>On the flipside of this, the last woman that I found that I
>felt was "perfect" had me so screwed up that I gave up
>before *she* could start discovering *my* flaws. This was
>quite some time ago and she's long gone but I have to say
>that I haven't found anyone even remotely close to her (or
>the image of her I've embellished in my head). Normally I
>am very picky though. I've ended relationships for the
>dumbest reasons you can think of but in retrospect I don't
>have many regrets about doing so (other than maybe the way I
>went ending things). With the last one I was seeing, I
>decided not to be so damm picky (even though I knew deep
>down it wouldn't work out) and she wound up dumping me lol.

But you know what? The image you've built up of this 1 female is likely above and beyond the reality of the situation; also, although people claim your teens are the hardest years, I found my 20s to be the decade of self-definition, enabling greater self-assurance... This doesn't always happen though - I saw a girl I knew from college some 3 years later @ a party when I was back in DC - instead of the independent, compassionate person I was familiar w/, she was SO servile and fawning that sh*t was depressing - no want of anythin' other than bein' hedonistic... Hope she's outgrown that phase of her life...

Methinks that the aphorism of letting sleeping dogs lie has some merit to it, especially in these instances...

>I was actually looking for Tokyo Story last week when the
>video store didn't have the Apu Trilogy. Unfortunately they
>didn't have that one either. Still the only Ozu I've seen
>is Good Morning.

And "Good Morning" really isn't indicative of Ozu's aesthetic... There looks to be a load of Ozu material due later in 2004 as well so other than "Tokyo Story" and "Floating Weeds," it should prove interesting to see a whole new audience open up to his portfolio...

Also, there's an article in this Sunday's NY Times Magazine about Sofia Coppola - the writer is a little too much of a fan, but it's an interesting read although I'm not ready to attend her coronation as a burgeoning major talent as the article would have you believe...

'Those with the tiny hiney they get whiney whiney' - Cam'ron Giles (KRS - '5 Boroughs').