so yeah, it's selfish. and i don't mind it at all. i think that's a situation where they're wise to be selfish and cautious given the risk of harm.

>I get it, because the threat of violence against transgender
>people is REAL, but withholding that type of info also lacks
>consideration towards the other party as well. You could very
>well be putting them in a position that compromises their
>morals/beliefs/religion ect ect. And we know people that type
>of stuff seriously.

*shrugs*

>Also you don't think withholding that information for an
>extended period of time then telling them or them finding out
>increases the risk of violence?

sure. and there's a balance to be struck. which is why there's no good hard/fast rule that will apply in all cases.