So my wife has a work husband.

(First question on work spouses? Do you tell your spouse you got a work spouse?)

I hear about him and the rest of the gang from her work all the time and I don't pay it much mind because I am me and dude really isn't her type (nerdy white guy).

So I don't have real fear of dude stealing my wife or even hooking up with the missus.

However, I think there was a work husband violation because at their holiday party they had a photo booth and they took photos together.

That in itself didn't bother me, but the violation on his part in my mind is dude posted the pictures on facebook and tagged her.

So now I got my brother clowning me talking about they look like such a happy couple on facebook.

Two questions to get it poppin.

Was there a violation? and if so, what is the proper remedy for the violation?

There is actually another holiday party tonight we will all be together at so it would be a good time to implement any agreed upon remedy for the alleged violation.



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and show it at the next work event on a projector.

It sounds more like a case of your brothers overreaction giving you food for thought than anything, but it really depends on the pic IMO.

I am not concerned but its what other people see that is the source of the violation.

It's a source of jokes for my brother that's all.

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That's breakup-level violation right there. I understand that you're married, and that's not on the table at this point, so I'm just speaking as an unmarried man here.

You got a, what is it?, Kamala? List of deal breakers, like a mofo!

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If a woman *shows* me that she's not interested in me, or if she does something that really bothers me, or if I'm unhappy in the relationship then what other options do I really have?

To put it another way, if *I* am the one that's unhappy in a relationship, then *I* need to be the one that changes something.

No real plans on getting married, either. I do the LTRs tho.

need the lows to enjoy the highs.


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anything else is fantasy island.

No such thing as a relationship where everyone is happy all the time.

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

last year.


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it's a violation.

now how you respond to that violation should really be a matter of making your presence more clearly known. you create the boundaries non-verbally. if he crosses again it's pure violation.

whatever you do though don't make it verbal or your wife will catch the short end of the stick.

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

it seems your brother is the issue here.

If the only pics are of him and her then perhaps. But that photobooth, etc...shit is a mainstay at holiday parties, and lord knows some co-workers love to spill their work lives into social media tagging everyone around em.

I just don't see the angle where you can bring it up to her and not come off a bit weak, lol

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Hard not to when she showed it to me. Mainly with jokes.

The question is do I bring it up again at the very least to say "uh could you please untag yourself so that all your friends ain't raising eyebrows?!?"




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>The question is do I bring it up again at the very least to
>say "uh could you please untag yourself so that all your
>friends ain't raising eyebrows?!?"

Just remind your wife why you're her husband and KIM fam. Your release her pleasure.

(keeping it too real?)

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

if you ain't say it made you feel a way when you first saw it, don't bother now...you look like a punk if you do. and honestly this is punk behavior cuz you only saying something because your brother.

The double standard is acceptable though because, well, (I know how my mind works and she does too).

Work wife ain't really a good idea for me.



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>The double standard is acceptable though because, well, (I
>know how my mind works and she does too).
>
>Work wife ain't really a good idea for me.


You don't see a problem here? Why are you the only one on the leash? So this OTHER DUDE gets to do whatever the hell he wants, but YOU have to keep yourself in check?

No snark, btw. I just don't think this type of thing is cool (the double standards).


You should find some female friends to hang with (solo) and take a bunch of pics with. You know, for science.

>>The double standard is acceptable though because, well, (I
>>know how my mind works and she does too).
>>
>>Work wife ain't really a good idea for me.
>
>
>You don't see a problem here? Why are you the only one on the
>leash? So this OTHER DUDE gets to do whatever the hell he
>wants, but YOU have to keep yourself in check?

It's kind of simple. She is trustworthy. I am not. Generally speaking.


>
>No snark, btw. I just don't think this type of thing is cool
>(the double standards).
>
>
>You should find some female friends to hang with (solo) and
>take a bunch of pics with. You know, for science.

I've done that. They don't end up on facebook though.


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sounds like she don't trust you...

or maybe you don't trust yourself?

I'm confused.

and more men need to accept that about themselves and not put themselves in situations to fail.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

Certain situations I just need to avoid.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

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*Unless he was all hugged up tight on your wife or doing something inappropriate in the pic.

I'm assuming this was one of those goofy photo booths where people go in and get 4 consecutive pics, each one with a different goofy-ass face.

The idea that your wife will never be in a normal ass pic with another man is odd.

It's not that much of a "normal ass pic". It's very couply. One more person in the pic and it would have been nothing though.


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Did they have matching Christmas sweaters and a cat between them?

If dude was stepping over the line, your wife would put him in his place & let you know. Your boys are just trying to hype you up.

"Hands off my wife, point dexter. FOH, back to your mom's basement."

if he just posted a pic and was like me n suchnsuch @ holiday party then no biggie
just a pic


but if he gotta bunch of extras in his commentary then he .........i'll be nice...doesn't feel very threatened

is he the ONLY one who thinks they look like a couple? Are there comments under the pic like "y'all make a cute couple" and if so, did she or him say "nah we just work friends" or whatever? like this is so childish and petty.

i mean, if she starts cooking him meals and buying up groceries saying "Dre like turkey, I'mma get turkey" then you need to be worried.

http://i.imgur.com/yofF8bN.jpg?1

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where the fuck are his hands in pic 3!!?

I ain't trying to start no shit but...

nahhhhh b

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

You gotta know you're wife has it covered, but you should definitely have the angry black man scowl going into the party and everyone should be talking the next morning about how you might kick old boy's ass. He needs to get a message.

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

he knows what he's doing

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

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I ain't even see the pic.

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

i think we're the only ones that saw it. so much going on.

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

http://imgur.com/t1XMagD


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

strangely it's still there for me too. Also seems to be there for jfrost.

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www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

when you saw the pic, you made some jokes and kept it moving. it wasn't until your brother put that spark under your ass that made you think "wait this ain't cool." so either you had an issue and you were too scared to say anything then (which is a punk move) or your brother is hating and instigating (which is a punk move).

Again, if you had an issue with it and said it when you saw the pic, then fine...but going back AFTER your brother says something is wack. if it bothers you, it bothers you but reading your post, it seems like it didn't bother you until your bro opened his mouth.

>when you saw the pic, you made some jokes and kept it moving.
>it wasn't until your brother put that spark under your ass
>that made you think "wait this ain't cool." so either you had
>an issue and you were too scared to say anything then (which
>is a punk move) or your brother is hating and instigating
>(which is a punk move).
>
>Again, if you had an issue with it and said it when you saw
>the pic, then fine...but going back AFTER your brother says
>something is wack. if it bothers you, it bothers you but
>reading your post, it seems like it didn't bother you until
>your bro opened his mouth.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

your wife has a work husband, she refers to him as such in your presence
there was an office party
they took pics
work husband puts up pics, tags wife
wife shows you, you lol and joke with her about it. not saying "this isn't cool." (if you did, you haven't said that in this post)
your brother hits you and says "they a cute couple" jokes jokes jokes
now it's "is this a violation."

okay, so given that you didn't care until your brother said something. mind you, in my first post I said what are the comments others are leaving, how is that being handled...which you didn't answer. but in #6, you care about what others have to say...not about your brother while in the OP it's not about what others said, but your brother.

so okay.

i got it wrong but that's how you presented the story.

COOL.

>your wife has a work husband, she refers to him as such in
>your presence
>there was an office party
>they took pics
>work husband puts up pics, tags wife
>wife shows you, you lol and joke with her about it. not saying
>"this isn't cool." (if you did, you haven't said that in this
>post)

When she showed me the pictures I said "What the fuck is this bullshit!?!?"

In a less than serious tone. You assumed my jokes weren't about it being a violation.

So now everything you said after this point falls apart.

I think you should give me credit for knowing what happened to me better than you.

>your brother hits you and says "they a cute couple" jokes
>jokes jokes
>now it's "is this a violation."
>
>okay, so given that you didn't care until your brother said
>something. mind you, in my first post I said what are the
>comments others are leaving, how is that being handled...which
>you didn't answer. but in #6, you care about what others have
>to say...not about your brother while in the OP it's not about
>what others said, but your brother.

Maybe I wasn't clear but I use my brother to be illustrative as to how others would react to it.

For the record no one but there co-workers commented on it. But you don't have to comment on it to walk away with a wrong impression.


>
>so okay.
>
>i got it wrong but that's how you presented the story.
>
>COOL.
>


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That's a decent looking guy (no homo) and a beautiful woman. To paraphrase Pimp C, you might have to prepare to send him her clothes or go to war.

in that dude's mind, he could hit. not saying he'd act on it. but he's walking around figuring

it is what it is

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

My wife aint finna be taking no solo pics with no man that aint her daddy bucept me.

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Dude was white and corny but dude was like "hey, I'm your wife's work husband"

Dude actually said that shit to him. For the next week that dude would watch his wife get ready for work with the illy grilly.

Don't be all bubbly introducing yourself to the real spouse as the work spouse.

That's almost as bad as having inside jokes with the work spouse in front of the real spouse.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

"work husband"

if he had have said hi....i'm Dave, wouldn't have been no issue.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

all "hey, did she tell you I'm her work husband?"

knocking people out the way to make sure he knew and shit.

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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

gay guys who i'd expect not to know the rules and nigga who wanna fuck who i expect not to want to follow the rules.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

Makes things far less serious for me.

I mean, unless he's snuggled in her neck with his hand under her shirt or something similarly questionable, I wouldn't bring it up.

Definitely no disrespect, but you thinking of approaching her about it makes you sound a little...insecure?

>I mean, unless he's snuggled in her neck with his hand under
>her shirt or something similarly questionable

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"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1 thing, a musician." � Miles

"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."

Well, damn.

at all.

i have never had a work husband.

it's nothing more than a good friend of the opposite sex who looks out for you and makes your job easier.

a 'fake me out' work 'marriage'
if you have friends you have friends
i had homegirls who looked out for me
they weren't my 'work wives' or whatever
you look out for your friends that's what friends do
this 'work spousal relationship' shit is weird and ultimately too white for me.

They buy lunch and coffee and shit?

I have a mother-daughter combo. Around lunch they will ask if I want something or ask if I'm going out for lunch.

If they don't have cash I will pay for it... but they will either pay me back or buy my lunch later in the week.

If I hear people talking shit about their work I give them a heads and they do the same.

That's it. Ain't no snuggling, kissing or thoughts of cheatin'

>If I hear people talking shit about their work I give them a
>heads and they do the same.

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I'm sorry, Sha...that shit just made me chuckle

in real life i've never pretended someone was my boo at work
i don't see how that could be conducive to a real marriage or relationship
or why it's even a real relationship category

It's a joke. Not to be taken too seriously. It's people taking it seriously and claiming the label like a title which is problematic.



>in real life i've never pretended someone was my boo at work
>i don't see how that could be conducive to a real marriage or
>relationship
>or why it's even a real relationship category
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a work wife? you said above you wouldn't put yourself in that situation? what situation if it's not serious right?

it's stupid imo

and just from being on these message boards for years i've seen enough stories
about work spouses gone weird or terribly wrong
enough for me to not get why niggas even put themselves through that
for people they not even WITH

either way...eh.
and no, i dont believe in work wives or husbands and i do find it completely weird and lame
but i wldnt really care if i was in that situation

but he ultimately said it ain't a thing (though he will have jokes).



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the people that are claiming it lame or can't understand don't realize how real in the field it is


or do but don't wanna hear it.


YOUR MAN is talking to a woman at work about shit he don't talk to u about

YOUR WOMAN is telling some dude at work about shit u don't wanna talk about

it happens

hug it don't reject it.

and go home

im plenty friendly w/ my coworkers and we go out drinking and things and i know nothing about them that their mates don't know.

shit their mates drink WITH us.

y'all are goofy and want some telenovela in your life

the practice is rather goofy, and i've had loads of work wives.

focusing on work is always a better idea.

cause i done had about 6-10 work wives.

>im plenty friendly w/ my coworkers and we go out drinking and
>things and i know nothing about them that their mates don't
>know.
>
>shit their mates drink WITH us.

All that is compatible with a work spouse. If they can't bring their real spouse around then you got trouble.

BTW, me and Geah definition of work spouse a little different.

His definition includes sharing intimate stuff with it seems. My definition is just that person you spend all day with and become extra familiar with.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

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just someone u spend all day with. My PR work wife here don't tell me nothing intimate..but she tell me a lot. We go together here.

only shit i know that their SO's dont is that they are about to propose

^^^i think this is a hard concept for some people.

like how many times in your life have you said "you play too much!!!"

point being too much play play can turn serious.

so, fuck a work spouse.

...i don't know bout a violation, but it just seems ill advised....

maybe if it's pics of him and her and then a bunch of pics with him posing with other people.....

nothing to trip about though

She even mentioned my title in conjunction with another man she would have never mentioned it again

Your work husband? Is he paying your work bills? He holding down your work house? He giving you some work dick? Gtfoh

Yall too new school for me

Well lets just say in my personal history I wanted to have sex with several of my previous work wives and made out with one once. None of them were married or boo'd up and neither was I.

work "mates" arent goofy and they arent strange. its the fact that they have a title that i think annoys some.

anyway. its something just not to really be mentioned or acknowledged outside of the workplace because you do not at all want to suggest that its anything significant other than two folks that take a coolness to each other on the clock.

when mentioned outside of work, with non co workers...posts like this happen.

if you knew nothing, youd just say your wife was taking pics with coworkers at a holiday party.

but the knowledge of his title coupled with your brother poking fun, messes with you.

so all three of you are wrong wrong wrong. and all of you just need to be quiet in the future.

two people that look out for each other and take a closeness/agenda similiar to each others.

if adults wanna sully that with lust and sex thats on them

but one does not automatically lead to the other. if you think so, then you also think all gym partners, study partners, leisure activity mates fuck.

thats goofy.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

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my work hubby delivering my package from reception to my desk so that i dont have to walk alllll the way up stairs!

And now I'm not gonna get a handy in the break room?

What the fuck do I even come to work for?

joke

maybe...

if you single...

my workmistress is allergic to nuts.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

if i like you im looking out for you, you, and the other guy
maybe we're just one hippie commune at this job b/c it was us vs the CEO and now we all are all good (CEO bounced)

but having one person investing all this emotion and thoughtfulness in and no sex?

GOOFY

i work non profit so not to say there isn't backstabbing but i havent encountered any. i have yet to have to position myself up with anyone to keep vultures away.

Let him know you got cases and ain't afraid to go back

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

http://blackpeopleonlocalnews.tumblr.com/

Yeah people can be friendly at work, but getting close and taking photos-- nah. It just shows a lack of respect for YOUR marriage which involves a lot of work, compromise, and whatnot.

This is to all the "work spouse is crazy ppl". I've been a work hubby and it's basically the most innocuous shit ever but I guess that could be because there's no underlying element of secretly wanting to fuck(?)

Most times it's just spending lunch with them and they give u food and if they need U to do some manly stuff like move or carry something u do it lol

It's just fun

I think the whole concept indicates ur only a boo in this work setting and not wanted outside of work

Ppl who are really fucking or want to fuck someone at work don't call that person their work spouse

I don't kno, the "my woman would NEvER" replies in here are kinda weird to me becuz I thought work spouses were a fairly common thing

we actually swapped lunch making duties

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that shit is too liberal for my taste.

unless they are doing something inappropriate in the pic.

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mark yo territory.

It seems like she's getting emotionally attached. She gives me an unusual amount of compliments about my looks and physical appearance. And now she's pushing to hang out outside of work.

I mean, I enjoy it, but I have a weird feeling about our relationship as well. I dunno. The holiday party should be interesting -- when I said I was skipping it, she begged me to go. Now that I've decided to attend, she wants us to go together...even though she has a husband O_o

It's just like two homies hangin out. Work just happens to be one place where you make friends.

can you throw a sweater over my chair and turn on the light in my cubicle?" text?

texting shit on weekends...

work related text are cool.

This married Dominican chick who sits in the next cubicle been tryin' to be my work wife for a minute. First, it seemed innocuous enough. Bringin' me food she cooked and all that. Then she was tellin' me that her cousins don't like black guys 'cause they're all dogs or some shit, but she was like, "I told them about you...and how you're the sweetest and most genuine guy I've met in a long time". I was like, "Oh....well that's just fine" and kept it pushin'.

Then we had this seminar at a hotel one weekend. It ended like at 5 and there was a party at 8. She was like, "I got a room at the hotel. If you wanna shower and get ready for the party, you can use my room". I gave her the people's eyebrow and was like, "Oh, good lookin' out, but I think I'ma skip the party...spend a little time with the fiancee tonight".

Then a couple weeks ago, she told me she was divorcin' her husband 'cause he a bitch or somethin'.

Then yesterday, nigga put on a suit, 'cause I had to give a presentation to the board of directors. She seen me and was like, "How you're dressed today...I would totally fuck you". I hit her wit the, "Girl, you crazy!" and got the fuck up outta there.

She tryna get mad extra-curricular...wifey don't need to know SHEEEIT about this one lol.

work wives, one of them was married. No funny business but we did flirt quite a bit and eat lunch together almost every day and had drinks occasionally after work. She actually hooked me up with a couple of her friends.

One time when we were in the office alone late she changed clothes in the cubicle right next to me, I was on the computer not paying attention and had no idea what she was doing until she was done, lol.

I met her husband once and it was a pretty brief introduction and handshake and I kept it moving, lol.

There is one pic of us together on FB but she isn't tagged in it. I doubt if her husband would trip though because she grew up with and is still close friends a pretty well known male pornstar and she has pics them together back in hs 20 years ago and today with their families. She claims they were just really good friends and he never hit but I don't believe her, lol.



Buddy G, as for your situation I didn't see the pic but from the reactions there seems to be a possibility that a line or two has been stepped. It could be nothing but stay woke. I would still step to dude at the Christmas party, subtly, just give him a firm handshake, and let him know who you are and that you know who he is and that shit is not a game. All that could be communicated non-verbally too.

Was it a dry slap?

Did you spray the office lobby?

Or just place two hands on his throat and choke him out by the hors d'oeuvres?

I prefer the choke at all times, it sends a variety of messages.

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The biggest violation might not be his.

You might have to start checkin some chins potna.
These cats out here tryin you.

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mentaly challenged dude making googly eyes at his wife and he couldn't really say shit.

I know it was a NYC OKP.

mentaly challenged dude making googly eyes at his wife and he couldn't really say shit.

I know it was a NYC OKP.

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

Lol I'll be dat.
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I be hoping she feed his ass so I don't have to. Sometimes when she makes jerk chicken, he brings me some home.
We all had a blast at the holiday party and clowned at in photo booth. You shouldn't sweat it, it's just friendship.

Look here Big Love, act like an adult and poison your marriage with insecurities you have over your husband's innocuous friendships!

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard