Cheating on your wife most certainly IS a matter for the community, for a union between man and woman, is the foundation for the start of a family(children), and families collectively are what make up our community. That is why when a Sistah's man 'steps out' she: a.) turns to her mother for support b.) turns to her Sistah-friends for advice, or vice-versa. It's a COMMUNITY issue anytime a home becomes broken, and cheating puts a family in danger of ending up broken. That is ALSO why in African-American marriage ceremonies, the minister will often speak to the church before pronouncing the couple man and wife, and advise them that there is a collective responsibility to keep this union in tact. I have seen that in many African-American wedding ceremonies. Why? Because a union of two is NOT just between the two people. It's between their families. It's between their respective neighborhoods. It's a matter for the whole community! I don't know how whitefolks do it. For US though, marriage CLEARLY is understood to be a matter for the community. That is why women for YEARS have written into Essence magazine appealing to other Sistahs to STOP sleeping with married men. If the men won't live up to a certain standard, according to married Sistahs, they appeal to the women with whom the husbands try to cheat to have the courage and discipline to say 'No'. What is that other than an appeal from married Sistahs to the Black community, for assistance in keeping marriage, and it's sacredness, in tact?
>> if I cheat on my wife thats >between me and my wife. It has nothing to do with the rest >of the black community.
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