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alek
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88. "for what it's worth..."
In response to In response to 87


          

>Before I respond to your post
>I just want to say
>that I let my emotions
>get the better of me
>when responding to Hotthyng.
>Thus the post was more
>of rant of frustration than
>any certifiable lesson building.
>I fucked up.

...you didn't do a much better job of controling yourself in your response to me.

I'm not trying to piss you off, believe me. I'm trying to learn, and to teach, like everybody else.

However, my response to you was definitely hasty, in that you admitted below that you'd let your emotions get the better of you.

>He asked about questions about "pleasure"
>based on his own understanding
>of what pleasure means in
>the context of another.
>Instead of asking HOW the
>"other" defined pleasure, he sarcastically
>questioned where could pleasure possibly
>come from in an "afrikan"
>context.

Agreed. I'm not saying it wasn't a somewhat cheap post.

>>Applying your worldview to everyone/everything else
>>is a WESTERN practice, and
>>guess what? You're doing
>>it.

>Actually EVERYONE apply their ideology on
>everyone and everything when trying
>to understand them which in
>an of itself is not
>right/wrong (initially that is).
>I take this into account
>when talking to anyone.

Okay. Agreed.
Actually, I think the trend toward universal human constants is definitely a western one, though. Western anthropology invented the "universal scales" and "universal methodology" of cultural inquiry. We obviously think we can be objective.

Whereas, in my experience, non-Western cultures have a more relatavist understanding of things, an understanding and acceptance of difference. But, obviously, that's not always true.

>This is nothing but ignorance,
>i.e. not knowing, which is
>not "wrong." HOwever with
>knowledge one learns that another's
>way is DIFFERENT. The problem
>is when one continually applies
>same thinking to how others
>act i.e. universalism despite KNOWLEDGE.

Completely agree.

>Hotthyng has continually done this
>DESPITE KNOWLEDGE! THAT IS THE
>PROBLEM! this isn't the
>first time this discussion has
>been brought up.

Well, in that case, neither you or Hotthyng is contributing much to the debate by pissing at each-other for your own personal reasons. At least according to your very first response.

>>Sorry, but this is a pathetic
>>response to a serious question
>>and a good point.
>>I've been studying African music
>>intensively for three straight years

>this question
>was NOT serious.

It wasn't phrased seriously, but I believe it *was* a serious question. On reading Hotthyng's original post (despite it's kind of objectionable tone), I was eager to see how you and others would respond, because I considered it (in substance) to be a valuable question that doesn't get addressed very often.

I was disappointed. Some people definitely spoke about pleasure and its cultural/cross-cultural definitions, but you mainly ranted, and I thought you (as someone with a wealth of knowledge and understanding) should be called on that.


>It
>was a pitiful and disrespectful
>attempt at humor and your
>attempt to justify it is
>also pitiful and disrespectful.

All I did was justify the content of the question. I'm not defending anyone.

>Seriously dude TRY HARDER. You
>example of African music has
>NOTHING to do with the
>topic.

Actually, it has a whole fucking lot to do with it, so don't dismiss me. I was volunteering an avenue through which other conceptions of pleasure could be explained. I know a lot about it, and (had someone else not done it for me), I would have given my personal take on pleasure in African culture -- which would have included town ritual, the aestheticization (or, depending on how you look at it, the un-aestheticization) of daily life, the integration of work and art, the integration of duty and recreation...a whole lot of relevant things.

>This had NOTHING to do with
>the topic. TRY HARDER

I don't think "TRY HARDER," even though it has a nice ring to it, has any meaning whatsoever.

Try harder to think like you?
Try harder to act like you?
Try harder to write like you?

Try harder to agree with you?

If all you're saying is, "put more care into your thoughts and actions," then that's fine but stop screaming it, and stop using it as a debating tool to grind people down. That's crap, and it's a silly shortcut ("you just don't try hard enough, that's why your argument isn't legitimate").

>>Another reactionary response to an even
>>BETTER question. Why don't
>>you give us your opinion
>>an "what the rewards of
>>discipline" are? I think
>>that'd be valuable...or at least
>>a lot more valuable that
>>castigation.

>I've discussed this SEVERAL TIMES before.

I know, I've been here for a while.

>And don't think
>I am not willing to
>re-dscuss a previously discussed topic,
>because i am. However
>I did not see the
>need in this case

So why respond?
Why let someone bait you, and why be baited?

> Thus I did not
>feel obligated to give him
>any true eye-opening answers.

see above.

>>This is hilarious. hothyng asks
>>"what does Laila offer other
>>than shouting 'you're gross!' at
>>everyone," and after you give
>>a terrific answer to that
>>question, you turn around and
>>shout "YOU'RE GROSS!!!" at him.

>Are you a dumbass or are you trying to piss me off? (I think its both)

oooooohhhh....scalding. First of all, you know me and I'm neither. I think this board has just gotten too lovey-dovey for your (and my) taste. Did you forget our disagreements?
They're fun ( ), remember them.

ANYWAYS-> utamaroho made a post detailing some of what Laila "offers."

I know. It was really good.

>When does Laila say anyone is "gross?" Again Hotthyng made a >stupid ass post based on his own personal feelings about >UTAMAROHO and NOT the author of the book that UTAMAROHO QUOTED, >AND displace his opinions of UTAMAROHO on the AUTHOR OF THE >BOOK.

Agreed. He was targeting uta and you, in a very real sense. But he DID ask the question, and you DO have an answer (which, like I said, you gave and I thought was terrific).

But...then you turned around and did exactly what he was accusing you of -- even though it was an inappropriate and irrelevant accusation.

He asked if your entire purpose was to call people gross, and you said: "No, there's this and this and this, and even asking this question makes YOU GROSS!!"

See the inconsistency?

Now you DEFENDING HIM IS HILARIOUS!!!!

I didn't.
>The difference: Most people (of
>whatever belief, culture, etc.) believe
>that their way is RIGHT
>and in some (most?)cases SUPERIOR
>to another.

yes.

However when this
>particular group of people IMPOSE
>THEIR WAY ON OTHERS DESPITE
>THE WISHES OF THE "OTHER"
>GROUP then THAT IS IMPERIALISM.

yes. good point.


>If I tell you another way
>to live, then that is
>JUST IT! I'M TELLING YOU
>NOT FORCING YOU!

okay.
thanks for...

***NOT FORCING ME!!!!!!***

>Come on man
>
>DO....
>
>aw forget it.

Oh, very good. The reliable standby, complete with inherent hypocrisy (if we all "DO" than why are we on this message board) and lack of meaning.

S:"Come on man...DO!"

A: "Oh, I see."

Alek
______________________________________
LEFT side of the bedroom, fool!
What?! What?!

____________________________
LEFT side of the bedroom, fool!
What? What?

  

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Laila Afrika & pleasure. [View all] , HotThyng76, Fri Sep-21-01 05:42 AM
 
Subject Author Message Date ID
you're high dude, but ill indulge
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
1
Just what I thought.
Sep 21st 2001
9
one day son...one day...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
12
And I was lying
Sep 21st 2001
17
scenario:
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
27
      you know uta
Sep 21st 2001
31
      Here's why.
Sep 21st 2001
32
      ok...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
35
           Huh.
Sep 21st 2001
36
                well...when cats come up apologizing for behavior...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
38
                     look utma
Sep 21st 2001
39
                     eg posts #15 & 20
Sep 21st 2001
41
                     Shhh...
Sep 21st 2001
42
                     fuck my tactics: that's the best advice i can give
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
43
                          again, DO BETTER
Sep 21st 2001
44
                          no i don't...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
46
                               i suspect
Sep 21st 2001
48
                               probably...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
51
                                    in this case
Sep 21st 2001
53
                               Questions
Sep 22nd 2001
75
                                    wow...
Sep 22nd 2001
81
                          See that's the thing
Unthinkable
Sep 21st 2001
45
                               umm...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
47
                                    i'll give u the language
Sep 21st 2001
49
                                    another thing
Unthinkable
Sep 21st 2001
54
                                         g love...is this you fuckin' w/ me?
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
55
                                              AliasesR4pussies
Sep 21st 2001
56
                                                   yep...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
57
                                                        good ones
Sep 21st 2001
58
                                                             also
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
59
                                                                  too long to type (funny fr a day or two)
Sep 21st 2001
60
                                                                  RE: also
Sep 21st 2001
61
                     well...
Sep 21st 2001
40
      RE: scenario:
Sep 21st 2001
70
RE: you're high dude, but ill indulge
Sep 21st 2001
71
That's it
Sep 21st 2001
2
heh sol
Sep 21st 2001
3
i love you
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
4
Wrath is cool
Sep 21st 2001
5
that's not what Baba Vita says
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
6
Actually
Sep 21st 2001
11
aaaaaannnnnnndddddd....
Sep 23rd 2001
85
take your medication...
Sep 23rd 2001
86
      damn shame
Sep 23rd 2001
87
          
                It's 4 PM
Sep 23rd 2001
89
                     fair enough...
Sep 23rd 2001
90
                          (((POLARITY)))
Sep 24th 2001
94
                               well, speaking of...
Sep 24th 2001
96
a note
Sep 21st 2001
7
also
Sep 21st 2001
8
I hope you didn't think I was being an a hole
Sep 21st 2001
10
actually i'm not a wierdo
Sep 21st 2001
13
      okay
Sep 21st 2001
16
werd
Sep 21st 2001
37
Yeah I blew up
Sep 21st 2001
64
      allrighty then...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
65
      U're not deep at all, are u?
Sep 22nd 2001
77
You, I agree with.
Sep 21st 2001
14
Sheilding any stones
Sep 21st 2001
62
always keep yr eyes
Sep 21st 2001
63
      RE: always keep yr eyes
Sep 22nd 2001
83
           Chewsticks
Sep 23rd 2001
91
                RE: Chewsticks
Sep 23rd 2001
92
                no
Sep 24th 2001
95
justICE
Sep 21st 2001
66
Personally...
Sep 21st 2001
67
He's got 9".
Sep 22nd 2001
78
RE: Yo, question for hot thyng...
bmig
Sep 22nd 2001
72
      It might, but
Sep 22nd 2001
79
           RE: It might, but
bmig
Sep 22nd 2001
84
baba vita said last night:
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
15
      in the meantime
Sep 21st 2001
20
           *chuckle
Sep 21st 2001
24
you're a hedonist, honey...
Sep 21st 2001
18
NO, FUCK THAT!!!
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
19
calm down...
Sep 21st 2001
21
U're funny.
Sep 21st 2001
23
      what is a sandwhich board...
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
28
           A sign you wear.
Sep 21st 2001
30
                hahahahaa
utamaroho
Sep 21st 2001
33
                     quiet?
Sep 21st 2001
34
I'm a hedonist today, yes.
Sep 21st 2001
22
      lol
Sep 21st 2001
25
           uhm what's a hedonist???
Sep 21st 2001
26
           from dictionary.com
Sep 21st 2001
50
                thanx
Sep 21st 2001
52
           Middle ground? Yup.
Sep 21st 2001
29
RE: Laila Afrika & pleasure.
Sep 21st 2001
68
RE: Laila Afrika & pleasure.
Sep 21st 2001
69
RE: Laila Afrika & pleasure.
Sep 22nd 2001
73
Good one
Sep 22nd 2001
74
Nice sig
Sep 22nd 2001
76
see: Metu Neter
Sep 22nd 2001
80
co-sign/post o the day
Sep 22nd 2001
82
*applause*
Sep 24th 2001
93

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