55. "RE: 4 years in I was cool with it too" In response to In response to 54 Tue May-10-16 03:13 PM by Hamsterline
Of course my dude is attractive to other women. Absolutely. I'm also attractive to other men. But what makes me un-bothered by it all is that he's into me, as much as I'm into him.
I also think that he finds other women attractive, and I find other men attractive too. But neither he or I are acting on it. Having some artificial rule where we are not allowed to have external friendships is ridiculous because if he or I really wanted to behave badly we could still do it.
It all comes down to trust. I trust he won't do that shit, and he trusts that I won't do it either.
Look, I've been cheated on before. It's not a new idea to me, or something unimaginable. What I've learned from that experience is that you can't control what another individual thinks or feels. So in my mind, these rules are irrelevant.