Do you feel like a kid in a candy store when it comes to your dating options?

I’ve always said that if I was a dude in NYC, ATL, D.C. etc. I’d be overwhelmed by all the honey dips in these cities. (Yes, I said honey dips in the year of our Lord 2018. Word to Portrait and the Boogiemonsters).

I’m particularly interested in responses from hetero/cis-gendered Black men who only (or mostly) date straight/cis Black women in cities where Black upward mobility is more common.

To me, to be an interesting, beautiful, educated, cultured, funny and driven Black woman is to be average in these cities.

But! I know so many amazing (and attractive!) women who are looking for partnership but they’re not finding it. I go on social media and there’s a lot lamenting about dating options. I never hear this from my male counterparts. I tend to follow college-educated/creative/socially conscious dudes, writers, DJs, etc.

While I never bought into the notion there’s barely any good single men out there, I feel like there aren’t as many of them as us. Decent dudes seem to have it waaaay better than Black women. Some blame it on incarceration rates among Black men but I won’t go there...

Disclaimer:
I am NOT speaking from my personal experience as I don’t date. Never been in a real relationship. Had one “situationship” from 2016-2017 and it was HORRIFYING. LOL. But again, I haven’t had negative experiences looking for romantic partners cuz I’ve never actively looked. I don’t slide into DMs, I’m not on Tinder, etc.

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