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zombiechick
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Tue Feb-10-15 07:30 AM

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"the double edged sword of communication"


          

okay so...

I've always fancied myself as the chillest of chill, the homiest of homies, and ergo well versed in the the manner of speaking that is dudes.

That theory has probably been debunked more than a couple of times but on my end the method of verbiage remains the same; I'm normally direct, succinct, and happy to keep the conversation going. Fast forward to maybe a month ago when I'm on a second or third date with a friend (a self proclaimed lifetime bachelor) of mine and we reach the potentially tempestuous minefield that is "what are we doing?"

These days I keep it open minded and free to interpretation, I stress my desire for autonomy and my really busy schedule so obviously nothing has to be written in stone. Therefore, we agree that we're just seeing each other which as far as I knew that's dating or kicking it.

Yesterday he asks me if it's okay to I guess claim or cuff me the next time we see our friends. I have no issue with this but I figured exclusivity was gonna be nonexistent *shrug*.

Why can't folks really put their cards on the table?

  

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Subject Author Message Date ID
every one is afraid of being hurt
Feb 10th 2015
1
eh I'm just not for the mushy stuff these days
Feb 10th 2015
2
Do you not see the problem with this?
Feb 10th 2015
3
not really
Feb 10th 2015
4
If he's fucking you NSA with no expectations and no drama
Feb 10th 2015
5
this doesn't sound like exclusivity
Feb 10th 2015
6
noap, sho don't
Feb 10th 2015
7

Binlahab
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Tue Feb-10-15 08:35 AM

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1. "every one is afraid of being hurt"
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so if you express like that desire to be monogamous or whatever first, theres an element of you putting yourself out there and searching the other person out...

& we all wanna be the prey & not the hunter.

too cool for school

"oh yeah lets get together unless you dont want to, we can do what you want to do, etc"

because forthrightly saying HEY! i want YOU makes you thirsty in 2015

god forbid one is thirsty. so we all exert juuussst the barest essential energy into something. leave it up to the other person. they chose me. ego. i could go on.




does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

  

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zombiechick
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Tue Feb-10-15 08:58 AM

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2. "eh I'm just not for the mushy stuff these days"
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let's hang for a couple hours

smash fantastic

I'll cook something then I'll dip

feelings are awkward, messy things

I'd just rather not

plus I finally renounced awkwardness and the niggas that subscribe to it

  

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Garhart Poppwell
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Tue Feb-10-15 09:17 AM

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3. "Do you not see the problem with this?"
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>Yesterday he asks me if it's okay to I guess claim or cuff me
>the next time we see our friends. I have no issue with this
>but I figured exclusivity was gonna be nonexistent *shrug*.

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zombiechick
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Tue Feb-10-15 09:56 AM

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4. "not really"
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this guy's never come across game goofy

so in my mind it's a practice run, like I've previously stated, this dude has sworn he's on that George Clooney til he dies so I'll keep treating it as such

I'm wary of folks who don't drive slow so I try to peep game from a distance

  

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ndibs
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Tue Feb-10-15 10:01 AM

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5. "If he's fucking you NSA with no expectations and no drama "
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He doesn't want someone who's offering more than dick trying to get at you.

This doesn't mean he wants a commitment or anything serious or really Likes you.

He just likes that you're accepting of his no commitment, all I'm offering is dick schtick.

  

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luminous
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Tue Feb-10-15 10:12 AM

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6. "this doesn't sound like exclusivity"
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Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

  

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BabySoulRebel
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Tue Feb-10-15 10:31 AM

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7. "noap, sho don't"
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here for dis.

  

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