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>>Cheating on your wife most certainly IS a matter for the >>community, for a union between man and woman, is the >>foundation for the start of a family(children), and families >>collectively are what make up our community. That is why >>when a Sistah's man 'steps out' she: a.) turns to her mother >>for support b.) turns to her Sistah-friends for advice, or >>vice-versa. It's a COMMUNITY issue anytime a home becomes >>broken, and cheating puts a family in danger of ending up >>broken. That is ALSO why in African-American marriage >>ceremonies, the minister will often speak to the church >>before pronouncing the couple man and wife, and advise them >>that there is a collective responsibility to keep this union >>in tact. I have seen that in many African-American wedding >>ceremonies. Why? Because a union of two is NOT just between >>the two people. It's between their families. It's between >>their respective neighborhoods. It's a matter for the whole >>community! I don't know how whitefolks do it. For US though, >>marriage CLEARLY is understood to be a matter for the >>community. That is why women for YEARS have written into >>Essence magazine appealing to other Sistahs to STOP sleeping >>with married men. If the men won't live up to a certain >>standard, according to married Sistahs, they appeal to the >>women with whom the husbands try to cheat to have the >>courage and discipline to say 'No'. What is that other than >>an appeal from married Sistahs to the Black community, for >>assistance in keeping marriage, and it's sacredness, in >>tact? > >That nice that you think that way. But in the real world you >could get killed messing around in someones marital affairs. >Understand if I cheat on my wife yo can tell me its not a >good thing to do. But uh if you were to tell my wife hey >your husband is cheating you might catch a bullet in the >ass. Its cool to look after the kids in the neighborhood and >steer them the right way. As far as what to grown people do >you gotta stay outta that. >Well Like ive stated before that church, spiritual, or >islamic laws dont mean ANYTHING to me. I dont believe in it >so you talking to the wrong brother about church.
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