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SimplyHannah
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"Football player allegedly murders chick after finding out she was a man."


  

          

http://t.co/8c9aE8Jv1X

Either the story is poorly written or im not understanding correctly. The story states that judging from the text messages it was clear that they had relations. Then towards the end the story states that the suspects dad claims that he was supposed to meet up with the victim for a sexual favor until he discovered that she was a man.

Somebody lying. If it was clear from the text messages that they had, had relations before then how they " meet up " and all of a sudden he found out she was a man. Sounds more like the guy was DL imo and didn't want his secret out.

Do you think transgender ppl should disclose that they've had gender reassignment surgery to prospective partners?

  

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Ain't no way he saw the pics and thought she was born a woman
Feb 10th 2015
1
it looks like a quarter of the build-a-babes on instagram.
Feb 10th 2015
5
You've obviously never been to north east Texas
Feb 10th 2015
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or every corner of Tennessee
Feb 10th 2015
8
If the story wasnt about her being born male, then I wouldn't have known
Feb 10th 2015
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That's pretty easy to say after the fact.
Feb 10th 2015
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Te'o'd
Feb 10th 2015
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i get it.
Feb 10th 2015
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Hmmm. What's your rationale?
Feb 10th 2015
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cases like this, for starters.
Feb 10th 2015
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      in this case they were already intimate
Feb 10th 2015
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      RE: in this case they were already intimate
Feb 10th 2015
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           i'm not saying that.
Feb 10th 2015
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                that sounds like trouble...
Feb 10th 2015
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                what if there's only a hit and quit it?
Feb 10th 2015
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                     and what if its not?
Feb 10th 2015
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                          Keep reading, fool.
Feb 10th 2015
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                               likewise. so which reply did u address it
Feb 10th 2015
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                                    i'm not pressed to discuss anything w/you.
Feb 10th 2015
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                                         lol grow up.
Feb 10th 2015
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                                              bye.
Feb 10th 2015
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                                                   toodlez
Feb 10th 2015
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                RE: i'm not saying that.
Feb 10th 2015
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                *shrugs*
Feb 10th 2015
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                     Yeah, I get that.
Feb 10th 2015
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                          lol...what does that even mean?
Feb 10th 2015
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                               stop fucking random hoes*
Feb 10th 2015
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                               STOP SLUT-SHAMING ME!
Feb 11th 2015
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                               lol, great response
Feb 11th 2015
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                               LULZies
Feb 11th 2015
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                               or transwonen should date people they know are comfortable with dating
Feb 11th 2015
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                               That's an option too
Feb 11th 2015
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                               same can be said about the trans individual
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                                    Sure
Feb 11th 2015
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                               He just came in here looking for Case One
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                                    Alright. My bad
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                This is kind of messed up
Feb 10th 2015
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                kind of ?
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                it doesn't have to be.
Feb 10th 2015
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                lolz
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                     yup. i don't.
Feb 10th 2015
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      RE: cases like this, for starters.
Feb 10th 2015
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      talking to transfolks made me aware of it.
Feb 10th 2015
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           But if the threat of violence is there from disclosure at first interact...
Feb 10th 2015
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                it depends.
Feb 10th 2015
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                yea, that does seem odd
Feb 11th 2015
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      you dont think it's selfish of them to withhold that type of info?
Feb 10th 2015
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           i think their self-preservation is more important.
Feb 10th 2015
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Ahh okay, makes sense
Feb 10th 2015
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This is awful
Feb 10th 2015
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      alot of dating is an illusion period
Feb 10th 2015
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with the right attorney, he could get off.
Feb 10th 2015
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lol he should go to jail.
Feb 10th 2015
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TEXAS
Feb 10th 2015
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      enough said.
Feb 10th 2015
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      Yup. Florida's cousin
Feb 11th 2015
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Crime of passion. 10 yrs
Feb 10th 2015
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      If that... Likely time served and 2-5 years probation.
Feb 10th 2015
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This is so sad all the way around. 1 life ended, the other one destroyed...
Feb 10th 2015
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you don't want your secret out, so you commit murder?????
Feb 10th 2015
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This is a thing,
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do transgender women get the 'lubrication' from surgery?
Feb 10th 2015
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^ one reason I think it may be wise to withhold the disclosure for a bit...
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      i would never ask that question
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           They use lube.
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Chanson
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1. "Ain't no way he saw the pics and thought she was born a woman"
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mind
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matter

  

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5. "it looks like a quarter of the build-a-babes on instagram."
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hell a lot of this paint on, glue on, snap on shit makes these girls look this way.

  

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7. "You've obviously never been to north east Texas"
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8. "or every corner of Tennessee"
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15. "If the story wasnt about her being born male, then I wouldn't have known"
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35. "That's pretty easy to say after the fact. "
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But nah, I don't agree.

  

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2. "Te'o'd"
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3. "i get it."
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>http://t.co/8c9aE8Jv1X
>
>Either the story is poorly written or im not understanding
>correctly. The story states that judging from the text
>messages it was clear that they had relations.

some transfolks are wonderfully skilled at the art of illusion. the illusion can be maintained even in intimate settings - even throughout sexual relations.

'relations' could mean Underwood (the deceased) performed oral sex on Champion. or that Underwood had receptive anal sex w/Champion. it could also mean that Underwood had receptive vaginal sex w/Champion after having had sexual reassignment surgery. if any of those occurred it's possible that Champion wouldn't know that Underwood was a transwoman.


Then towards
>the end the story states that the suspects dad claims that he
>was supposed to meet up with the victim for a sexual favor
>until he discovered that she was a man.

'meeting up for a sexual favor' could mean anything.

>Somebody lying. If it was clear from the text messages that
>they had, had relations before then how they " meet up " and
>all of a sudden he found out she was a man.

someone could've told Champion and when he confronted Underwood w/the info he didn't like what he heard from her and he snapped.

Sounds more like
>the guy was DL imo and didn't want his secret out.

not necessarily.

>Do you think transgender ppl should disclose that they've had
>gender reassignment surgery to prospective partners?

not necessarily. especially not early on.

fuck you.

  

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4. "Hmmm. What's your rationale?"
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>>Do you think transgender ppl should disclose that they've
>had
>>gender reassignment surgery to prospective partners?
>
>not necessarily. especially not early on.

  

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6. "cases like this, for starters."
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the risk of harm including great bodily injury and possibly death is very real for transfolks. and police and prosecutors in most of the country aren't particularly sympathetic to trans as victims. so they're kinda out there on their own.

but that's just the start. if the info is revealed w/o the proper context having been wrapped around it the potential budding relationship (sexual, romantic, platonic, i dunno) could be compromised unnecessarily.

it all depends on the circumstances where the transperson has met __. if they met under circumstances that indicate __ is sympathetic to trans issues and/or won't be turned off then i think it's a good idea to disclose early on. disclose and minimize and move on. if the circumstances make one unsure about the level of sympathy or interest in trans issues then it's a good idea to wait a little longer before the disclosure.

fuck you.

  

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9. "in this case they were already intimate"
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so u don't think that should be revealed before intimacy?

sorry but that's some dirtbag shyt

doesn't justify being murdered

but dirtbaggy and deceitful none the less






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13. "RE: in this case they were already intimate"
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I think he's saying somewhere between meeting transgender and the first blow job, they should tell you.

  

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16. "i'm not saying that."
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i don't think they necessarily need to disclose before being physically intimate.

fuck you.

  

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17. "that sounds like trouble..."
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21. "what if there's only a hit and quit it?"
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no need for a disclosure there.

fuck you.

  

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45. "and what if its not? "
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whats ur point?

Theres plenty of dating sites that cater to folk in that life nowadays

so I ain't buyin the whole self preservation bs

u dont have to date people who may or not be homophobic murderers nowadays

try again


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47. "Keep reading, fool."
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Or don't.

fuck you.

  

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48. "likewise. so which reply did u address it"
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Because I really dont care for reading through all ur drabble anyway

thx.


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49. "i'm not pressed to discuss anything w/you."
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if you see it cool. if not *shrugs*.

fuck you.

  

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50. "lol grow up."
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too gotdamb old to be e-pouting



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51. "bye."
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fuck you.

  

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52. "toodlez"
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but im banned tho.
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18. "RE: i'm not saying that."
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Ok now you're pushing it.

Thats puts them in harm's way.

The average non-incarcerated hetero male is not gonna take it so well if he finds out after the fact that he's been intimate with a woman that was once a boy. Unless he's already open to the idea, It's definitely not one of those good surprises.

  

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23. "*shrugs*"
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again, what if there's only a hit and quit it blow job? the 2 never see each other again. they both leave the situation satisfied.

let's assume for the sake of this discussion that if the transperson had disclosed the situation would've blown up.

what good was the disclosure? it would've kept both parties from getting what they wanted out of the situation.

again: i don't advocate for a necessary disclosure before intimate relations. it varies.

fuck you.

  

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32. "Yeah, I get that."
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>again, what if there's only a hit and quit it blow job? the
>2 never see each other again. they both leave the situation
>satisfied.
>
>let's assume for the sake of this discussion that if the
>transperson had disclosed the situation would've blown up.
>
>what good was the disclosure? it would've kept both parties
>from getting what they wanted out of the situation.
>
>again: i don't advocate for a necessary disclosure before
>intimate relations. it varies.

If that sort of thing really matters to a heterosexual man, how about being really careful about who you sleep with?

Just IMO though.

  

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53. "lol...what does that even mean?"
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>If that sort of thing really matters to a heterosexual man,
>how about being really careful about who you sleep with?

don't PC it up too much fam to the point it takes out of the realm of reality. you know it matters to most hetero men.

what does this being careful entail? asking every woman we meet if they had ever biologically been a boy or man? in case down the line we ended up having some type of sexual contact with them?


  

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54. "stop fucking random hoes*"
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Tue Feb-10-15 10:34 PM by SoWhat

  

          

and then acting brand new when you find out something shocking about them after having fucked them* w/o vetting them first via the dating process.

basically.

*...we were discussing a hit and quit it blow job after i'd proposed that i'm fine w/a transwoman not disclosing her trans status to a guy before a hit it and quit it b-j. if a dude doesn't want to take the risk of getting a HIQI BJ from a transwoman who doesn't disclose then maybe he shouldn't have HIQI BJ's. the analysis extends to casual sex w/randoms.

fuck you.

  

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57. "STOP SLUT-SHAMING ME!"
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I won't stand for it.

  

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60. "lol, great response"
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Let me sport my Air Hyperbole 2010s in peace. (c) ansomble

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62. "LULZies"
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fuck you.

  

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58. "or transwonen should date people they know are comfortable with dating"
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Transwomen. There are dating sites for it and meet ups that are held. That way there is no deception and they have an increased chance of meeting someone that accepts and is into them.

  

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59. "That's an option too"
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fuck you.

  

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64. "same can be said about the trans individual"
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don't be blowing random dudes that might kill if they found out the truth after the fact.

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

  

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65. "Sure"
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fuck you.

  

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55. "He just came in here looking for Case One"
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56. "Alright. My bad"
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19. "This is kind of messed up "
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22. " kind of ?"
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24. "it doesn't have to be."
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it all depends on too many factors for me to say i think all transppl should disclose every time before they engage in sex w/a new partner.

fuck you.

  

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28. "lolz"
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i don't think they necessarily need to disclose before being physically intimate

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

  

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29. "yup. i don't."
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fuck you.

  

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10. "RE: cases like this, for starters."
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That makes sense.
I did not consider that the risk of violence is there right from the first interaction.

This is one of those obvious things that som people (like me) are oblivious to.

  

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12. "talking to transfolks made me aware of it."
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i wouldn't have thought of that either.

fuck you.

  

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39. "But if the threat of violence is there from disclosure at first interact..."
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Tue Feb-10-15 05:31 PM by PimpTrickGangstaClik

  

          

why increase the risk of violence by proceeding further under deception?

It seems like the threat of violence is soooo much greater after intimacy occurs.

Like I could see someone simply being disgusted after finding out that they were hitting on a transgender person.
But I could see that same person getting VIOLENT after kissing (or more) this person and finding out the facts later.

Maybe I'm misunderstanding the order of events

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40. "it depends."
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there's no rule.

case-by-case.

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61. "yea, that does seem odd"
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the risk grows with contact...

not lessens

the risk is there...

stuck between a rock and a soft place

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11. "you dont think it's selfish of them to withhold that type of info?"
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I get it, because the threat of violence against transgender people is REAL, but withholding that type of info also lacks consideration towards the other party as well. You could very well be putting them in a position that compromises their morals/beliefs/religion ect ect. And we know people that type of stuff seriously.

Also you don't think withholding that information for an extended period of time then telling them or them finding out increases the risk of violence?

  

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14. "i think their self-preservation is more important."
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so yeah, it's selfish. and i don't mind it at all. i think that's a situation where they're wise to be selfish and cautious given the risk of harm.

>I get it, because the threat of violence against transgender
>people is REAL, but withholding that type of info also lacks
>consideration towards the other party as well. You could very
>well be putting them in a position that compromises their
>morals/beliefs/religion ect ect. And we know people that type
>of stuff seriously.

*shrugs*

>Also you don't think withholding that information for an
>extended period of time then telling them or them finding out
>increases the risk of violence?

sure. and there's a balance to be struck. which is why there's no good hard/fast rule that will apply in all cases.

fuck you.

  

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26. "Ahh okay, makes sense"
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>>http://t.co/8c9aE8Jv1X
>>
>>Either the story is poorly written or im not understanding
>>correctly. The story states that judging from the text
>>messages it was clear that they had relations.
>
>some transfolks are wonderfully skilled at the art of
>illusion. the illusion can be maintained even in intimate
>settings - even throughout sexual relations.
>
>'relations' could mean Underwood (the deceased) performed oral
>sex on Champion. or that Underwood had receptive anal sex
>w/Champion. it could also mean that Underwood had receptive
>vaginal sex w/Champion after having had sexual reassignment
>surgery. if any of those occurred it's possible that Champion
>wouldn't know that Underwood was a transwoman.
>
>
> Then towards
>>the end the story states that the suspects dad claims that
>he
>>was supposed to meet up with the victim for a sexual favor
>>until he discovered that she was a man.
>
>'meeting up for a sexual favor' could mean anything.
>
>>Somebody lying. If it was clear from the text messages that
>>they had, had relations before then how they " meet up " and
>>all of a sudden he found out she was a man.
>
>someone could've told Champion and when he confronted
>Underwood w/the info he didn't like what he heard from her and
>he snapped.
>
> Sounds more like
>>the guy was DL imo and didn't want his secret out.
>
>not necessarily.

  

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27. "This is awful"
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An Illusion.


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38. "alot of dating is an illusion period"
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you are usually only meeting a persons representative


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20. "with the right attorney, he could get off."
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1.) He's in Texas. A conservative judge, jurors are very likely.

2.) Transpeople receive very little respect by the general public.






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25. "lol he should go to jail."
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31. "TEXAS"
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33. "enough said. "
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IG: hibelk

  

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63. "Yup. Florida's cousin"
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37. "Crime of passion. 10 yrs"
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41. "If that... Likely time served and 2-5 years probation."
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and a possible dropdown or even deferred adjudication if it's a first offense.


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30. "This is so sad all the way around. 1 life ended, the other one destroyed..."
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34. "you don't want your secret out, so you commit murder?????"
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huh?

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36. "This is a thing,"
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exposure. Especially in a homophobic sport like football, that could have been a motive.

  

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42. "do transgender women get the 'lubrication' from surgery?"
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is lubrication apart of the surgery? pills? no lube?

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43. "^ one reason I think it may be wise to withhold the disclosure for a bit..."
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Bc too many ppl have too much curiousity about transppl and especially their bodies and especially their genitalia and that curiousity may cause them to ask inappropriate questions which can derail a date or other situation. And it's just weird. I have heard this from transfolks numerous times.

fuck you.

  

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44. "i would never ask that question"
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to anyone that i know/suspect but, i'm asking it here because i
honestly don't know the answer and thought that someone could shed
some light. i think it's a pretty good question, no?


>Bc too many ppl have too much curiousity about transppl and
>especially their bodies and especially their genitalia and
>that curiousity may cause them to ask inappropriate questions
>which can derail a date or other situation. And it's just
>weird. I have heard this from transfolks numerous times.


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46. "They use lube."
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Like many cis women, trans women who have had bottom surgery use lubricant for sexual intercourse if they want more wetness than what occurs without the lubricant.

fuck you.

  

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