But it's developed into something helpful -- I appreciate earnestness and I am put off by the lack of it.
If you don't make me feel like you're *REEEEEALLY* into me, then I assume you're not at all.
And I'm also a lot more understanding now of how my extreme introversion makes men feel. I make a big effort to explain to them that I'm into it, but need this space. A good compromise is being alone together sometimes -- same space, but quietly doing our own thing.
I am not trying to ever be with an "old man jenkins" again, or to behave like one.