he text, talking about he'll be in town...
we haven't talked in months and I'm just getting myself together. I don't wanna get mixed up again...

how should I respond?
men...
ladies?

y'all got me?

of all the players, I expected YOU to know, lol

do whatcha do, trin. you can't seem to let this one go, so i can't call it.

that I can't let it go...
I'm not saying it's the case but...go on...speak freely :-)

you talk about him constantly, so i would imagine you dwell on it a bit. you say you're trying to move on or whatever, but you remain in contact and he stays on your mind.

it just seems like you haven't moved on, to me. i'm rooting for you to because i think you really need to. but that's my limited, outside perspective. i can't really say for sure where you're at with this, only what's presented to me/us here.

you said I haven't and gave examples of how I haven't but I'm asking why do you think that is...

actual reasons to why you haven't, if true, i do not know.

we googlin' images.

sounds like #DTB.

leave it alone.

go read ya Bible.

>I don't wanna get mixed up again...

but are you gone (not) do it?

Cut the crap! Lol

We spent the past 20 years together - Im sure I'm more than a piece of ass.

flip, put yourself in my place...

you
mean
to
tell
me
you're gonna ignore it?

>We spent the past 20 years together

You might as well find out them. How long has the communication gap been, and why?

with a note saying:

"Nah."

nm

with him and feel guilty later.

but from what you've said I honestly think it's too soon to meet up with him if either of you have no intention of getting back together.

I know from my own experience how hard it is when you're still grieving the relationship, it really is like going through a bereavement. I was with my ex-husband even longer than you were with your partner. I'm over the worst of it, but there is a piece of my heart that will always care about him - and he is the father of my children. I don't think I will ever fully get over it, but I'm now at a stage where I can just be friendly with him and be glad that he is happy with his new wife.

I think if you meet up with him it will delay the healing process. Tempting as it could be, I feel it would be in your best interests to stay away, at least for now. Time is the great healer as they say, and with time things do get easier to cope with.

I don't intend too. :-)

If you ever feel like talking about it just inbox me :)

I'm not sure how to interpret it...

help 😔

you want him to stop, or you want to communicate?

and if he continues contacting you, ignore.

otherwise, yall will hang out and hook up.

but you CAINT so don't even THINK aboooout

steppin' in the muthafuckin HOUUUUUUUUSE.

I don't have a relevant response.

thanks.

get it popping and when he leave...unthaw the heart and pick up your brain after you take a shower

.
.

Wake up, Pray! Go to work, Pray! Go home, Pray! Love, Pray! Eat, Pray! Live, Pray!

Before you know it you've sleepfucked your way to 2018 and you're having to break up again for the same reasons.

Otherwise ignoring him is rude and uncalled for.

Get him to take you to dinner. And order from the "We're Fucking Tonight" side of the menu, but then shut him down later that night.

If she’s struggling to hold her ground and say no, you’re basically suggesting she put herself in a position where he gets to run game in person while putting her in a position to have to stand her ground against much more significant pressure than a text.

>Get him to take you to dinner. And order from the "We're
>Fucking Tonight" side of the menu, but then shut him down
>later that night.

Don’t even respond.

This seems like one of those things where you’re compelled to do something that isn’t in your own best interest.

I’m not saying that it will be easy or anything but whenever you’re tempted toward something that you don’t actually want… that’s a time you really need to dig your heels and stay disciplined.
Hopefully you make the right/wise choice.

that's where the answer lies
u want his soul to burn slow and die missing u?
u want to see him when he's in town?
or something in between?
to me, it depends
what's ur ultimate goal?

And I get it. Matters of the heart can be complicated.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AUfQUzPjDuI

he's a relentless bastard...always been. Our differences are philosophical, he's a logical thinker I'm more emotional so we could never see eye to eye on matters related to the heart. I'm relentless in that sense. For example, he wants to remain friends...I don't because I don't believe people can go back to being friends once you loved them. He switched up his style and it broke my heart {that's the second time} I've accepted my responsibility but I'd never been able to forgive his manipulation.

Im not a woman built for friends with benefits relationships. Id rather go.

I love deeply.

peace Bonaime :-)

have you told him what you just wrote? if you have, he should respect your wishes and move along. if you haven't, perhaps you should and maybe then he'll leave you alone.

and there's really not much point of remaining friends now, especially since yall are several states apart. tell him to lose your number.

and stop googling him ;-)

hence the relocation.

does my question to you above make sense now?

you moved to get away from him ?

my son been trying for years to get me down here for years and it became harder to see the children leave. I had just quit a job, tired of him so the timing was right...

in that case I will take back my previous advice to lay down, and say just end it.

my son been trying for years to get me down here for years and it became harder to see the children leave. I had just quit a job, tired of him so the timing was right...

but you have been what for the past five years?

and does he know that you have no desire to remain friends?

man, you ain't listening right 😂

ya gotta cut him off if he's not getting the message. just ignore his shit, he'll stop.

and stop googling him ;-)

thanks for caring :-)

yes lie if you have to just

moveon.org

if your son was at home..

Crying all alone..

On the bedroom floor

Cause he's hungry

and the only way to feed him is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money?

And his daddy's gone somewhere smokin' rock now

In and out of lock down

I ain't got a job now

So for you this is just a good time

But for me

this is what I call life...


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