You finna be single 4eva. Your pool is too small and competition was too stiff. Those successful-ass men don't have the same criteria you have. They'll take you OR a broke chick. Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours right today.

However, it's true that if most men had to choose between:

1. Sanaa Lathan
2. The chick that works Starbucks that looks like Sanaa Lathan

A lot (most?) will choose #2.

i think most/avg man would choose sanaa and her paper.

or i would.

ion't even drink starbucks

You can borrow her Benz if you want, but the snark would probably be off the chain.

.

We are in the same bracket but her paper is more. And i love it...sheeit, i'd scream it from the rooftops lol

just replying to what you said.

>just replying to what you said.

...just don't date me. By "significantly" I'm talking $30k+ more money a year. Never dated a woman that made that much more than me. Never dated girls from wealthy families when I was younger, either.

Economic stratification is a real thing when it comes to dating.

*shruggles*

Some men don't want an allowance. Or as Patrice O'neal said

"Have you met my husband the wife?"

I don't think its fair to say that would be the case with all women anyway.

Besides, wasn't jlo giving some dude an allowance. I'd sign up for that.

>You finna be single 4eva. Your pool is too small and
>competition was too stiff. Those successful-ass men don't have
>the same criteria you have. They'll take you OR a broke chick.
>Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours
>right today.

Or are you speaking to a specific group?

They'll take you OR a broke chick.
>Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours
>right today.

Why can't I get a chance, ma? I got mixtapes out. Shit's gonna pop any day now and I'll be outta mom's crib and international stunting in no time.

especially this part: They'll take you OR a broke chick. Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours right today.

Brothas that look good on paper for the most part aint battin an eye at a youngin thats not making over 55-60 or at least a home owner.

we may smash a Keisha but we aint wifing her

That male cardiologist is still dating nurses while that female cardiologist is looking for a neurosurgeon.

that female cardiologist is hangin wit the female neurosurgeon & they both gettin it in. You thinkin they at home watchin OWN, they're the biggest playas & doin numbers.

Stop sleepin!

>That male cardiologist is still dating nurses while that
>female cardiologist is looking for a neurosurgeon.

dating or married to nurses

it's not like they're marrying women without degrees like you're suggesting women should do and are already doing. 51% of black women with degrees marry guys without.

>it's not like they're marrying women without degrees like
>you're suggesting women should do and are already doing. 51%
>of black women with degrees marry guys without.


That ain't what this post is about. Nobody saying successful women gotta marry bum-ass niggas. I'm saying don't turn down the CPA nigga working in internal audit because you're a senior VP.

My wife got TWO degrees that end in a "D". Of course she's more educated than me, and just about everyone else.

...I ain't gonna make it.

>My wife got TWO degrees that end in a "D".

and/or better family. Don't think youre a special snowflake.

I'm handsome and charming and in possession with what I believe to be above-average dick game (In all fairness, I haven't had any dick to compare it to). I got me a lil degree (creative, at that!) and make a lil money. I have become an excellent husband, father and life-partner. You'd be lucky to have me.

The point of this post is "regular-ass niggas" are catches. stop waiting for your Kameela-ass nigga.

and also imagining standards for women like me who are overlooked by black men because were anot high status.

do not have light skin.
and or are not high income.

but you seem to be hit-dogging all over this post. I like you and would probably holla, were I single and in Omaha. I doubt that would be "dating up". Keep our head up, Ndibs.

Of course you're going to have a hard time finding a good black man. You're in the Sahara as far as that particular resource is concerned.

when we're all fractured pieces of a fractured culture...

this is why we can't have nice things.

I need to get my ass down to community college and enroll in the RN program.

Friendly game of bball in the driveway turns into you throwing a no-look pass to step-mom, busting her nose.

or successful female lawyers who pulling in numbers.

Case in point this weekend in DC, they had the #dinerenblanc. Countless BEAUTIFUL women makin bank! Carrying brothas left & right. Maybe from your vantage point the pool is small and you think that the competition is stiff but that outlook is old.

I know several of them and all of them are doing 80K+, easily.
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>I know several of them and all of them are doing 80K+,
>easily.
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and the pay disparity ain't as great either depending on specialties.
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>especially this part: They'll take you OR a broke chick.
>Cookin-ass Keisha's stock may actually be higher than yours
>right today.
>
>Brothas that look good on paper for the most part aint battin
>an eye at a youngin thats not making over 55-60 or at least a
>home owner.
>
>we may smash a Keisha but we aint wifing her

i got nothing to add.

I don't know what circles you move in and I don't necessarily agree with all that's being said here, but that's news to me.

its very untrue.

>its very untrue.
>
>

everybody wanna be Jay and Beyonce...

In the real world those relationships almost never last.

The women is more focused on her "career" than her man and he ends up fucking his secretary.

not counting out what you're saying but for the couples that *I* know who are "successful" have managed to keep both their professional & family lives in check.

and usually those relationships where the dude steps out, it's deeper than her just bein focused on her career.

it's different Pussy and he didn't think he would get caught...

now leaving the marriage altogether... hell, even that ain't deep.

men without degrees. most women are not looking for someone equally successful, convicts and jobless bums have no problem starting families or finding nice women with decent jobs to latch onto. for what you're saying to make any sense there would have to be an overabundance of guys out there who are lonesome and looking but can't find a decent woman. nah there are a bunch of men satisfied to be single or are dating / marrying up. so this post can end here.

What kinda education? Job? Looks? Ethnicity? etc.

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?????

...so she can stop going all FOX News on black men every time a dating or marriage post comes up.

.

Plus, I'm a big black guy, so I can throw you around in that good way.

So, what say ye?

i gotta get back to work.. you have fun with this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QjsPG0Kspxo

...of my career.

But, ndibs ain't feeling me. She's never responded to even ONE of my not-so-subtle posts over the years.

It's about women, of any race, who can generally be called successful. For the sake of discussion, let's say upper-middle class or middle class with graduate degrees.

i get the idea but at the same time, why shouldnt a person go after what they desire?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVXzyaovsMc

that men don't value their career success in the way that they do with us...so I will hear some of them appear to be surprised when a guy does chose a woman who's "not at their level" over them, or just in general.

What I can say is that for me, the career success isn't a major factor, and I'm more about the time you have. It's a complete mixture...some professional women I know will work a solid 40-45 hours a week, while some work 65-70. Then, some women who want to be actresses or even some who aren't established yet may work/attend school 50-60 hours a week, while some only work 20-30.

And with that, I'm really just about who has more time to spend, plus what their overall goals are, versus where they currently are. I don't want an unemployed chick who has nothing BUT time, but if we can only see each other once a month, it damn sure won't work.

LOL Great post.

most men DO care about what a woman brings to the table financially.

and please understand what "broke" means to a woman. it means crusty feet, DIY hair, wack gear and cheap perfume. if a woman is broke, she does not have the financial resources to look her best, and aint no dude wifing that unless he's subsidizing.

and unlike men, women in this position do not have the option of hoping that a man will see her "potential" and wife her anyway.

i also feel like a lot of dudes may not necessarily have an opinion about a woman's finances, but when they come across someone who is significantly more successful than them, that can be a strong motivating factor in marrying her.

>and please understand what "broke" means to a woman. it means
>crusty feet, DIY hair, wack gear and cheap perfume. if a woman
>is broke, she does not have the financial resources to look
>her best, and aint no dude wifing that unless he's
>subsidizing.

I know plenty of broke chicks that stay fly, conversely I know plenty of "successful career women" who don't put in as nearly as much effort in keeping themselves up.

Last week I met a chick at happy hour who is a very successful attorney in her late 30's and makes well into 6 figures but her feet were ashy and crusty as a mf and it looked like she had never had a pedicure EVER. Immediate turnoff. And she had the never to be complaining about not being able to find a man "on her level", lol