"I want to get in shape but will they still want me??"
So I was briefly mentioning to Mahogany this weekend that I want to lose weight and be healthy but I'm not going to lie and say part of me being unhealthy has been the simple fact that *I* feel I look better with a little weight on me.
I LIKE being thick.
It just comes with shit I don't like. Like being fatigued doing stupid things like going up the stairs at the train station, always being two burgers away from being really big, and buying clothes!
My weight has always been up and down. When I got down to my "weight loss goal" of 150lbs ((which is still well above what my doctor says I should be)) a few years ago EVERYONE said I'd lost too much weight and basically called me lil Luther. I mean I did look a little like Jennifer Hudson, and she looks good but you know what I mean.
Anyway, I started in February, and the goal was to just get fit! I didn't set a goal other than saying I wanted a flatter stomach and to get rid of my back fat. I did weigh myself just because I still wanted that number and so I could monitor something. So in the beginning of Feb I was at 185lbs, and I'm currently at 174lbs...
Not bad but I can already see I'm losing my booty... Oh lord... This is totally vain I know but I don't want to lose my ass! I have been squatting my ass off thinking it would just make it lift and get tighter but I think it's worked against me. ;-(
When I lived down south I swear it's GOT to be something in the water because I was able to be thin and still have my ass. My stomach used to be FLAT but I still had a great shape.
What to do ya'll??? I don't want to lose my shape! I workout four times a week and I haven't gone full blown diet but I have made major changes in my overall diet. How do I lose the weight I WANT to lose but keep what weight that I love?
Let me have my little shallow moment... I know my health is more important. I want to live long, I want to be fit, I want to have my flat tummy...
I'm thinking maybe I'll just lose the weight... then get my booty done. lol
33. "I go to the gym lol " In response to Reply # 30
In my barre class I'm lifting and squatting with 50lbs but it's different than when I''m using free weights to do lunges and squats hanging by my side. In the barre class it's over my head and across the small of my neck. Kind of hard to explain. But it feels different for me.
Some times I use the 25lb body bar to do leg raises to carve out my thighs and my butt too. Right now I can't imagine using a heavier bar.
37. "you'll be surprised what you'll be able to do in time" In response to Reply # 33
your body will adjust and what you're doing now will seem easy to you after while. You're eventually going to move to the bar on your back for squats more exclusively as you outgrow the smaller dumbbells.
38. "Get a trainer or a pro progam plenty of them free on bodybuilding.com" In response to Reply # 33
How you feel about you is what matters most. You will attract a differnt kind of guy.
Thick may be good now, but gravity...
I like being fit. I lost a lot of sloppy uneccessary ass (yes some ass can be too much) now its smaller (all of me is smaller) but way better than the one I had bf.
>I don't have a crazy video vixen ass. I have a REAL ass. My >ass is big enough to notice but not big enough to be >"battling" other asses. lol > >Nevertheless, I don't want to lose it!!!! **cries**
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6. "try some hill sprints" In response to Reply # 0
and jumping lunges.
OR maybe work out less but focus more on diet.
for me, its all about keeping a flat stomach. i find i can eat whatever i want for the most part and keep my tummy flat as long as i taper my carbs off in the pm.
17. "They calling you lil Luther as a joke but remember this" In response to Reply # 0
.... Big Lutha is dead. Leave it to black folks to normalize being over weight as cute and healthy as sickly. Tell the, folks to shut their mouths. ___________________________________________________________
22. "^^^truth. black folk try to shame you for getting fit a lot of times" In response to Reply # 17
I'm 6'1 240, use to be 350 some years ago. But I've had black folk (some family members who are chunky) in particular tell me I work out too much whereas the white folk tell me to do what makes you feel and look healthier. I'll go out and get water all the time with my meals and I got some of my folk say "I don't see how you can drink water like that". smh. I pay it no mind really cuz now I live a bodybuilder type lifestyle and like it. I love making them gains. lol
35. "I still hate the gym though lol" In response to Reply # 22
I have been able to do 4 days a week without crying but I don't want to live in the gym. I just want to be fit!! Be able to do physical activities without fatigue and be healthy.
I'm not going to lie though... I was super excited to see my second ab coming through!! I wasn't even aiming for abs!
39. "lol see the results is what draws you in" In response to Reply # 35
>I have been able to do 4 days a week without crying but I >don't want to live in the gym. I just want to be fit!! Be able >to do physical activities without fatigue and be healthy. > >I'm not going to lie though... I was super excited to see my >second ab coming through!! I wasn't even aiming for abs!
I was the same way. I use to work out a couple times a week and was like ehhh. But when I started to see little results here and there I started working out with my buddies who are trainers and then got hooked. Now I work out 6 days a week targeting different muscle groups each day so that I hit each muscle group twice a week. I spend more money on protein powder now each month than I do going out lol.
41. "People in better shape than me tell me it's impossible w/out surgery/gen..." In response to Reply # 0
Congrats on the more active/healthier lifestyle tho, it's really hard to start & keep it up. LoL, good luck & I hope you end up w/ the butt you desire!!
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56. "I'm currently doing deadlifts... They still have an effect on my knee" In response to Reply # 49
But definitely not as much as the rest of my routine. I increased my weight last night by 5lbs, not going to lie I wanted to take that shit off but I kept it. Lol
61. "the more you stay at it the better it will get." In response to Reply # 56
I had 4 knee surgeries after a football injury so my knees are all but shot. BUT deadlifts have been great compared to the squats. I am about to add squats back, as well as weighted step ups, but deadlifts have been a lifesaver. I don't even do them on leg day, but on "core" day.
But in regards to "booty" the more weight you add to the bar (gradually) should end up retaining the shape you want.
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59. "shit, i'm trying to get UP to 185 lol" In response to Reply # 0 Tue Apr-21-15 08:57 AM by MiracleRic
i mean, i'm moderately slammable but got enough muscle to deter most that feel froggy...
i've been 185 before and that was a lot of muscle mass...
but if you're over 5'6...it's probably still well distributed
but yea...booty is a build and destroy type of thing...u might start off burning some of that excess booty but as your glutes, hams, and quads develop...they come back with a lil bit more shape too
everyone always shouts out squats but i feel like they grow your quads more than your posterior chain and most people have weak posterior chains...so i'd do more deadlifts, lunges (non-jumping since you mentioned your knees), glute ham raises (work up to them, i can barely do them), glute bridges...this will mostly tone it at first but once u start increasing weight...u might surprise yourself with your new booty
also, working on that core makes just about any booty look better...so lots of compound exercises
edit: oh, and apparently i missed the booty...can i be provided with a late pass?
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62. "If "they" don't want you, someone else will." In response to Reply # 0
I get it though, I've kinda been through this before. I'm a dude so it isn't completely the same, but I get it. The reality is that it may change the type of people you attract. But why assume that's a bad thing? You'll be healthier and likely happier if you lost the weight.
69. "there's a lady with a similar screen name to yours" In response to Reply # 68
that posted a video back in the day(maybe a couple of years ago) where I believe she was deadlifting 275. Which is respectable but attainable for most women on a good program.
73. "focus on those stairs" In response to Reply # 0
i'm dead up the things your body is capable or incapable of doing only gets worse from here
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