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>Cheating on your wife most certainly IS a matter for the >community, for a union between man and woman, is the >foundation for the start of a family(children), and families >collectively are what make up our community. That is why >when a Sistah's man 'steps out' she: a.) turns to her mother >for support b.) turns to her Sistah-friends for advice, or >vice-versa. It's a COMMUNITY issue anytime a home becomes >broken, and cheating puts a family in danger of ending up >broken. That is ALSO why in African-American marriage >ceremonies, the minister will often speak to the church >before pronouncing the couple man and wife, and advise them >that there is a collective responsibility to keep this union >in tact. I have seen that in many African-American wedding >ceremonies. Why? Because a union of two is NOT just between >the two people. It's between their families. It's between >their respective neighborhoods. It's a matter for the whole >community! I don't know how whitefolks do it. For US though, >marriage CLEARLY is understood to be a matter for the >community. That is why women for YEARS have written into >Essence magazine appealing to other Sistahs to STOP sleeping >with married men. If the men won't live up to a certain >standard, according to married Sistahs, they appeal to the >women with whom the husbands try to cheat to have the >courage and discipline to say 'No'. What is that other than >an appeal from married Sistahs to the Black community, for >assistance in keeping marriage, and it's sacredness, in >tact?
That nice that you think that way. But in the real world you could get killed messing around in someones marital affairs. Understand if I cheat on my wife yo can tell me its not a good thing to do. But uh if you were to tell my wife hey your husband is cheating you might catch a bullet in the ass. Its cool to look after the kids in the neighborhood and steer them the right way. As far as what to grown people do you gotta stay outta that. Well Like ive stated before that church, spiritual, or islamic laws dont mean ANYTHING to me. I dont believe in it so you talking to the wrong brother about church.
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