and yes, holding a race-based dating preference does make you a racist. b/c you're literally engaging in race-based prejudice (aka pre-judging ppl based on their race) and even deciding which race is superior. it all adds up to 'race' and 'ism'. now, whether you find that a negative or positive is on you, i guess. i don't think it has to be a negative thing. maybe you prefer ppl of a certain race b/c you want to make biological children w/them and you want those kids to be of a particular race - that's all good. and it's racist as fuck. again, do you. if you like it i love it.

i feel hold my own prejudiced preference myself, i think - if/when i marry a dude i would prefer it if he's Black. i have pre-judged non-Black men based on their race and decided they will make inferior husbands. i have decided that Black men are superior - based on their race. i think my reasons are primarily positive. but this is a race-based preference that's rooted in prejudice. b/c i haven't met every single non-Black man or every Black man so how do i know that no non-Black man out there can make a great husband for me? how do i know that there's no non-Black man out there who would be better for me as a husband than a Black man? i don't but i'm using my prejudices and stereotyping dudes. and i'm okay w/that, for the most part. though i fear if i stick w/the absolute of my prejudiced preference i may miss out on a good man. but is he 'good' if he's not what i say i want? i dunno.

IMO the holding of the prejudice is racist and stating it is definitely racist. b/c why say that shit? what is the point otherwise? i can keep that shit to myself and just tell non-Black dudes i'm not interested on a case-by-case basis w/o alerting them to my prejudice. all they need to know is that i'm not interested - they don't need to know that i will never be interested solely b/c of their race. which isn't even about THEM as individuals it's about biological and social science facts that are beyond their control. they don't need to know that i'm not interested in getting to know them as ppl - i have written them off. they don't need to know but i tell them anyway and that's racist, i think. or it's at least hurtful and unnecessary.

anyway, yeah. DAS RACIST! but fuck it.

fuck you.

Black girls tawnbout "I date older white men only."

Look here, you backpage bitch...

Lol

Stay salty, my friends.

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They strongly prefer to date someone white. Or they are interested in every race but black women. It helps me out. There are ppl who I could have saved a lot of time dating if I had saw their okcupid profile before we started dating.

"... finally a Black girl who likes Idiocracy, Evil Dead and 4 non blondes. That's so rar-- no Black guys? Wtf? Have you met all Black guys? Fuck your daddy."

Da bayball, babeh. (c) Charlie Kelly.

just talking about 'cultural compatibility' in whatever company... it is near enough impossible to condemn someone for...


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Mainly Black and Brown girls for me.

But I do like redhead Becky's.

fuck you.

preferences is probably racist.

The difference is dating your race can be based on the desire to date someone with a common life experience as you. There is nothing racist about that.

All other racial dating preferences though is premised on some racist stereotype.


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Having a preference for blonde or brunette wouldn't equal only wanting to be surrounded by blondes or brunettes at work.

Aesthetic preferences for dating can surely be separated from the rest of equality - there is no accounting for taste, but there is plenty of accounting for hiring practises.



EDIT: Having a preference for dating "within your own race" may well be racist as fuck, tbh... having an honest preference isn't a problem, but blinkering yourself from the possibility that you'd find another race attractive probably is.

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Every eye skin and hair color

"Blonde and Brunette" was just an example of a couple of aesthetic preferences. There are others.

Everyone has traits they prefer and traits they're not attracted to. They're different for all of us.

Choosing a 'most attractive' race without evaluating the others or acknowledging that most people aren't aesthetic stereotypes to their race? Yeah, that'd be racist.

Having a preference of traits after evaluating all traits? Nah, that's just human. Taste is a thing. No answer is correct or incorrect when it comes to sexual attraction.

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whether you specifically want to date your race or you specifically don't want to date your race. Point is you drawing that race line

we keep it moving,

if enough of the same people get together who want to live and work together it can lead to discrimination, redlining, etc...

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Ranking of races to determine which is superior.

Racist.

fuck you.

Does that make those with a natural blonde preference 'prejudiced' against natural brunettes?

Or is it more like deciding between Jazz and Soul? i.e. Entirely subjective and therefore inconsequential? Neither are objectively "better", but one is "preferred".

I think using terms that pertain to race is probably backwards and may point to underlying racism, but it's an incredibly difficult call. Variation amongst members of the same "race" is probably high enough for "I'm not attracted to black women" or "I'm only attracted to white women" to be factually incorrect (and therefore evidence of internalised racism), but having aesthetic preferences is not, in itself, racist... it's true of most people.

I lean to agreeing that verbalising it along racial lines is problematic and arguably racist. But then I'd think it would be unnecessary to write "I only date blondes" - what's wrong with only messaging/responding to blondes! It's the need to advertise that's weird...

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>Does that make those with a natural blonde preference
>'prejudiced' against natural brunettes?

yeah.

>Or is it more like deciding between Jazz and Soul? i.e.
>Entirely subjective and therefore inconsequential? Neither are
>objectively "better", but one is "preferred".

no b/c jazz and soul aren't ppl.

fuck you.

Where is the Exercise of power based on race in wanting to date someone who has shared experiences?

Where is the Ranking of races to determine which is superior by deciding you want to date someone who you can relate more easily with?

>Racist.


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Deciding their attractiveness based on race w/o even meeting them.

>Where is the Exercise of power based on race in wanting to
>date someone who has shared experiences?

Exercising one's power to choose who one dates based on race.

>Where is the Ranking of races to determine which is superior
>by deciding you want to date someone who you can relate more
>easily with?

Deciding that Black women are more relatable as compared to non-Black women. BW's relatability is superior or BW's are superior based on their assumed relatability.

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>whether you're

fuck you.

sometimes unconsciously. they think this person will fit in and be like me because they share the same skin color.

I've found that I am most attracted to a certain subset of Black Women.

That doesn't mean I can date ALL black women.

It's stupid to compare my dating preferences to work place discrimination because in my dating preferences there is nothing wrong with selecting a partner based on shared experiences, eye color, height, whatever.

There is no reason to make hiring decisions based on such arbitrary factors.


>sometimes unconsciously. they think this person will fit in
>and be like me because they share the same skin color.


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because of their race and they may not. they may be from an entirely different country/culture and or class and have had completely different experiences than you.

Given that we're talking DATING WEBSITES, most people are making that first selection based off the photo. There's nothing guaranteeing there's anything more going on than "I'd hit that" or "I wouldn't hit that".

Not all people confer special "personal relatability" traits along with other aesthetic traits - i.e. I think most people would agree it'd be ludicrous to say "I relate to blondes better than brunettes" but it wouldn't be ludicrous to say "I only date blondes because they get my dick harder".

There are certainly cases and it might even be a LOT of cases where racism and the sort of thinking you describe above come into it... but the OP said it was racist full stop. It's not. It only can be.

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and nobody should feel shame for their preference.

Is it heterophobic for you to state your gender based preference??



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...brunettes over blondes? Or ass over titties?

>and nobody should feel shame for their preference.
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But to discount whole races has its basis in discrimination. No two ways around it.

No Irish Need Apply? Thats racism.

Da bayball, babeh. (c) Charlie Kelly.

Discounting a race because you hold hatred against them directly related to their skin color and simply having a preference because you're naturally attracted to a certain type of person.

So to even be on the lookout for tan or pale or super dark, any number of races can fit that bill. Why discount people in advance? And advertise that your mind is exclusive that way?

Da bayball, babeh. (c) Charlie Kelly.

My only point, personally, is that I don't think it's racist to acknowledge "I haven't historically been attracted to many darker skinned women". It's as natural as preferences to girls who look a certain way based on hair, eyes, ass, whatever. It's the same thing.

That's WAY different than someone saying "I won't date black girls". That has basis in prejudice, you're right.

But I don't think it's racist, at all, to acknowledge what your preferences tend to be based on your life's experience.

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Not "I tend to like this" but "I will not date (x)"

That's the bit I find racist.

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People try to make those two the same thing.

"Oh you like light-skinned women...you're racist or have self-hate"

That shit just isn't the case. Having a preference is different than "NOT dating someone solely based on race."

People need to stop fighting reality.

It's about, you're at South Beach and your eyes naturally going to a specific type of person time and time again. Yeah you look at ALL of the fine women, but if I said...pick one to take out tonight...you're going to pick one and you know what...if we did the same thing the next day, your end choice would be similar. And it has nothing to do with you being racist and everything with how your eyes and brain view the women.

People have preferences.

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fuck you.

Because in my head racism is a deeply harmful thought process leading to false schisms in society... and having a favoured hair colour is just having a favoured hair colour.

Are all the white women going bottle-blonde just fanning the fires of their own self hate? Are you saying they think Scandinavians are superior because they've got lighter hair? Does "more fuckable" really equal "superior"? To anyone who isn't a porn agent?

This sort of conversation is why a lot of reactionary dicks dismiss racism in 2015 as petty. Racism is not petty, but as a society we often get bogged down in petty interpretations of it.

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>Because in my head racism is a deeply harmful thought process
>leading to false schisms in society... and having a favoured
>hair colour is just having a favoured hair colour.

i don't think colorism is necessarily as harmful to society or individuals as racism.

fuck you.

>Is it heterophobic for you to state your gender based
>preference??
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It's sexist...lol

I'm bout done with the over sensitivity and all the rules.

>Is it heterophobic for you to state your gender based
>preference??

at times, yes. it definitely can be.

i agree that i have some irrational fear of heterosexuals and heterosexuality. if that's heterophobia i'll be that. just like i also have some irrational fear of homosexuals and homosexuality. i'm a homophobe - as many of us gays are. even those of us who're out.

fuck you.

Option to some blonde chick. But I don't really date anymore so it doesn't really matter.

not in line with my preferences

Why even let it get to that level unless it was a preference you could overlook in the first place, is my thinking

The publishing of that myopia says volumes to me.

Da bayball, babeh. (c) Charlie Kelly.

he says as much in the original post

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I'm talking about just not dating a type of person you are not into

I've had white girls throw it at me but i keep it friendly without saying 'i'm not into white girls'

i don't think when you first meet someone and they are trying to spark interest you have any obligation to tell them the reason is due to your own dating prejudices. I was assuming this post was dealing with more depth than that, maybe I'm wrong

there's no reason to go there - except to be an asshole.

fuck you.

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people outside your race.

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if a black guy prefers white girls i'd like to know that too.
so i skip them as well.

I mean I know this is OKP and a lot of us truly believe that the way we see things is rational no matter how irrational it is, but the only thing I'd ask of anyone is to at least not be an asshole about your racism or prejudices.

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It's better expressed as "I do or do not care so much about the ethnic features of the humans I date". Because the only interracial dating that has ever occurred (at least to me as an armchair anthropologist) would be between Neanderthals and Homo Sapiens.

Interestingly enough whites and Asians have the highest concentrations of Neanderthal DNA (3-4% on average) which seems to suggest this as being the truest form of "race mixing" among genetically distinct races of human. And yet Darwin considered those aforementioned groups to be superior-- proving yet again his scientific motives are not to be trusted.

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for the same reasons, assumed shared experience, that's what they prefer to look at, that's who they're comfortable with, etc. we're not saying that makes them a bad person. but the reality is it's racist.

their race.

and people who want to work and live around their own people open up some serious liabilities like work discrimination, redlining, lack of funding in certain neighborhoods, etc...

preferring to date your own race isn't in the same boat.

it may be a life boat attached to it but that shit ain't the same.

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and act based on those prejudices are wonderful folks who make positive contributions to society outside of their racism.

and those folks also think their race-based prejudices are positive or at the worst benign but definitely not negative.

my saying that dating preference for your own race or any particular race is racist doesn't necessarily mean i think it's a negative.

fuck you.

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but not wanting to date someone else because of their race (which is the same damn thing) is racist.

i'm not sure what to do about it tho, cause i'm in the same boat that you are.
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not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

that would be racist...

but having a preference to marry a Black woman isn't racist at all.

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nah, i'll pass.

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the post is fine w/o you.

fuck you.

but it can be based on bigoted views but isn't necessarily so

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