>This is revisionism at its most common - and it's not >strictly just in retrospect - you know the girl you have a >crush on? The one who's perfect? The one who embodies all >the ideals that you've been looking for in a woman? Yeah, >well... She doesn't and has a multitude of flaws... You've >put her on a pedestal and selectively filtered out the bad >and placed her into a plane of existence in which the >reality of the person can't meet the lofty >expectations/designs that infatuation has incurred... And >the letdown in the rearview mirror leaves you kicking >yourself over it b/c ultimately it's not the other party's >fault, but yours for viewin' through rose-colored glasses... > And the loss of appetite you suffer from is entirely of >your own manifestation... As producer Edward Zwick once >said of "My So-Called...," he loves his friends and family >B/C of their flaws/deficiencies/annoying characteristics and >not despite them - no one's ABSOLUTELY perfect...
On the flipside of this, the last woman that I found that I felt was "perfect" had me so screwed up that I gave up before *she* could start discovering *my* flaws. This was quite some time ago and she's long gone but I have to say that I haven't found anyone even remotely close to her (or the image of her I've embellished in my head). Normally I am very picky though. I've ended relationships for the dumbest reasons you can think of but in retrospect I don't have many regrets about doing so (other than maybe the way I went ending things). With the last one I was seeing, I decided not to be so damm picky (even though I knew deep down it wouldn't work out) and she wound up dumping me lol.
>Lookin' forward to October when some of you folks are able >to view Ozu's "Tokyo Story" when Criterion releases it >although I'd champion "Late Spring" equally as much - just >got my grubby hands on the Hong Kong International Film >Festival book on Ozu's centenary (for which they staged a >complete retrospective)...
I was actually looking for Tokyo Story last week when the video store didn't have the Apu Trilogy. Unfortunately they didn't have that one either. Still the only Ozu I've seen is Good Morning.