In a marraige/live-in situation, what exactly does it mean to be the Head of the Household?

Men: do you feel as if you are prepared to do this...or if you ever will?
Women: how do you feel about this concept?

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i expect my mate to be the head of house
& understand that role & accept it before we co-habitate

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head of household...what does that entail
is his word the final on all things?

� steady r u ready...what's goin on �

Someone out there knows what happened to Mitrice Richardson

only because it's not quite sumthin i can articulate w/"acceptable" reasonin

i feel as tho my mate is the person who provides refuge for me as his mate...who is the head, not in the sense of the brains but as the foreperson to our household, our unit

he is to be the one who sacrifices himself before me as i support him in the role{s} i occupy

he's been givin certain strengths/advantages i expect him to employ

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lol... just kidding.

you and maybe Boodah

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Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.

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Posted, gettin' toasted...

holds the remote at all times
and gets the big piece of chicken.



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>holds the remote at all times

sure you love her, but UPN tonight is out of the realm of for better or worse

he may not come up with the idea...but its his final descision.

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it ain't happening.
I wouldn't expect him follow through with what it takes to be the head of the household bc i'm not his wife.

In marriage i would hope to find a man deemed worthy enough to trust to follow out that roll. If not, i don't need to marry him.

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should be your covering...

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well

Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.


why don't you just die?

i wanna be complimented on my mind not my behind! (c) kEc

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the word submit does bother me slightly

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but what i've come to realize is ppl don't focus on the latter part of the scripture. if the husbnd is in line with God who is the real head of the house. there isn't any crazy submission that we see distorted and perverse in the world.

i don't think this would be an issue if you have someone equally yoked walking the same path.

i got this great email today breaking this down...

but yeah it's still scary.

why don't you just die?

i wanna be complimented on my mind not my behind! (c) kEc

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but i don't think it's scary if you havethe right man. because submiting to him will only benefit you and the family as a whole if he is in submission to the Lord.

We just have to be very careful about who we marry, making sure that he has submitted to Christ. If not, you're in for a world of trouble.

I am trying to work through my issues with such words
and yes, if God is the head of his life then there are no problems, there are however some people who truly don't know what The Head is

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Submission is bad when people understand what it totally includes. Women submitting is such a powerful thing. Everyone wants to maintain control when sometimes its just not necessary. Sometimes submission can be as simple as silence, and that can often speak more than actions.



"Not one to wait, cuz I'm no waiter...so when I grow up, don't try to kick it to me later."

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Ready for retaliation...

you haven't found anyone WORTH submitting to

ideally they person in whom you give that "right" will have your best interests and your confidence

not really the action
but this is in theory

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but thats some "issue" type ish

when you get to the point where the word automatically has negative connotation like that...even if you don't mind what it means in practice?

but that's okay, such is why we have grace

or their connotations
it's natural

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it used to REALLY bother me
i mean
just the word
and the images it conjures
playing the back...being a rug
i'm making peace with it
i see a difference between submitting and being submissive
if he's handling his(ours)
then i'll go 'head & stfu

� steady r u ready...what's goin on �

Someone out there knows what happened to Mitrice Richardson

and how it relates the word w/ Christ and the Church.

if you believe in the word then u know that they are not speaking of submissin in a ill oppressive way.

ya know..

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but I can admit that that is not one of my most favorite words

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if it matters

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that HUSBANDS SUBMIT TO YOUR WIVES as well. people always wanna act like God only discusses submission 2 ur husband. not true. God is about equality as well. check it out. is right there, after the PART of the book u posted.
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Like my tummy� I suppose bigger is better than smaller in that area in some respects.
But listen- its like I�m pregnant- carrying around someone's baby in here.
I bet it's a McDonald�s baby or a Wendy�s baby
Shit- as much food as I eat there I bet I�m gestating something.
I�m just getting fat and that�s all there is to it.
Fatty fatty fat fat!!!!
That�s what the kids will call me.
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I know they will and I�ll have to chase them down and beat them and then eat the evidence.
Damn it I�m going to become a Jeffrey Dahmer all because of this damned pregnant belly.
Can I sue Breyers Ice Cream Corporation?! Like those kids sued McDonalds?
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i caught a peice of creflo dollar this morning
and he was reading that same exact scripture.


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It means that the man has the final say on the direction of the house. He is the spiritual head first and foremost. Head of household carries the burden of the house. This does not mean that the woman of the household bows down too him and is his Geisha girl no. The woman entrust the man with such responsibility because he has proven himself to be as such in her eyes. In ideal cases, he is the bread winner, my question to you would be if you made more than a man, would you feel comfortable with him being the head of househould?

>In a marraige/live-in situation, what exactly does it mean
>to be the Head of the Household?
>
>sidebar: What's that scripture about the man as head?

Gen 2:23 - Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." 24 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed.

1 Corinthians 7:2 - But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:4 - For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does.

1 Corinthians 11:3 - But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a woman is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord.

Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." 32 This mystery is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church; 33 however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.


Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

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>Gen 2:23 - Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my
>bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman,
>because she was taken out of Man." 24 Therefore a man leaves
>his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they
>become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both
>naked, and were not ashamed.
>
> 1 Corinthians 7:2 - But because of the temptation to
>immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman
>her own husband.
>
> 1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her
>conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
>
> 1 Corinthians 7:4 - For the wife does not rule over her own
>body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not
>rule over his own body, but the wife does.
>
>1 Corinthians 11:3 - But I want you to understand that the
>head of every man is Christ, the head of a woman is her
>husband, and the head of Christ is God.
>
>Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to
>the Lord.
>
> Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is the head of the wife as
>Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself
>its Savior. 24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let
>wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. 25
>Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and
>gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her,
>having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
>27 that he might present the church to himself in splendor,
>without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be
>holy and without blemish. 28 Even so husbands should love
>their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves
>himself. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but
>nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30
>because we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason a
>man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his
>wife, and the two shall become one flesh." 32 This mystery
>is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to Christ
>and the church; 33 however, let each one of you love his
>wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her
>husband.
>
>
>Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and do not be
>harsh with them.

i could do the same on what it means to be a father...

I was looking for this one

>
> Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is the head of the wife as
>Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself
>its Savior. 24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let
>wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. 25
>Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and
>gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her,
>having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
>27 that he might present the church to himself in splendor,
>without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be
>holy and without blemish. 28 Even so husbands should love
>their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves
>himself. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but
>nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30
>because we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason a
>man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his
>wife, and the two shall become one flesh." 32 This mystery
>is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to Christ
>and the church; 33 however, let each one of you love his
>wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her
>husband.
>
>
>Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and do not be
>harsh with them.

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But my pastor broke it down for moi like this here...
Christ=husband
Church= Wife right?....now don't take what I'm about to say all EXTRA WRONG...
but who had to die in order for the church to survive? Now think about that....Now does that mean I'm out looking for a guy who will commit suicide just for me? errrr NO but the love I want to share with whomever has to be that deep...marriage is not something to play with and many people do...when I get married the plan is to stay married....bottom line there is sacrifice made on both sides..the weight doesn't just hang on one side but the benefits are supposed to outweigh all that is lost :c)


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My wife also allows me to believe I run shit, when in actuality she's pulling the strings. Much like George Bush and Dick Cheney.

Benefits I enjoy as Head of Hosehold:
I get to take the trash to the curb,
Kill any bug bigger than an ant,
Barbeque, and
Pay the check when we go out to eat.

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the guy i was talkin to explained it as two people equally yoked making descisions together. but when a decision has to be made where a agreement isn't reached, it isn't about the man, saying "i'm the head this is what i say, dammit," but more about the wife submitting to her husbands descision for the betterment of the household.

it's not about the husband being the authoritative figure as much as it is the wife submitting. but it works both ways both the wife and the husband, most importantly, must understand their roles.
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God...come in God.
God, come in God.
Damn...you're a girl.
Well, I guess the reason I'm talkin to you tonight is...
cause I've been doing a lot of thinking.
And i consider myself to be a pretty cool guy...
and, i never cheated on any of my girlfriends.
Well...well, except that one lil time in Japan,
and that was just some head...and....head don't count right?
Ahhh, thanks God, I knew you'd understand.
Well...i just feel like,
well...to be honest with you.
God...I just need a sweet bitch.
You know somebody not too...
not too fast, but not too slow.
Cause I don't have it all my damn self...
and life ain't easy.
You know, you just want somebody by your side to help smooth that thing out, knowwhatimtalkinbout.
And, at this point, I mean...Im not being picky.
She don't even have to have a big ole ass, you know...
just something well proportioned to her body.
You know, a nice lil' tale... you know.
wha???...you say you found somebody.
Is she cute??
...so when do I get to meet her?
Ahhhhh...
God...you're the gretest.
Well, I guess I'll talk to you later....
Aaaaa-men.
Oh...I'm sorry, I'm sorry...Aaaa-lady.

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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

coverer, protector, provider, takes the bullet, fights the burglar, serves with his life (the same as jesus is given 'head-ness' of the church partly because his great sacrifice for it.)

in EXCHANGE for all this (important, often overlooked point) he is given overall authority.

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I've decided: JUDGEMENT IS GOOD.

* = all statements made about the physical traits of females and what Torez
might or might not do to said females are based on Torez as a Single man
not the CURRENT married Torez (unless i'm calling one'a y'all a slur, in which
case it applies RIGHT NOW...)

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The man of faith who has never experienced doubt is not a man of faith

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~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I've decided: JUDGEMENT IS GOOD.

* = all statements made about the physical traits of females and what Torez
might or might not do to said females are based on Torez as a Single man
not the CURRENT married Torez (unless i'm calling one'a y'all a slur, in which
case it applies RIGHT NOW...)

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The man of faith who has never experienced doubt is not a man of faith

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i'd say yes, that ultimately somebody has to make a final decisioin, and if a cat is holding up his end of 'head-ness', then it shouldn't be a problem.

again, from the 'jesus' standpoint, he was the head of the disciples, but JUDAS was the treasurer. He made sure the money was right, etc. at the end of the day, judas made the recomendations, etc, but jesus gave the final nod <----------speculation

closer to home:

I suck at money. even though i get the HEAD title from my wife, and i make more than her, MY WIFE does the day to day controlling of the money. when i wanna spend extra from our agreed upon budget, i SUBMIT to her, even though i make more than she does. still, when its time to do big stuff - housebuying, repairs, car buying, etc - we talk about it together. when we thought about rental property, she told me how much we could afford, etc....i listened and since i know she knows what the fuck she's talking about, i followed her recommendations. but at the end, i had to pull the trigger.



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I've decided: JUDGEMENT IS GOOD.

* = all statements made about the physical traits of females and what Torez
might or might not do to said females are based on Torez as a Single man
not the CURRENT married Torez (unless i'm calling one'a y'all a slur, in which
case it applies RIGHT NOW...)

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The man of faith who has never experienced doubt is not a man of faith

(i assume you're talking in terms of tax purposes because Christainity doesn't really allow for shacking per se)

heres what the IRS says:

To qualify for Head of Household filing status, the following five tests must all be met:


The taxpayer is not married at the end of the year. (There are exceptions to this rule that I'll discuss at the end of this article).


The taxpayer must maintain a household for his or her child, dependent parent, or other dependent relative. (See notes below for additional discussion of dependents.)


The household must be the taxpayer's home, and the household must also be the main home of a qualifying relative (as defined in #2 above) for more than half of the year. (Again, see the notes below for additional discussion of a qualifying individual). There is an exception to this rule: A dependent parent need not live with the taxpayer; however, the taxpayer must provide more than 50% of the cost of maintaining the dependent parent's separate household that was the parent's main home for the entire year.


The taxpayer must provide more than 50% of the cost of maintaining the household.


The taxpayer must be a U.S. citizen or a resident alien during the entire tax year.

Notes on dependents and qualifying individuals (items 2 AND 3):

Cousins do not qualify as a dependent relative.


The taxpayer's unmarried child, stepchild, adopted child, or grandchild do not have to be a dependent.


A foster child must be a dependent.


With respect to the taxpayer's married child, stepchild, adopted child, or grandchild, the taxpayer must be entitled to claim that child as a dependent.


Check the other dependent rules to ensure that any individual in question does, in fact, qualify under the normal dependent rules.

Exceptions allowing married taxpayers to claim Head of Household status:
A married taxpayer living apart from a spouse may qualify as "unmarried" and use the Head of Household rates if all of the following tests are met:

Taxpayer files a separate tax return from the spouse.


Taxpayer's spouse did not live in the household during the last six months of the year.


Taxpayer maintains his/her home as a household that was the main home for a child, stepchild, or adopted child for more than half of the year. However, a foster child must be a member of the household for the entire year.


Taxpayer is entitled to claim that child as a dependent.


Taxpayer provides more than 50% of the cost of maintaining that household.


Taxpayer is a U.S. citizen or a resident alien during the entire tax year.

as some may have what they call lifetime commitments

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*shrug*

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When I marry, my husband will be the Head of Household. Thats just the way I think it should be ( for me). I would like to work to pay for stuff for the home and the kid/s(when they come) , shopping, staying beautiful etc... and do the shopping and stuff like that, but I would like my man to be the HEAD, take care of business with me as his moral support.

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he takes the lead.

When there is a problem, the rest come to him about it. If need be, he deals with it.

If there is a conflict about a house matter, he trumps everyone. Wife/girlfriend and kids should "voluntarily" relinquish their part in the conflict.

When he and the wife/girlfriend are out on the town and interacting with others, like at a restaurant or something, he should do the talking. If there is a problem at the table or with the food, the waiter addresses him. If there is a problem with a bill or something, the man handles it.

Of course, this requires a certain level of civility in order for all to act accordingly. Which is why "men of the house"'s are becoming fewer and fewer.

Any questions?

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the waitress part cracked me up.

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you are not helping

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cos a woman like myself, and a man who held such a vision of life would never be in a relationship in the first place.

so no problem.

“Your body is not a temple, it’s an amusement park. Enjoy the ride.” Anthony Bourdain

you wife as a dependent.....ok bad joke, but basically that's the only place where I seen head of household with a definition. Otherwise, it's just hogwash.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

>you wife as a dependent.....

It's true I did this last year, even though she wasn't my wife, but we lived together for 3 years, so legally we were.

The man IS the head of the house. IF he is following God's word, a woman should not have a problem following him...

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-primary wage earner
-sets course/last word for family activities/purchases
-primary bill payer
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America has imported more warlord theocracy from Afghanistan than it has exported democracy.

America has imported more warlord theocracy from Afghanistan than it has exported democracy.

The male as head of household doesn't really mean much to me. The common definition from the responses I've read all seem to lean towards that meaning the man has the final decision. How do I feel about it? It didn't happen in my house. Didn't happen in my parents' house. My mom is absolutely the head of household. If my husband and I didn't agree on something, ultimately I made the final decision. Such is the result of growing up in a family full of dominant females. I'm not at all open to any kind of submissive state...literal or figurative.

I think it has something to do with who's the primary bread winner. That's the head of household to me.

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It means that He has control over what goes on in this household..He is able to provide for his spouse and childern..He takes care of the home...mr.fix it, shovels, paints...him and the childern. The childern are raised with manners/morals that well represents the family. He is not a drunk or whoremonger...basically he takes care of the home and everyone in it. I shouldnt have to go check what that noise was downstairs...he should!

My personally have no problem with submission...I actually love it! There is no better feeling then loving and being loved!

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esp. if it means the man is in charge. I'm not saying that in certain situations the man can't lead, and vice versa, but rather each party has something they do well, and sometimes one person is more knowlegable about a certain subject, so they make the final decision, and vice versa.

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I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.

— F. Scott Fitzgerald

I feel like whoever I am married to will stand beside me, not above me or ahead of me, but beside me as a protective hedge in whatever may come, and I will do the same for him. Further, I believe it is a wife's duty to live as her husband would want her to, and manage the household accordingly. I also believe as the head of the house, the man should be the provider and the woman the nurturer. I think a man at the head of his household worships his wife for her work as a life giver, and lover, and reflection of himself and every wife should try and be that reflection as best she can, as well as respect her husband for providing as he does.

I look to my dad for a lot of this though. I mean I don't agree with everything he does or believes in, but I think he is an excellent head of his household. He provides for his family in ways that are so unbelievable to me. I have never in my life wanted for ANYTHING, truthfully, and he makes sure he worked hard enough so that my life and my siblings lives would be that way. Further, his marriage, though not the perfect one, reflects his leadership of his household. He and my step mother have a balanced share of work around the house, in their respective jobs and in raising us. She respects that his decision is final, but he respects that her opinion matters, and it works out wonderfully.

I feel old fashioned when I tell folks that what I want my life to be like, and how much of a provider I want my husband to be, but like, I think they take for granted the important role a woman plays in her husband being the head of the household.

Sabes bien que fue un enga�o/lo que me hiciste fue un pecado/asi mismo me enga�aste/y lloras hoy porque fallaste/como tratas de buscarme/despues que tu me traicionaste/ahora tengo que alejarme/busque la forma de olvidarte � La India



RIP DJ_TeddyBear

is the understanding of what it TAKES to lead

"lead" isn't something taken but given....meaning those who you lead determine your quality as leader. if you don't inspire confidence/trust...then you aren't being a leader. you're being a despot/dictator

similarly being in the "submitted" position is one of support.

EVERYBODY plays a part in making sure the group succeeds. without co-operation from everyone you're gonna fail

but i digress....

Most women don't recognize how much responsibility it takes to manage the household, and uplift your husband. They just know its hard to find a man with the balance, and knowledge of what his leadership role entails. Most are either at one end of the spectrum on some Hail Hitler type bullshit, or some dominate me, I can't make a concious decision on my own type mess...

A lot of the black women I know settle for the latter, which is upsetting, because the role reversal in these relationships is skewed and outrageous.

I can't even deal. I lament daily! Where is my lone ranger? Where is my shining staaaar...where is my happy ending? Where have all the cowboys gone?

No, but seriously what discourages me, and has discouraged me most of my life is that I was raised to think a certain way about a man as the head of the household, the man who I revere at the head of mine is doing an excellent job, but he isn't Black. (No matter how much he thinks he is...) He wasn't raised black, and I often find myself hearing from family/friends if I want a man like him, I'm going to have to search outside of my race to do so...

It makes me all sadfaced inside.

Sabes bien que fue un enga�o/lo que me hiciste fue un pecado/asi mismo me enga�aste/y lloras hoy porque fallaste/como tratas de buscarme/despues que tu me traicionaste/ahora tengo que alejarme/busque la forma de olvidarte � La India



RIP DJ_TeddyBear

>>He wasn't raised black, and I often find myself hearing from family/friends if I want a man like him, I'm going to have to search outside of my race to do so...

It makes me all sadfaced inside.<<<

especially when there are black men on THIS VERY BOARD holding shit down.



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I've decided: JUDGEMENT IS GOOD.

* = all statements made about the physical traits of females and what Torez
might or might not do to said females are based on Torez as a Single man
not the CURRENT married Torez (unless i'm calling one'a y'all a slur, in which
case it applies RIGHT NOW...)

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The man of faith who has never experienced doubt is not a man of faith

and are complete anomalies

(yeah right)

like we are invisible....

'member how i said some time back that 'i am not in peace?'

that's part of the reason, truthfully. even though i'm not DOING IT to get recognition, the fact that so many folks think we don't even EXIST....??

it vexes the hell out of me.

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I've decided: JUDGEMENT IS GOOD.

* = all statements made about the physical traits of females and what Torez
might or might not do to said females are based on Torez as a Single man
not the CURRENT married Torez (unless i'm calling one'a y'all a slur, in which
case it applies RIGHT NOW...)

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The man of faith who has never experienced doubt is not a man of faith

sometimes you gotta check the source

not necessarily in this case, but the baggage is so heavy they couldn't see what they were looking for if he were standing in front of them

similarly, (as stated elsewhere) its easier to say "they all wrong" or "they don't exist" than to look inward and recognize that maybe (just maybe) it's YOU and not them

Granted you can argue that "HEY, I'm doing it..." but someone snatched you both up. The problem is, even if you don't recognize it, you are a rarity. Now if you wanna use your keen eye and scout the rest of us single women some talent, feel free.

And even if it wasn't expressed, I rever any and every man who takes an active and excellent role in his household. I think its dead sexy.

Sabes bien que fue un enga�o/lo que me hiciste fue un pecado/asi mismo me enga�aste/y lloras hoy porque fallaste/como tratas de buscarme/despues que tu me traicionaste/ahora tengo que alejarme/busque la forma de olvidarte � La India



RIP DJ_TeddyBear

point is we existed, and if we did others do

but for wahever reason (justified or not) they gets little love

and if they mention it they are punks

*shrug*

> you are a rarity.

>And even if it wasn't expressed, I rever any and every man
>who takes an active and excellent role in his household. I
>think its dead sexy.

I think it's more you saying that you couldn't find that in a black man

you post...like a *BITCH*

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fuck it.
take ur fried chicken and move to Nantucket: www.freestateproject.org

'specially since they are both married, which to me is kind of the ultimate appreciation.

Either way, I'm not saying that there aren't black men who posses these qualities, I'm just saying, most of my life I've been told otherwise, which is shameful.

Sabes bien que fue un enga�o/lo que me hiciste fue un pecado/asi mismo me enga�aste/y lloras hoy porque fallaste/como tratas de buscarme/despues que tu me traicionaste/ahora tengo que alejarme/busque la forma de olvidarte � La India



RIP DJ_TeddyBear

or when they say it

you post...like a *BITCH*

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fuck it.
take ur fried chicken and move to Nantucket: www.freestateproject.org

its bigger than just me and my situation, because i still have to walk out of the house every day. i've only been married five years. my heart is still more like a regular, single black dude living in america than anytihng else. that's who i sympathize with.

so its hard for me to say 'fuck it, i'm doing my thing, whatever' saying that doesn't nullify the prevailing belief - apparently held by most black women, white women and white men - that black men are _______________ (filled in wack adjective here.) and if i lived in a glass bubble, where these folks opinions didn't effect me, then it wouldn't matter. but i don't. i live/work/praise god/buy groceries/christmas shop/apply for loans/share elevators, office cubicles and neighborhood blocks with these folks. consequently, the same impulse/feeling that leads folks to conclude that black men are ________________, despite the evidence to the contrary right in their face, is the same base impulse that makes them clutch their bags when i get on the elevator with them, frown back at me when i greet them with a smile in the morning, approach me with a gun drawn during a routine traffic stop, etc.

also, there is a petulant, little boy side of me that is angry @ how white cats get a free pass, despite their dirt. which is what i think of when carmia relates that her friends believe she'll have to look 'outside her race' to find her 'lone ranger.' like men that are white/latin/asian, etc are so much better than us.



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I've decided: JUDGEMENT IS GOOD.

* = all statements made about the physical traits of females and what Torez
might or might not do to said females are based on Torez as a Single man
not the CURRENT married Torez (unless i'm calling one'a y'all a slur, in which
case it applies RIGHT NOW...)

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The man of faith who has never experienced doubt is not a man of faith

maybe you're looking in the wrong places?