1. "Maybe the diner owner should've asked the entire family to leave." In response to Reply # 0
She did ask the parents to take the girl outside and they didn't. But I'm with the diner owner and I understand if that family and others won't return to the restaurant. She seems cool with that too.
27. "The parents are too soft. This statement tells me everything I need" In response to Reply # 1
to know about them, "I felt helpless as a mom that, you know, I couldn't do anything to help her, because I can't explain why there's crazy people in this world that behave like that." Your child is not that delicate of a flower, she/he can handle a 2 second scolding and be alright. That being said, the owner didn't need to issue after the fact threats; she wasn't going to do sh*t.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Wed Jul-22-15 05:51 PM
2. "i hate people sometimes... " In response to Reply # 0
yell at the parents.
she really feels good about yelling at the kid?
and the parents aren't much better with their soft ass response to the kid.
you yell at my kid I am fucking you up.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
4. "she should have just made them leave" In response to Reply # 0 Wed Jul-22-15 06:01 PM by SHAstayhighalways
i'm mad considerate where my child is concerned so it would have never reached that point but you slam your hands down on the counter and yell at my child we fighting.
edited to add: those parents are assholes. if the owner is telling the truth and they really weren't giving their kid the damn pancakes wtf is wrong with them?
9. "sure. But this sounds more like a tantrum." In response to Reply # 7
And I understand that sometimes at least some parents let the kid go on while the parent ignores the tantrum bc they don't want the kid to learn that acting out will result in them getting the parent's attention. If that's what these parents were doing that's fine with me generally. But if the diner owner asked them to quiet the girl or take her outside the parents should've done so, I think.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Wed Jul-22-15 07:04 PM
13. "nah, dont use my business as a teachable moment" In response to Reply # 9
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
8. "by letting her make a scene? lol " In response to Reply # 6
i mean maybe that WAS their logic but unless you're on a plane where you can't leave you can't subject people to shit like this i don't even like when my son is screaming at home i'm not about to make everyone deal with his screaming in public i will give him a warning or two and if he still has a meltdown i'm out. people are usually understanding but 40 damn minutes while people are trying to eat GTFOH that means some people had to sit they entire meal with this child screaming that's just not fair.
i'm just glad he's off that shit these days he used to bug out every time we'd leave the book store bc there's a thomas & friends train set up that he was obsessed with smh other than that he's good
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Wed Jul-22-15 07:09 PM
14. "I'm saying... it amazes me how patient parents are in public" In response to Reply # 8
but I bet they be quick on the draw at home.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
51. "ugh so glad my kid don't be having full blown tantrums like that" In response to Reply # 37
he would scream and cry when we'd leave the book store so i would just make that the last stop in the mall and go home when he got crazy he doesn't do that anymore bc he's kinda over thomas and friends tho
he loves going to the store and even in the toy store he doesn't trip when we have to go (we always leave with something if we go there tho)
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 09:51 AM
53. "target? shiieeet, walmart is cool but control your kid in target. " In response to Reply # 37
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
15. "No harm, no foul. Fuck those parents though" In response to Reply # 0
If your kid wants to wig out, hey, shit happens. Just have the basic sense and decency to remove your kid.
Since they didn't, and all the owner did was yell, it's all good and I'm more than happy to eat at a place where it's expected that you remove your kid if they're on one because that's what I've done in that situation.
16. "I see things from the business owner's perspective." In response to Reply # 0
I've never yelled at any of my customer's children, but I've wanted to. If I owned the company I worked for- best believe I'd do everything short of yelling if the situation called for it, including side-eye, deliberate pointed glaring, telling some people their business isn't wanted, and threatening to have them escorted off the premises by the authorities. Some folks wouldn't believe the kind of behavior that results from customer's sense of entitlement in the retail/service industry...
I wouldn't raise my voice because that's not how I operate in general, but I don't fault her for doing so in that situation- especially since it's her establishment. Shit, that HAS to be one of the perks of not working under anyone.
If the parents (and other patrons) want to take their money elsewhere it's probably in everyone's best interests that they do so.
18. "as much as i hate bad ass kids and their unattentive parents" In response to Reply # 0
the owner was in the wrong it's a kid, a two year old at that they aren't capable of controlling themselves let along their emotions
she should have kindly ask the parents to quiet her down or leave bc it was disturbing the other patrons. if someone yelled at my kid i'd punch them in the face.
25. "but the kid shut up tho. " In response to Reply # 18
Believe me i am on the fence with this story. I think the parents were more embarrassed that a stranger could control their child better than they could.
If it was impossible for the kid to stop the kid would have kept fussing after the owner yelled. But the kid shut up. The parents need to take notes.
Either remove the child and teach them at home that causing a scene will not get them anywhere or let a real adult show u how to handle the situation and stfu and take notes.
I bet the parents handle it better the next time they go to a public restaurant. 🙋 Music is almost everything.
31. "her story is she did..." In response to Reply # 18
>the owner was in the wrong >it's a kid, a two year old at that >they aren't capable of controlling themselves let along their >emotions > >she should have kindly ask the parents to quiet her down or >leave bc it was disturbing the other patrons. if someone >yelled at my kid i'd punch them in the face.
as a parent of a 5 year old I am even more aware of other kids behavior in public than I was before. The shit I see is fucking insane. The wife went off on some lady at the movies last month. We were in the back row because it has a wide aisle where I can get the most leg room. Im a tall drink of water and I like to stretch my shit out. This lady thought it was fine to let her 2 year old wander around that big aisle. We told her once that it was distracting. Then the kid starts crying through the entire movie and she never left so the wife basically told her get out of here. She left and never came back. When I am at restaurants I see kids running around, climbing under tables, and constantly crying. But the parents just let it go. Making excuses like oh well they are 2 or 3 they are kids. I dont give a fuck how they act at home but when you bring them bad ass kids to a public space you have to take into account everyone else. If I have magically been able to keep my son from acting like a fucking caveman out in public then you should be able to do it too. I would be pissed if someone yelled at my kid too. But I would never let it get to that point where he was ruining everyone else's day.
November 8th, 2005 The greatest night in the history of GD!
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 09:53 AM
55. "she opened a business, hired people and made pancakes..." In response to Reply # 34
Wtf else does she need to do? chew the food and feed it to the kid like a bird?
the parents wouldn't feed a hungry kid in a restaurant.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
30. "two wrongs don't make a right. this woman is hilarious though" In response to Reply # 0
(read the facebook comments) AND I don't blame her one bit.
I think she did what she thought was best to quiet the baby and provide a decent place for her customers. it wasn't a nice thing. but sometimes you gotta do not nice things for the greater good.
33. "Anyone siding with the owner is foolish" In response to Reply # 0
I tried to give the owner the benefit of the doubt because we've all been annoyed by a crying/screaming children. But even in the video the owner comes off rude and mean-spirited. She serves pancakes but doesn't know how to deal with a customer having a crying baby? lmao
The couple didn't just walk into her home with a crying baby. Instead, they came into her diner to get service and put money in her pocket. She needs to be smarter than that.
38. "So did the other customers and they expect to eat unmolested" In response to Reply # 33
The owner's rudeness on camera has nothing to do with what happened. The parents failed to handle the situation and inconvenienced the rest of the patrons in a very cramped diner. They were provided with ample opportunity to address their child's behavior and were provided with multiple cues that the owner would like for them to either leave or take the child out. Nothing the owner did will have an impact on this child, so what is the big issue here?
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 09:55 AM
56. "i bet she makes more money by shutting the kid up vs letting her cry" In response to Reply # 33
I don't go back to restaurants that feel like a playground...
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 09:58 AM
59. "nah, we hate parents who ignore tantrums in public" In response to Reply # 43
and I'm about to have a seed so my position may change but I have been with nieces and nephews and I always handled them properly when they tried to throw tantrums in public
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
now why would you have done that? maybe because you respect the other patrons of the diner and want everyone to enjoy themselves. and that level of respect would have been appreciated and admired. but to act like everyone else has to be comfortable with your child's behavior...that's inconsiderate. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
52. "exactly. no one is mad at the kid for screaming" In response to Reply # 46
but mad at the parents for not doing anything about the screaming. i would slap the shit out of anybody yelling at my kid BUT it would have never gotten to that point bc i wouldn't have my child screaming for 40 minutes in a restaurant
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79724 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 09:59 AM
60. "shut that honky baby up!!!!" In response to Reply # 0
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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