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>I am not saying that women should work from the background >in "The Movement". I'm talking about in RELATING to them, in >relationships.
Ok that makes things clearer.
>Clearly, more women need to be @ the table >when there is coalition-building, and strategizing going on. >In relationships w/ them though, what purpose does it serve >to go toe-to-toe w/ them, in a verbal contest?
Like I said before it is not based on competition.
>This post is a perfect example. This LionelZeus, say he is a Brothah(I'm His point-of-view on this issue is >REALLY skewed. Just like the Brothah in the workshop I >attended, w/ his 3 or 4 girlfriends, whom he admittedly >cheats on. Should I argue back-and-forth w/ these >'Brothahs', until they agree w/ me? No. I can express my >pov, and keep moving.
That has nothing to do with womanhood. It just makes sense to do that.
>Or, I can live by example, and let >them sit back, and notice.
Once again that can apply to relations with anybody
>THAT is exertion of a quiet >power. I learned how much this effects Brothahs from, yep, >you guessedit: a BROTHAH.
>My sister's friend was like, >"WHATEVER we do, we do to get Sistah's attention. Brothahs >might not even KNOW why they do alot of the things they do, >but it ultimately is to get the attention of the >Sistahs-INCLUDING when we date/marry white. So to get you >all's attention, we have to constantly watch you, to >determine your reaction to what we do. "
Interesting. But not the view of all brothers.
>I learned from that >exchange, that if that is indeed true, Sistahs are @ a >vantage point where they can educate, revolutionize, or >whatever you want to call it, by simply BEING, and letting >the Brothahs learn by our example.
True. That is a way.
>Don't we do that already? Do you think my mother WANTED to >work 3 jobs to support her family? OBVIOUSLY this was an >adjustment she had to make in response to some areas where >my father was not measuring up. In fact, pretty much all of >my friends from two parent homes had mothers working >multiple jobs.
>Don't you think that mothers on the plantation had to make >some kind of ADJUSTMENTS in raising their children alone >once their husbands were sold away? >The answer to your question is yes. We already do it anyway. >I am not sure that you realize that.
And do you suppose that will happen to you? What did your mother work so hard for? SO that you can work 3 jobs and take care of the kids too? SHOULD it happen to you? Would the story have been different if children were not around?
Oh but I do realize that. I have a mother too. A father as well. I notice the dynamic of their and other family members relationships. I feel that my mother would not WANT me to be in hr position of taking care of more than her load of the family business. If I were to get married it would be to a man in which I would not have to over compensate for. There is compromise and compensation in every relationship. But I think that we are getting off of the point here.
My main point: My role as a woman will be defined by me and not by anyone's sexist theories, ideas, notions, expectations, etc.
>Not OVERcompensate. Just compensate. This is for the sake of >achieving balance. Just because some of them aren't doing >what THEY need to do, does not mean we need to go on the >warpath with them, and add to the problems.
Never ever said that. You are making a lot of assumptions about where i am coming from. If you look at past responses I agreed wiht you when it came it cooperation. But not when it came to defining a women's role.
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