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initiationofplato
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Thu Feb-26-15 10:17 AM

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"Am I whipped or doing the right thing?"


          

I'm incapable of holding secrets from my s.o. It doesn't matter how small, if I don't confess to something I did, it eats me up inside and torments me.

I've never understood how people are able to get some side action and keep it a secret. Doesn't it burn with guilt? How do you look someone in the face after a clear violation and pretend everything is ok? It doesn't even have to be cheating, anything really, any little lie, etc. If I don't have the truth I feel lost.

Even if it's embarrassing or points to some insecurity I'm entertaining, I have to let the cat out of the bag.

I even let my girl know which members of the opposite sex I hold conversation's and friendships with.

So, am I whipped or doing the right thing?

Is it better to be transparent or to hold something back for yourself?

~Experience is the currency of the soul.

  

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as long as she doesn't feel like you're oversharing y'all good
Feb 26th 2015
1
She appreciates it
Feb 26th 2015
3
u know what ur problem is? u are putting the pussy on a pedestal
Feb 26th 2015
2
Ha!
Feb 26th 2015
4
some things are better left unsaid & familiarity breeds contempt
Feb 26th 2015
5
yes. you're an idiot. a selfish one at that.
Feb 26th 2015
6
lol, you're so extra.
Feb 26th 2015
7
between #3 and #5
Feb 26th 2015
8
Agreed
Feb 26th 2015
9
      'my sources say no.'
Feb 26th 2015
10
It sounds like you've found what works for you.
Feb 26th 2015
11

bonitaapplebaum71481
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Thu Feb-26-15 11:20 AM

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1. "as long as she doesn't feel like you're oversharing y'all good"
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*shrug*


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initiationofplato
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Thu Feb-26-15 11:36 AM

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3. "She appreciates it"
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Thu Feb-26-15 11:39 AM by initiationofplato

          

I do it specifically so that she feels comfortable to tell me whatever she is thinking/feeling and is never in the position that she has to lie to me.

I think most long term relationships are destroyed by secrecy, I may be wrong and maybe it's secrecy that aids in their longevity, but from personal experience, it's always the little things which grow into cancerous monsters in the future.

What are the things I should hold back though?

~Experience is the currency of the soul.

  

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thegodcam
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Thu Feb-26-15 11:31 AM

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2. "u know what ur problem is? u are putting the pussy on a pedestal"
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initiationofplato
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Thu Feb-26-15 11:37 AM

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4. "Ha!"
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you're probably right though

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Atillah Moor
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Thu Feb-26-15 11:43 AM

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5. "some things are better left unsaid & familiarity breeds contempt "
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Deadzombie
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Thu Feb-26-15 12:20 PM

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6. "yes. you're an idiot. a selfish one at that."
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initiationofplato
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Thu Feb-26-15 12:29 PM

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7. "lol, you're so extra."
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infin8
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Thu Feb-26-15 12:31 PM

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8. "between #3 and #5"
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noone can tell you what's appropriate for YOUR relationship but you n h.e.r.

the truth (for you) lies in balance responses 3 and 5.


or get a magic 8-ball.

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initiationofplato
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Thu Feb-26-15 01:02 PM

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9. "Agreed"
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>or get a magic 8-ball.

ha! I've tried those, seems like they are rigged.

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infin8
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Thu Feb-26-15 01:54 PM

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10. "'my sources say no.'"
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lol

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Wonderl33t
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Thu Feb-26-15 02:05 PM

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11. "It sounds like you've found what works for you."
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If it's something you're doing out of your own character and not because she demands it, then do your thing and don't worry about it. I think if you start to feel obligated and you feel like you're being overly demanded of, then there's an issue.

I know how you feel. I'm a super honest guy and a terrible liar/hider on top of that. My gal knows it. So basically if I screw up somehow, it's going to be an honest mistake, so we have that understanding.


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