13. "you were googling images of him last week." In response to Reply # 12
you talk about him constantly, so i would imagine you dwell on it a bit. you say you're trying to move on or whatever, but you remain in contact and he stays on your mind.
it just seems like you haven't moved on, to me. i'm rooting for you to because i think you really need to. but that's my limited, outside perspective. i can't really say for sure where you're at with this, only what's presented to me/us here.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79620 posts
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22. "Yeah. You know this is will prolly happen" In response to Reply # 20
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
24. "I don't know a lot about your situation" In response to Reply # 0
but from what you've said I honestly think it's too soon to meet up with him if either of you have no intention of getting back together.
I know from my own experience how hard it is when you're still grieving the relationship, it really is like going through a bereavement. I was with my ex-husband even longer than you were with your partner. I'm over the worst of it, but there is a piece of my heart that will always care about him - and he is the father of my children. I don't think I will ever fully get over it, but I'm now at a stage where I can just be friendly with him and be glad that he is happy with his new wife.
I think if you meet up with him it will delay the healing process. Tempting as it could be, I feel it would be in your best interests to stay away, at least for now. Time is the great healer as they say, and with time things do get easier to cope with.
39. "Bruh... that's horrendous advice lol" In response to Reply # 37
If she’s struggling to hold her ground and say no, you’re basically suggesting she put herself in a position where he gets to run game in person while putting her in a position to have to stand her ground against much more significant pressure than a text.
38. "If you don't want to get mixed up again, DON'T." In response to Reply # 0
Don’t even respond.
This seems like one of those things where you’re compelled to do something that isn’t in your own best interest.
I’m not saying that it will be easy or anything but whenever you’re tempted toward something that you don’t actually want… that’s a time you really need to dig your heels and stay disciplined. Hopefully you make the right/wise choice.
that's where the answer lies u want his soul to burn slow and die missing u? u want to see him when he's in town? or something in between? to me, it depends what's ur ultimate goal?
----------------------------------- we aint the two and i aint the one- lyte
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
46. "to be left alone..." In response to Reply # 40
he's a relentless bastard...always been. Our differences are philosophical, he's a logical thinker I'm more emotional so we could never see eye to eye on matters related to the heart. I'm relentless in that sense. For example, he wants to remain friends...I don't because I don't believe people can go back to being friends once you loved them. He switched up his style and it broke my heart {that's the second time} I've accepted my responsibility but I'd never been able to forgive his manipulation.
Im not a woman built for friends with benefits relationships. Id rather go.
47. "cool, i kinda thougth it was probably like this." In response to Reply # 46
have you told him what you just wrote? if you have, he should respect your wishes and move along. if you haven't, perhaps you should and maybe then he'll leave you alone.
and there's really not much point of remaining friends now, especially since yall are several states apart. tell him to lose your number.
"well...the situation helped make the decision easier.."
my son been trying for years to get me down here for years and it became harder to see the children leave. I had just quit a job, tired of him so the timing was right...
51. "well...the situation helped make the decision easier.." In response to Reply # 49
my son been trying for years to get me down here for years and it became harder to see the children leave. I had just quit a job, tired of him so the timing was right...
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