(hence the retrospective edit) or you don't (hence 'wasting time')..
Which is it?!
>LOL, but seriously, YES! > >Oh, and most folks keep family matters secret or to those in >the immediate family. Also businesses usually do the same.
I'm sorry but this is another weak analogy. Who would post their immediate family matters up here? It's a public site! This is not the issue at all; unless you claim that you are part of the black 'extended' family.
>and for that last comment, LOL, you've been narrowing this >down to a on-line chat board while I've been looking at it >from a wider perspective (i.e.) community meetings, church >gatherings, political social events (noDem/Repubo)...ha, no >wonder we're bumping heads.
I was looking at it from Barthes' pov in 'Death of the Author'; but I can see that my experiment wouldn't work in the salient situations you describe.
Here's an idea. Shall we just agree to disagree and leave it at that?