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@geahuwine

Rumor was we were getting a 5% increase, turns out to be 3.5% instead.

Co-workers are mad as hell because "a burrito now cost $14 dollars and gas is $6.29 so we need a 15% raise at least just to stay even!"

I've just been saying "Yeah, well that sucks, but at least we have jobs and we're not being worked to death like my friends at other places."

I don't know how to deal with it because our jobs are stable and pay pretty competitivity - but a little under market rates. But oh so stable - it's amazing how stable an I.T. job is when you work for a hospital system.

That's the tradeoff - you could make *a lot* more at some completely unstable company - or a bit more at a relatively stable company that might overwork you - or you could stay here.

How can I seem "down?"

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

Remember a few years back when FAANG & other tech companies were hiring like crazy? A lot of those folks are out of work now, back to looking for another job.

They are making DOUBLE but also working DOUBLE.

They made it through the layoffs but it was close for *both* of them.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

I quit smoking about 2 months back and that was nice, but I gotta cut WAY back on the drinking and get to working out again. I figure I got 15-25 good years left. I want to feel good for all of them.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

Like, I was in love with that mug shot. Something in PTP made me look up what she looks like today....not a good look.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

A deficiency.

I wonder if it makes me too passive and causes other issues in my life.

The doctor recommended that I avoid supplements so I’m considering receiving monitored treatment.

I don’t know if this has always been an issue or if it’s something that came with age.

I really hope it’s the reason I feel like sleeping constantly because it is something that can be remedied.

Life’s a struggle

asking me what I was doing for my birthday...

i hit him with the "going out with my husband!"

he hasn't responded since. LOL!

yeah, he did me dirty. choose a crazy woman with baby daddy drama over me. who the fuck chooses a woman with baby daddy drama? i even fucking warned his ass that people with relationships that toxic are probably bad news. but he was like, "nah, the baby daddy is just a horrible person." okay *kanye shrug*

At his wedding, his whole family was crying. his family thinks she put obia on him.

they got divorced after she changed the locks on their house and called the police on him saying someone was trying to break into their house. the police that responded told him to leave her and that she's dangerous. LOL! and they had a kid together and he adopted her other son so I hope he had 18 years of misery dealing with her.

and he had a second wife who he divorced maybe a year after they got married... LOL!

anyway, let me stop ranting...

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Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

My mom and his grandmother are good friends. That's why I know all the gossip. And I've known him since I was a kid.

and i probably dodged a bullet... LOL!

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Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

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Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

He sounds like he was trying on capes and got wrapped up.

she is my moms best friends daughter
we broke up right before college
stayed friendly but she had a problem with telling me too much
she went off to college and started to experiment sexually
i would literally get blow by blow (no pun) accounts of her sexcapades that ended once she called me while having sex
she eventually did porn...retired and became a flight attendant
she hit me up recently and we talked about everything.....she has about 6 sugar daddies right now....2 of them have taken responsibility for the kid.
dodged a bullet lol

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Navem nu, cuando sol
Tutu nu, vondo nos nu
Vita em, no continous non
Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen

When the sun shades the ship
We sweat and life is not safe
To swim or to touch not
When we unite we hedge amen

she wild, no doubt, but she got a solid job and two dummies handling the light work. *shrug* Shit could DEFINITELY be worse.

lol

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

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Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

<--- Big Baller World Order

“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

How bored can you be? Or was she just trying to get under your skin? Even so, that’s like taking a cigarette break while having sex. smh

if you dodged a bullet or not.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

and my first thought was "what she do to get divorced?"

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

vague information from my uncle's wife, who is getting her information from my uncle's daughter, who is getting her information from my dad's daughter (aka my half sister).

Ya'll know that I haven't talked to my dad in over ten years. Last night, my aunt got text messages saying he was "declining fast" and gave me his contact information. I called the house three times - the first time I thought "Oh they don't recognize the number and probably won't answer." So I called back and then it hit me that my name shows on the caller id. I called a third time and left a message. I gave my first and last name, said I was calling for him (first and last name) and asked them to call me back at ###-###-####.

Then I tried the cell number. Straight to voicemail at first. Then I called again and it rang 4 times before voicemail. I left the same message.

About 20 mins later my aunt's step daughter lit into her for sharing the information (his health situation and his contact information) with me. She was told that it wasn't her place and that she knows the history (I was like what does that mean!?! What "history?" He aint never been a part of my life!!) and that she shouldn't have done that. So I don't expect anyone in that household (his wife or either of my half-sisters) to call me back.

All these years that I haven't talked to him various people have tried to encourage me to reach out "before it is too late." I had always known in my heart that that was not going to work. This aint no movie. Everything that happened last night makes it clear to me that he is fine with the idea of going to his grave without ever reconciling with me ... and I am fine with that too!

♥ Inescapably Me ♥

"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)

I mean if you fine with it, I'm glad, but damn.

Peace and blessings, sis.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

i'm sorry that's happening to you.

could be they are worried about you trying to claim inheritance or something. I don't know why else they would keep you from contacting him.

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Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

everything buttoned up the way he wants it. I doubt he will leave me anything.

I regret reaching out. I chased his love and affection for 29 years and decided to stop in 2013. I was never intending on reaching out but I did based on other people’s opinion that I would regret not doing so. At least I can say that I proved them wrong - all those who made out like I needed to put in work to have a relationship with him when it should have been the other way around. Like I said, this aint no movie. Things don’t always have a happy ending.

♥ Inescapably Me ♥

"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)

that she ever encouraged me to do more reaching out is because she didn’t want it to get to this point where we are at today, where I have to go through somebody else in order to be in contact with him. And I see that! According to my aunt, my dad is so far gone that he can’t talk on the phone anymore.

Also, I still haven’t received a call back so I think it’s pretty safe to say I’m never gonna get one from anybody in that household. I expect the next thing I hear about him will just be that he’s gone, and that probably will come from my aunt.

♥ Inescapably Me ♥

"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)

I will never understand womenfolk who constantly wipe after a man. Unless you threatened or attempted to kill him last time y’all talked, they (half sis & the gang) need to step back.

I say that in jest but, first my phone wouldn’t connect to my bluetooth - that started earlier this year. Now that I’m using the USB plug it connects but no longer charges. I’m so spoiled by having my phone connected to my car that I almost want a new car, lol

I’ve been really want pizza but I also really want to lose weight so, I got myself a flat crust vegetarian pizza. It is good too! About to be my new go to.

♥ Inescapably Me ♥

"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)

Bluetooth:
1)Can OHTER phones connect to your car's Bluetooth? If not it could be the car and not the phone.

2)Try to pair your phone to other Bluetooth devices, like speakers or headphones. If that fails it's maybe your phone's Bluetooth.

3)Turn Bluetooth off on iPhone. Unpair the phone from your car in your car's Bluetooth set-up. Turn Bluetooth on the phone back on. Try to pair the phone as a new phone.

4)If step 2 fails consider backing up your phone to the cloud, then completely factory reset your phone without your data and see if it works then. If it does it could be corrupted files on your phone.



Cable:
1)Try to plug a different iPhone into the cable and see if it connects. If it does then it may be your iPhone. If not it could be the cable or the car.

2)Replace the cable with a new 'high quality' one. Not the dollar store cables but something better like one that came with the phone or a brand like Anker or Belkin or Monoprice, or even Dynex (from BestBuy.)

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

If I go to bed at 9, I’m up at midnight
If I go to bed at midnight, I’m up at 3am

Also ever since the city restored the plumbing pipes in my neighborhood, the water has been tasting funny.

My new kitten is the culprit.

If I leave the door open she'll playfully attack me when she gets bored.

But when I keep her out of the room she cries for hours and bangs on the door.


https://photos.app.goo.gl/sD4Xs81zieso6tsKA

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

I got me a catnip toy, and gave it to her when I went to sleep.

She stopped bothering me.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

does funny mean better or worse?

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Just ended up on the floor of my home office and said I can't do this.
And I don't feel one lick of bad about it. Because humans aren't supposed to be able to do this.

Whenever a job posting pops up in my field I get on some weird recruiting list from a dozen staffing agencies. Each person that reaches out does two phone calls, one text, one email. Ive had five different staffing companies reach out to me today alone. This goes on for weeks. It makes any system of communication I have virtually unusable.

Before Ive always just worked through this. But last week my daughter had an issue in school, she was being a little snot and the teacher sent a message in the app, by the time I was aware of the incident it was dinner time and my had already responded and when I asked if they could just call with incidents like that they want to continue through the app.

But they send soooooo many notifications. I cant turn on app notifications on any app, let alone the kids one. All to say. Last night they sent one about my son running low on pull ups at 630. At 630 I'm already half way through getting dinner ready, I'm deep in parenting mode until at least 830 and the last thing I'm thinking about is checking an app. But my wife is hooked on this stuff, so she replied at night, then she left me a message after I was already dropping the kids off. To check the app. By the time I had gotten her text I had been up for 3 hours, I had gotten myself up, exercised, cleaned, got the kids up, go the kids to school, made my way to the grocery store for the house, and was walking out of the grocery store. And I just sat in the middle of that grocery store thinking I mean I guess I could go pick up a pack right now and drive it over but if it was so urgent someone should've done more. So I messaged back in the app to see how low is low and still at this hour nobody has responded.

Like everybody has this system where we’re all supposed to be constantly connected to a device because at some point someone will check the message and we're all just constantly prioritizing and reprioritizing life based on who has the juice to get in touch with you. People constantly cancel and reschedule meetings because their superiors cancel and reschedule meetings and you're just lurching between God knows what urgency.

Meanwhile at work alone I get multiple hundred notifications throughout each and every day. Including during meetings where there’s an active chat inside of each meeting and then emoji notifications on those chats and then emails. But nobody is really being productive anywhere. Its just constant communication and not effective communication. And … so today after two meetings and four derivative chats that branched off from those two meetings and meeting chats I just shut down.

I don't know what the next field is in the next few months, but it can't be anything resembling this. But I fear it's all this.

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

all the notications from work, fam, social media, school apps is too much.

they're all 'urgent' but most really aren't. annoying af.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

and plant weed and vegetables and chill.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*