SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 12:11 PM
"Explain this "
When fat, unattractive men have a preference for attractive, nice bodied women it's okay. Aka " he's entitled to his preferences!!! " cause you know men love crying about being entitled to their preferences in peace.
But if a broke woman "prefers" men with money, it's a problem and the shaming ensues. What's the difference? Both prefer qualities in which they don't possess themselves...
3. "fat niggas ain't tryna 'take' a woman's good looks." In response to Reply # 0
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
12. "after they have sex, she still has her pussy" In response to Reply # 7
A man isn't getting back the money a woman takes from him.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 12:28 PM
13. "Take? I don't like the term take " In response to Reply # 12
You mean the things that he gives her? As in gifts ect? If I give someone something I don't expect anything in return or for them to give it back. no ones gonna "take" anything from me that I don't want them to have.
23. "But that's the problem...not saying you...i don't know you" In response to Reply # 13
But there are a percentage of women who are gold diggers that are looking at dudes with money for the sole purpose of getting some. So even though the man is giving her whatever willingly, she still looking to take it.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
84. "What about groupies scheming to have a baby?" In response to Reply # 38
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
17. "You're touching on a big gender difference re sex." In response to Reply # 12
Alot of men see it as a (mostly) infinitely deep and limitless well of joy and pleasure. Women often see it as something more finite - every time a woman has sex with a dude she's giving a piece of herself away to him. Which is almost exactly the same way men view spending money on women.
24. "new school women think like this? I had no idea." In response to Reply # 17
Sounds like a step away from slutshaming to me.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
These are the classic views of sex, imo. Slutshaming was a way of saying "you, woman, should be ashamed that you give away your valuable endowment (vagina) willy nilly or to too many men." That seems to line up with what I just mentioned.
70. "'giving of their bodies'" In response to Reply # 66
^ that right there is an increasingly outdated way to think about and discuss women's sexuality.
the idea that sex for women is mostly about 'giving' anything is on the outs. ideally women are receiving pleasure (and other things) as much as they're giving it (or anything else).
85. "I was talking about now." In response to Reply # 71
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
52. "The issue isn't if they like sex. Most people on the planet do." In response to Reply # 45
It's with whom they decide to have it, and under what circumstances. Women have tended to be way more judicious about that than men, at least in Western society in the last couple hundred years.
55. "i'd take this to be the old fashioned view" In response to Reply # 17
>Women often see it as >something more finite - every time a woman has sex with a dude >she's giving a piece of herself away to him.
i like to think we are shifting to a point where sex (for women) means infinite joy and pleasure
if it doesnt, we are doing something wrong
. http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/ i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
4. "to both i say, good luck with that..." In response to Reply # 0
feel free to have whatever preference you want. if you're able to convince somebody to bring to the table that which you yourself don't possess then my hat's off to you...
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 12:51 PM
27. "i think they both can be subjective " In response to Reply # 22
>unless she's a trophy wife, no man wants a woman contributing >nothing to the bills That's essentially what I'm referring too. Trophy material his physical opposite.
>but some people are attracted to fat people I said fat and unattractive to contrast it with attractive and nice bodied. ( whatever your definition of it may be ). But I wasn't equating fat to undesirable here lol.
And to someone making hundreds of thousands of dollars, 50k a year might be "broke" to them. Where as 50k a year to someone else might not be broke. I think they both can be subjective.
25. "having money is not a quality. " In response to Reply # 0
lets start there.
. http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/ i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.
"there's a subtle difference that makes a difference"
its not about getting technical but explains it (to me at least) qualities being particular attributes that are pretty defined and hard to change and which define what you find attractive in a person
so being fat and broke doesn't qualify saying 'i wont date someone who is broke' i assume means its because you attribute certain qualities to this that you would probably find unnatractive (whether or not this is even true) but being broke is not well defined neither is it static i could be a broke-ass student but that has nothing to do with my personality now, if someone else thinks broke=lazy, then thats something else and talking about shallow, materialistic people is a waste of time (imo)
. http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/ i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.
36. "I think it comes down to the point of ignoring stuff" In response to Reply # 0
like there is a stereotype that a racist white guy will overlook his dislike of black people just to potentially get with a very attractive black woman.
So, his friends might be like: "I thought you didn't like black people?"
and he'll probably be like: "...er, she's not like the rest..." (just because she's attractive - he's ignoring all the stuff about black people he usually is wrapped up in).
So, similarly, if a broke woman is like "I hate wimpy men" and she's dating a sort of soft fellow just because he has money, her friends probably will ask: "I thought you didn't like wimpy men?"
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 01:09 PM
41. "This is also another thing" In response to Reply # 36
Often time these preferences are annoying because when you see the individuals that these people are actually dating it dosent add up. Nigga whose crying about how he only fucks bad bitches baby mama is a 4 and shorty whose hollering where the ballers at baby's father can't even pay child support.
82. "Not all money is earned... I know more than one or two people " In response to Reply # 43
Living off of a well to do mommy or daddy. They ain't earn shit, that was the luck of the draw just like beauty. ___________________________________________________________
46. "please show me these fat ugly men pulling attractive women." In response to Reply # 0
where are they? do they exist? ive yet to meet one.
if hes fat AND ugly*? and his gal is cute? no. has literally never happened. i defy ANYONE to show me a couple that meets this criteria
* - when the man is NOT rich. Money is the great equalizer for men. hes fat, ugly and middle class or below? guaranteed his woman is grimace. @ least. if not worse.
>So many women get with the rich guys, and a good number may >play them, or divorce and take half, etc. etc.
I don't think "so many women" get married with the intention of playing men and getting divorced. Sometimes it happens that way not I don't think it's scheming and shady intentions from the start. At least not for a lot of women.
>Even if a fat ugly guy gets a dime, he can't..."use her for >her looks" at the same kind of level.
He can use her for her pussy. Which to most women has value.
>I mean, it's just different. And it's more of a "stupid" vs >"shady" type of issue to me as well.
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 02:03 PM
72. "Id say it was more of a suggestion " In response to Reply # 64
You know since you didn't want to discuss the topic at hand, I was suggesting that you get the fuck out and explore other options that are more suited towards your personal interests. You're welcome.
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 02:20 PM
75. "it sounded snarky to me " In response to Reply # 74
And not like you wanted to engage in an honest discussion about it, which is why you got that response. I feel as though if you honestly wanted to know those things that's what you would stated to begin with. You were throwing stones and now you're hiding your hands, and I don't like it.
>think like this. > >you remember me typing: 'what's it to you?' > >you turned into a total spazz about that - as if asking 'why >you care' is an automatic offense. > >are you finding static/negative feedback when you express >wanting a man with money? > >people calling you a gold digger? > >fat men make you made when they express they want a sexy >wife? > >I thought everybody just wants what they want. > >I'm missing something?
BUT to answer your question I think it's stems from men being cool with preferences and constantly defending their right to have these preferences( even the dumb ones) But when women have them, it's a problem.
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Mon May-11-15 02:38 PM
78. "you type slick shit all the time " In response to Reply # 77
And it may not be outrightly aggressive, but you do it and I'm not here for it. My response to your shenanigans will not be worded as delicately as your insults disguised as an attempt to engage.
67. "i think its OK to seek in a partner what you lack in both cases" In response to Reply # 0 Mon May-11-15 01:54 PM by NikaMandela
if you broke, find you someone rich. if you're unattractive, find you someone attractive. as long as you have things the other person lacks, it balances out.
unattractive men only get shamed for preferring beautiful women if they're broke. wack looking dudes with money do not get shamed at all for their taste in women. its expected they will pull a dime.
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