"Gender WARZ: Successful ladies, stop waiting for a man as successful as ..."
You finna be single 4eva. Your pool is too small and competition was too stiff. Those successful-ass men don't have the same criteria you have. They'll take you OR a broke chick. Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours right today.
7. "most men with money/success maybe." In response to Reply # 1
i think most/avg man would choose sanaa and her paper.
or i would.
ion't even drink starbucks
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
34. "my wife been making more than me for the last few years." In response to Reply # 30
We are in the same bracket but her paper is more. And i love it...sheeit, i'd scream it from the rooftops lol
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
52. "no, you arent. lol" In response to Reply # 37
>just replying to what you said.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
47. "Not afraid at all. Women that make "significantly" more than me..." In response to Reply # 30 Thu Sep-03-15 10:35 AM by flipnile
...just don't date me. By "significantly" I'm talking $30k+ more money a year. Never dated a woman that made that much more than me. Never dated girls from wealthy families when I was younger, either.
Economic stratification is a real thing when it comes to dating.
32. "nope but i'd get what i needed and get it out if that was the case." In response to Reply # 9
I don't think its fair to say that would be the case with all women anyway.
Besides, wasn't jlo giving some dude an allowance. I'd sign up for that.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
2. "Do you think this applies across different races & cultures?" In response to Reply # 0
>You finna be single 4eva. Your pool is too small and >competition was too stiff. Those successful-ass men don't have >the same criteria you have. They'll take you OR a broke chick. >Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours >right today.
12. "No! No! No! My brotha.." In response to Reply # 10
that female cardiologist is hangin wit the female neurosurgeon & they both gettin it in. You thinkin they at home watchin OWN, they're the biggest playas & doin numbers.
Stop sleepin!
>That male cardiologist is still dating nurses while that >female cardiologist is looking for a neurosurgeon.
17. "nurses are professionals with 4-6 year degrees often." In response to Reply # 15
it's not like they're marrying women without degrees like you're suggesting women should do and are already doing. 51% of black women with degrees marry guys without.
26. "you added all of your baggage" In response to Reply # 17
>it's not like they're marrying women without degrees like >you're suggesting women should do and are already doing. 51% >of black women with degrees marry guys without.
That ain't what this post is about. Nobody saying successful women gotta marry bum-ass niggas. I'm saying don't turn down the CPA nigga working in internal audit because you're a senior VP.
50. "Ndibs, I'm a regular-ass nigga" In response to Reply # 42
I'm handsome and charming and in possession with what I believe to be above-average dick game (In all fairness, I haven't had any dick to compare it to). I got me a lil degree (creative, at that!) and make a lil money. I have become an excellent husband, father and life-partner. You'd be lucky to have me.
The point of this post is "regular-ass niggas" are catches. stop waiting for your Kameela-ass nigga.
65. "I don't know anything about your relative level of success" In response to Reply # 62
but you seem to be hit-dogging all over this post. I like you and would probably holla, were I single and in Omaha. I doubt that would be "dating up". Keep our head up, Ndibs.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
28. "holla at me when you meet some successful female doctors..." In response to Reply # 15 Thu Sep-03-15 10:12 AM by Big Kuntry
or successful female lawyers who pulling in numbers.
Case in point this weekend in DC, they had the #dinerenblanc. Countless BEAUTIFUL women makin bank! Carrying brothas left & right. Maybe from your vantage point the pool is small and you think that the competition is stiff but that outlook is old.
55. "isn't that significantly less than an avg doctor" In response to Reply # 44
>I know several of them and all of them are doing 80K+, >easily. >____________________________________________________________________
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
45. "Cats with REAL paper want a trophy wife that doesn't work..." In response to Reply # 8
>especially this part: They'll take you OR a broke chick. >Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours >right today. > >Brothas that look good on paper for the most part aint battin >an eye at a youngin thats not making over 55-60 or at least a >home owner. > >we may smash a Keisha but we aint wifing her
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 80224 posts
Thu Sep-03-15 02:46 PM
86. "this is the first and last time you will hear it" In response to Reply # 73
its very untrue.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
76. "i've seen it go both ways..." In response to Reply # 75
not counting out what you're saying but for the couples that *I* know who are "successful" have managed to keep both their professional & family lives in check.
and usually those relationships where the dude steps out, it's deeper than her just bein focused on her career.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 80224 posts
Thu Sep-03-15 12:50 PM
80. "when most dudes step out it aint deep at all bruh..." In response to Reply # 76
it's different Pussy and he didn't think he would get caught...
now leaving the marriage altogether... hell, even that ain't deep.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
16. "the majority of college educated black women marry" In response to Reply # 0
men without degrees. most women are not looking for someone equally successful, convicts and jobless bums have no problem starting families or finding nice women with decent jobs to latch onto. for what you're saying to make any sense there would have to be an overabundance of guys out there who are lonesome and looking but can't find a decent woman. nah there are a bunch of men satisfied to be single or are dating / marrying up. so this post can end here.
19. "This post is not about "college educated black women"" In response to Reply # 16
It's about women, of any race, who can generally be called successful. For the sake of discussion, let's say upper-middle class or middle class with graduate degrees.
-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Thu Sep-03-15 11:34 AM
68. "Here's my thing. I feel that some successful women may not get" In response to Reply # 0
that men don't value their career success in the way that they do with us...so I will hear some of them appear to be surprised when a guy does chose a woman who's "not at their level" over them, or just in general.
What I can say is that for me, the career success isn't a major factor, and I'm more about the time you have. It's a complete mixture...some professional women I know will work a solid 40-45 hours a week, while some work 65-70. Then, some women who want to be actresses or even some who aren't established yet may work/attend school 50-60 hours a week, while some only work 20-30.
And with that, I'm really just about who has more time to spend, plus what their overall goals are, versus where they currently are. I don't want an unemployed chick who has nothing BUT time, but if we can only see each other once a month, it damn sure won't work.
82. "this mostly isn't true" In response to Reply # 0
most men DO care about what a woman brings to the table financially.
and please understand what "broke" means to a woman. it means crusty feet, DIY hair, wack gear and cheap perfume. if a woman is broke, she does not have the financial resources to look her best, and aint no dude wifing that unless he's subsidizing.
and unlike men, women in this position do not have the option of hoping that a man will see her "potential" and wife her anyway.
i also feel like a lot of dudes may not necessarily have an opinion about a woman's finances, but when they come across someone who is significantly more successful than them, that can be a strong motivating factor in marrying her.
88. "there's a difference between broke and trifling..." In response to Reply # 82
>and please understand what "broke" means to a woman. it means >crusty feet, DIY hair, wack gear and cheap perfume. if a woman >is broke, she does not have the financial resources to look >her best, and aint no dude wifing that unless he's >subsidizing.
I know plenty of broke chicks that stay fly, conversely I know plenty of "successful career women" who don't put in as nearly as much effort in keeping themselves up.
Last week I met a chick at happy hour who is a very successful attorney in her late 30's and makes well into 6 figures but her feet were ashy and crusty as a mf and it looked like she had never had a pedicure EVER. Immediate turnoff. And she had the never to be complaining about not being able to find a man "on her level", lol
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