happened we put the kids to bed and then went to the garage to talk.. and out kids left the room and thought we passed away.
this shit is too real.
how are your kids handling it?
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
13. "RE: my wife lost her father a month ago" In response to Reply # 11
>both my parents are gone. She now feels what I have been >feeling for the last 10 years and I hate it. >
MAN. this is what I think about...she went through something I am going to have to go through. I've never seen a person hurt this much in my life.
>worst part is now our kids keep asking when we will pass away >and shortly after it happened we put the kids to bed and then >went to the garage to talk.. and out kids left the room >and thought we passed away. > >this shit is too real. > >how are your kids handling it?
The kids are 4.5 and 2.5..damn near 5 and 3 really. The older one was sad and he's really focused on dying, like "we gotta be careful about or else you die". They've been clingy as well but it's kinda subsiding. If mom walks out of the room the baby will scream for mommy.
I'm just fucked up thinking that the baby wont remember her.
Let me be 100. I've been a shitty son and it's convenient that MY parents live across the country. I rarely call them, and they don't visit as much as they could because I'm busy and find it stressful to negotiate them visiting (disrupts the flow of our lives). I'm simultaneously glad that they are here, but also stressing because I've wanted them involved in our lives more but the process of getting that going overwhelms me deeply.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Fri Jun-03-22 01:42 PM
17. "I still carry the guilt of my father not meeting his grandaughter" In response to Reply # 13
we planned to visit in June and he passed in March.
The day before he passed an elder told me to make sure she sees her elders when I was at a Museum.
You know what you need to do
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
15. "like, how my stepdad went…" In response to Reply # 2
he took a nap and never woke up. I’ve heard people say it’s the way to go and others not so much. I haven’t decided but I’m making peace with “things”.
22. "Bro, I'm so sorry, man..." In response to Reply # 2
condolences to you and your wife. That has to be absolutely crushing her, right now. My wife's mom was diagnosed with lung cancer 4 years ago. She's still hanging in there. She's lost a TON of weight and gets winded super easy, but she gets around the best she can. She knows it's going to kill her. My wife knows it's going to kill her. She's relaxed some, but she (my wife) is always terrified of that phone call.
...I'm from the era when A.I. was the answer, now they think ai is the answer - Marlon Craft
19. "Honestly, not looking forward to my new job :-/" In response to Reply # 0
I quit on 4/25. I start my new job next week and I feel so jaded by work. I don't even care if this new gig works out or not because a) I can survive and b) I can get another. I wish I didn't need to work at all though. This month and two weeks off has been fantastic!!
♥ Inescapably Me ♥
"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)
20. "I'm really glad that happened for you..." In response to Reply # 19
because you sure did want that time off. As much as I appreciate my job and the benefits and the money (the money is good, lol)...I'm just so annoyed by the idea of working. SO many changes. We now have to come in 2 days a week. They say its for better team building and collaboration. We collaborated just fucking fine over MS Teams chat and meetings. They're just angry that the company rolled out a new, hybrid work arrangement and want to watch us as much as possible. If it was up to our department heads, we would come in 5 days a week...but, they know if they tried that, people would be bouncing left and right.
...I'm from the era when A.I. was the answer, now they think ai is the answer - Marlon Craft
23. "Thank you! Being a black woman doing IT work, I get challenged " In response to Reply # 20
constantly. I am always having to prove myself over and over. People talk down to me too! I am mostly quiet when working, and the tone of my voice is what would be considered "soft-spoken". I think that is why people think they can just say whatever to me. Even when I prove them wrong and have the receipts and they KNOW I have the receipts. Doesn't matter. The level of disrespect is crazy! I don't know if that is because I am a black female or just because of my personality, because I know damn well they wouldn't be that way with some of my other black female coworkers (in other departments of course - I am usually alone in IT). They literally act like they are afraid of my other black female coworkers, but not me. They don't see anything wrong with talking to me like a dog.
♥ Inescapably Me ♥
"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Fri Jun-03-22 02:07 PM
21. "a lot of friends back home post about their haters and enemies on FB" In response to Reply # 0
like this is the only type of motivation they can think of.. lol.
Yall aint super hero’s.
You dont have enemies.. you just talk too damn much.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
26. "Some small animal (probably a cat) keeps pooping in my outdoor basement ..." In response to Reply # 0
stairwell. It’s two small turds but I am dreading going out there to clean it up (again). I don’t have any pets, and one of the main reasons why I don’t want pets is because I don’t want to clean up poop that comes from other living things (I also don’t have kids). I realize this is one of the things that comes along with homeownership but I really wish that I had somebody else around to do this particular thing. I fixed the toilet last week, I can deal with bugs, I’ll kill spiders … I can address most things on my own. I am also very okay with being single most of the time. But I feel most lonely when something like this comes up because this is the one thing that I just really DO NOT DO. Every body has some thing like that, and this mine, but I don’t have nobody else to ask. I gotta figure out some way to keep it from occurring again.
Oh god! I wish I had a hazmat suit. I am sitting here planning in my head “okay garden gloves, then latex gloves on those, then put on an apron and a coat and something to cover your hair.”
ughhhhhhhhh
I will never understand how people walk around with dogs and little bags of poop. I mean, I am glad they clean up after their pets but … hooooooow? How do people do this willingly? And daily? Ugh!
♥ Inescapably Me ♥
"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)
27. "as a dog owner, picking up poop never ceases to suck." In response to Reply # 26
I always to try to make sure my route has multiple cans to throw it away. don't want to carry it forever.
had a lady thank me for picking it up last weekend. guess she passed me as I was playing janitor for the dog and saw me on her way back. I was surprised and appreciative, but it's also a reminder that so many folks don't pick up after the pups.
lastly, I'd rather pick up dog poop than clean a poopy diaper. that's way worse
30. "We had a serious cat problem…." In response to Reply # 26
like 3 neighborhood cats were constantly on our porch. They weren’t pooping, but they would constantly set off the doorbell camera, alerting our phones of the motion. I did a little research and end up making a concoction with oranges and lemons in a spray bottle and spraying the porch with it. They hated it!!! One application kept them away for a couple of months.
...I'm from the era when A.I. was the answer, now they think ai is the answer - Marlon Craft
34. "Oh god! I been sitting here googling poop identification. Lawd!!!!" In response to Reply # 33
I need a drink - a strong drink. This is the worst. It took me hours to build up the courage to clean it yesterday. Now I am going to be trying to identify it for hours today.
♥ Inescapably Me ♥
"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)
37. "Less than a week and there is another turd. The cayenne pepper I put" In response to Reply # 26
down is still there!! So I think I need to buy this imitation fox urine stuff. Oh brother! I aint cleaning shit up today (pun intended). I may as well wait until I get this stuff (I am ordering it from Amazon). I am start to lean more towards a Opossum being the offender now.
♥ Inescapably Me ♥
"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Wed Jun-08-22 03:26 PM
36. "Had my first and last remote work day with an empty house" In response to Reply # 0
it was awesome
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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