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NikaMandela
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Mon Mar-16-15 12:41 PM

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"Family Drama (long)"


          

this post is part rant, and part me asking for advice, prayers and information...

background story:

my brother is muslim and lives in gambia. he has 2 wives and 3 kids by the first wife and 2 kids by the second wife. when he married the first wife, he promised her he wouldn't take a second wife, but right after she gave birth to their second child, he went on and married the second wife, which devastated the first wife...

about a year and a half ago, my brother came here with his oldest son, who is now 7, and stayed for a while. my nephew started school here and when it was time for my brother to leave, they decided to let him finish out the school year. so he's in his second year here and his parents want him back and he's all ready to go. tickets have been bought and everything.

now my brother wants a divorce from the first wife. he's said all kinds of things about her which may or may not be true, but one would expect this type of behavior from a woman who is scorned. my brother's plan is for her to return to her mother with their youngest child, a girl, who is 3; put their middle child, a boy, who is 5, in boarding school, and take the oldest, who has been staying with my mom for a year and half, and have him live with him and the second wife and their kids.

have you ever in your life ever heard of such fuckery???

so me and my mom are trying to figure out what to do. she's supposed to bring him back to gambia next week but that just seems like a bad idea. my nephew misses his mom sorely. to bring him back and have him live with the other woman is just cruel. so my mom says she won't bring him back and my brother says he's going to come get him.

what would you do? what would Jesus do? can anything be done legally to prevent my brother from taking him back?

as for me and my brother, i really dont want to have anything to do with him.

  

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Family Drama (long) [View all] , NikaMandela, Mon Mar-16-15 12:41 PM
 
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why does he want the eldest son but not the other 2 kids?
Mar 16th 2015
1
my guess:
Mar 16th 2015
4
i knew that this was going to be about your brother
Mar 16th 2015
2
yeah this is basically part 2 of "my brother has 2 wives"
Mar 16th 2015
5
      well since the oldest was here...have you been teaching him about
Mar 16th 2015
13
           lol i dont believe in teaching children a religion personally
Mar 16th 2015
20
           what does that have to do with anything?
Mar 16th 2015
34
           listen im christian. i love jesus. you dont understand
Mar 16th 2015
37
                but you are questioning the religious practice of this kid
Mar 16th 2015
47
           there are families taught "the goodness of Jesus"
Mar 16th 2015
38
                basically
Mar 16th 2015
39
                geez can everyone lighten the F up!
Mar 16th 2015
40
                the joke was in poor form
Mar 16th 2015
41
                     seth go eat some larry's
Mar 16th 2015
42
                          Case Two is funny.
Mar 16th 2015
43
                word up
Mar 16th 2015
48
i don't understand what there is for you & your mom to do
Mar 16th 2015
3
the goal is to protect him as much as possible from all that dysfunction
Mar 16th 2015
6
      can you guys file for her?
Mar 16th 2015
35
           i think my mom tried and she was denied
Mar 16th 2015
44
um those are there kids. Unless they are in physical danger, I don't see...
Mar 16th 2015
7
well yeah. thats the reality.
Mar 16th 2015
9
      i don't...i may be missing something. Is he trying to keep the child
Mar 16th 2015
12
           im not sure if he wants to keep his children away from their mother comp...
Mar 16th 2015
19
Is the first wife American too?
Mar 16th 2015
8
no she's gambian.
Mar 16th 2015
10
I wouldn't interfere.
Mar 16th 2015
11
you wouldn't try to interfere???
Mar 16th 2015
15
      Beyond trying to talk sense into your brother..thats' about it.
Mar 16th 2015
22
      I would offer my best advise, and take a step back.
Mar 16th 2015
24
      his kids... his decision
Mar 16th 2015
25
      this nigga is about to get disowned.
Mar 16th 2015
29
      "traumitized"
Mar 16th 2015
31
           i don think its something he'll get over.
Mar 16th 2015
32
Cheaper to keep her. Uh, I mean "them"
Mar 16th 2015
14
it's another country and the wives probably don't work
Mar 16th 2015
23
they dont have family court there?
Mar 16th 2015
16
the sad part is you can't really interfere.
Mar 16th 2015
17
.
Mar 16th 2015
18
honestly this doesn't sound like you or your mother's business
Mar 16th 2015
21
Basically.
Mar 16th 2015
26
it counts for nothing that my mom has cared for my nephew for almost 2 y...
Mar 16th 2015
27
      true.
Mar 16th 2015
28
his wife, his kids
Mar 16th 2015
30
I've been in a similar situation
Mar 16th 2015
33
thank you. i appreciate this.
Mar 16th 2015
45
      I can only imagine the heartbreak
Mar 16th 2015
49
Unfortunately, all you can do is try to talk to your brother, but
Mar 16th 2015
36
the sound of his voice makes me want to earl.
Mar 16th 2015
46
you can't do anything, and neither can your mother...
Mar 16th 2015
50
does 1st wife have any proof of marriage?
Mar 16th 2015
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