So my wife has a work husband.

(First question on work spouses? Do you tell your spouse you got a work spouse?)

I hear about him and the rest of the gang from her work all the time and I don't pay it much mind because I am me and dude really isn't her type (nerdy white guy).

So I don't have real fear of dude stealing my wife or even hooking up with the missus.

However, I think there was a work husband violation because at their holiday party they had a photo booth and they took photos together.

That in itself didn't bother me, but the violation on his part in my mind is dude posted the pictures on facebook and tagged her.

So now I got my brother clowning me talking about they look like such a happy couple on facebook.

Two questions to get it poppin.

Was there a violation? and if so, what is the proper remedy for the violation?

There is actually another holiday party tonight we will all be together at so it would be a good time to implement any agreed upon remedy for the alleged violation.



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and show it at the next work event on a projector.

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It sounds more like a case of your brothers overreaction giving you food for thought than anything, but it really depends on the pic IMO.

I am not concerned but its what other people see that is the source of the violation.

It's a source of jokes for my brother that's all.

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That's breakup-level violation right there. I understand that you're married, and that's not on the table at this point, so I'm just speaking as an unmarried man here.

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If a woman *shows* me that she's not interested in me, or if she does something that really bothers me, or if I'm unhappy in the relationship then what other options do I really have?

To put it another way, if *I* am the one that's unhappy in a relationship, then *I* need to be the one that changes something.

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No real plans on getting married, either. I do the LTRs tho.

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need the lows to enjoy the highs.


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anything else is fantasy island.

No such thing as a relationship where everyone is happy all the time.

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last year.


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it's a violation.

now how you respond to that violation should really be a matter of making your presence more clearly known. you create the boundaries non-verbally. if he crosses again it's pure violation.

whatever you do though don't make it verbal or your wife will catch the short end of the stick.

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"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

it seems your brother is the issue here.

If the only pics are of him and her then perhaps. But that photobooth, etc...shit is a mainstay at holiday parties, and lord knows some co-workers love to spill their work lives into social media tagging everyone around em.

I just don't see the angle where you can bring it up to her and not come off a bit weak, lol

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here for dis.

Hard not to when she showed it to me. Mainly with jokes.

The question is do I bring it up again at the very least to say "uh could you please untag yourself so that all your friends ain't raising eyebrows?!?"




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>The question is do I bring it up again at the very least to
>say "uh could you please untag yourself so that all your
>friends ain't raising eyebrows?!?"

Just remind your wife why you're her husband and KIM fam. Your release her pleasure.

(keeping it too real?)

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"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

if you ain't say it made you feel a way when you first saw it, don't bother now...you look like a punk if you do. and honestly this is punk behavior cuz you only saying something because your brother.

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The double standard is acceptable though because, well, (I know how my mind works and she does too).

Work wife ain't really a good idea for me.



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>The double standard is acceptable though because, well, (I
>know how my mind works and she does too).
>
>Work wife ain't really a good idea for me.


You don't see a problem here? Why are you the only one on the leash? So this OTHER DUDE gets to do whatever the hell he wants, but YOU have to keep yourself in check?

No snark, btw. I just don't think this type of thing is cool (the double standards).


You should find some female friends to hang with (solo) and take a bunch of pics with. You know, for science.

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>>The double standard is acceptable though because, well, (I
>>know how my mind works and she does too).
>>
>>Work wife ain't really a good idea for me.
>
>
>You don't see a problem here? Why are you the only one on the
>leash? So this OTHER DUDE gets to do whatever the hell he
>wants, but YOU have to keep yourself in check?

It's kind of simple. She is trustworthy. I am not. Generally speaking.


>
>No snark, btw. I just don't think this type of thing is cool
>(the double standards).
>
>
>You should find some female friends to hang with (solo) and
>take a bunch of pics with. You know, for science.

I've done that. They don't end up on facebook though.


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sounds like she don't trust you...

or maybe you don't trust yourself?

I'm confused.

and more men need to accept that about themselves and not put themselves in situations to fail.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

Certain situations I just need to avoid.


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*Unless he was all hugged up tight on your wife or doing something inappropriate in the pic.

I'm assuming this was one of those goofy photo booths where people go in and get 4 consecutive pics, each one with a different goofy-ass face.

The idea that your wife will never be in a normal ass pic with another man is odd.

It's not that much of a "normal ass pic". It's very couply. One more person in the pic and it would have been nothing though.


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Did they have matching Christmas sweaters and a cat between them?

If dude was stepping over the line, your wife would put him in his place & let you know. Your boys are just trying to hype you up.

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if he just posted a pic and was like me n suchnsuch @ holiday party then no biggie
just a pic


but if he gotta bunch of extras in his commentary then he .........i'll be nice...doesn't feel very threatened

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Coolin...

is he the ONLY one who thinks they look like a couple? Are there comments under the pic like "y'all make a cute couple" and if so, did she or him say "nah we just work friends" or whatever? like this is so childish and petty.

i mean, if she starts cooking him meals and buying up groceries saying "Dre like turkey, I'mma get turkey" then you need to be worried.

http://i.imgur.com/yofF8bN.jpg?1

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where the fuck are his hands in pic 3!!?

I ain't trying to start no shit but...

nahhhhh b

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

You gotta know you're wife has it covered, but you should definitely have the angry black man scowl going into the party and everyone should be talking the next morning about how you might kick old boy's ass. He needs to get a message.

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Big PEMFin H & z's
"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

he knows what he's doing

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

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I ain't even see the pic.

i still blame hip-hop.

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

i think we're the only ones that saw it. so much going on.

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

http://imgur.com/t1XMagD


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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

strangely it's still there for me too. Also seems to be there for jfrost.

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when you saw the pic, you made some jokes and kept it moving. it wasn't until your brother put that spark under your ass that made you think "wait this ain't cool." so either you had an issue and you were too scared to say anything then (which is a punk move) or your brother is hating and instigating (which is a punk move).

Again, if you had an issue with it and said it when you saw the pic, then fine...but going back AFTER your brother says something is wack. if it bothers you, it bothers you but reading your post, it seems like it didn't bother you until your bro opened his mouth.

>when you saw the pic, you made some jokes and kept it moving.
>it wasn't until your brother put that spark under your ass
>that made you think "wait this ain't cool." so either you had
>an issue and you were too scared to say anything then (which
>is a punk move) or your brother is hating and instigating
>(which is a punk move).
>
>Again, if you had an issue with it and said it when you saw
>the pic, then fine...but going back AFTER your brother says
>something is wack. if it bothers you, it bothers you but
>reading your post, it seems like it didn't bother you until
>your bro opened his mouth.


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your wife has a work husband, she refers to him as such in your presence
there was an office party
they took pics
work husband puts up pics, tags wife
wife shows you, you lol and joke with her about it. not saying "this isn't cool." (if you did, you haven't said that in this post)
your brother hits you and says "they a cute couple" jokes jokes jokes
now it's "is this a violation."

okay, so given that you didn't care until your brother said something. mind you, in my first post I said what are the comments others are leaving, how is that being handled...which you didn't answer. but in #6, you care about what others have to say...not about your brother while in the OP it's not about what others said, but your brother.

so okay.

i got it wrong but that's how you presented the story.

COOL.

>your wife has a work husband, she refers to him as such in
>your presence
>there was an office party
>they took pics
>work husband puts up pics, tags wife
>wife shows you, you lol and joke with her about it. not saying
>"this isn't cool." (if you did, you haven't said that in this
>post)

When she showed me the pictures I said "What the fuck is this bullshit!?!?"

In a less than serious tone. You assumed my jokes weren't about it being a violation.

So now everything you said after this point falls apart.

I think you should give me credit for knowing what happened to me better than you.

>your brother hits you and says "they a cute couple" jokes
>jokes jokes
>now it's "is this a violation."
>
>okay, so given that you didn't care until your brother said
>something. mind you, in my first post I said what are the
>comments others are leaving, how is that being handled...which
>you didn't answer. but in #6, you care about what others have
>to say...not about your brother while in the OP it's not about
>what others said, but your brother.

Maybe I wasn't clear but I use my brother to be illustrative as to how others would react to it.

For the record no one but there co-workers commented on it. But you don't have to comment on it to walk away with a wrong impression.


>
>so okay.
>
>i got it wrong but that's how you presented the story.
>
>COOL.
>


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That's a decent looking guy (no homo) and a beautiful woman. To paraphrase Pimp C, you might have to prepare to send him her clothes or go to war.

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in that dude's mind, he could hit. not saying he'd act on it. but he's walking around figuring

it is what it is

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My wife aint finna be taking no solo pics with no man that aint her daddy bucept me.

@geahuwine

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Dude was white and corny but dude was like "hey, I'm your wife's work husband"

Dude actually said that shit to him. For the next week that dude would watch his wife get ready for work with the illy grilly.

Don't be all bubbly introducing yourself to the real spouse as the work spouse.

That's almost as bad as having inside jokes with the work spouse in front of the real spouse.


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"work husband"

if he had have said hi....i'm Dave, wouldn't have been no issue.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

all "hey, did she tell you I'm her work husband?"

knocking people out the way to make sure he knew and shit.

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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.