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 She should initiate the 3rd |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 1
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 why? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 9
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  to show reciprocation* of interest |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 16
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| reciprocity. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 19
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| re: |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 23
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| read more Shakespeare to balance. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 26
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| So if she pays then its safe to assume that shes interested? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 22
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| *I* ain't say nothing about pay, i said initiate |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 25
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| So initiate =/= to pay as well in this scenario? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 44
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| dates don't have to include $$ |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 47
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| where? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 48
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| simple answer - know how to cook |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 111
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| That costs money. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 125
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| If dates boil down to $$ you're bound to be disappointed |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 133
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| been dating vs someone ive been on 2 or 3 dates with |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 137
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| at what # does it become 'been dating' |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 145
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| It depends on the time period, and not the date # for me |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 151
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| honest question - have you fucked in them 3-4 months |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 153
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| Huh? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 154
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| so that's 3-4 months without fucking? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 159
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| for me, yep. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 161
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| jesus. I really hope you are up front with folk |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 241
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| I have sex with the person when im ready and comfortable enough to |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 246
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| bullshit |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 247
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| I'm not really sure what you're trying to imply here. |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 248
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| or ended here |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 240
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| this post should've ended here |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 239
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| According to Merriam-Webster, it's a real word. |
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Feb 14th 2015 | 232
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| if you're crazy about the girl and you don't hear |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 173
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| used to think like that, then i changed |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 183
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| I never expect it. Kinda like getting a gift out of the blue |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 2
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| On the first |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 3
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| this ^^ |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 8
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| ^ |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 10
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| ^^My thoughts. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 12
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| But why? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 14
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| nice gesture |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 17
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| When you invite a friend out, should she infer that you're treating? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 20
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| is my friend a princess on a pedestal? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 28
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| How would that work? Would she actually take the pedestal on the date? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 31
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| she's always on it. |
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Feb 10th 2015 |
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| marvelous exhcange |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 242
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| We pay back and forth for each other |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 32
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| Why should courtship be any different? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 37
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| The social and economic gaps between men and women suggests... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 43
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| none of that matters when you like him and he likes you. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 62
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| For myself, it takes time to get to that point. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 70
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| i don't believe that's true. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 73
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| since it seems you prefer Black men |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 243
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| do you keep a ledger of expenses w/your besties? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 41
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| ^ |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 45
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| No I dont |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 46
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| good luck w/that. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 57
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| why do you assume that the guy initiated the 1st date? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 30
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| Because thats how it usually is. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 39
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| do you think this is true even for online dating? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 64
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| Is that scenario for online or irl? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 71
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| irl |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 78
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| fuck that game shit, this is why people have so many problems |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 94
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| you're playing a game too |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 178
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| LOL |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 197
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| yes & no |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 205
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| /Post |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 117
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| ^^^The Correct Answer |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 200
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| Yes, exactly this. |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 218
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| Bingo. |
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Feb 16th 2015 | 237
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| Date 1: I pay. Date 2: Dutch. Date 3: I pay, repeat forever. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 4
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| What's the logic behind this? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 6
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| if she is willing to go dutch by date two then she is a team player |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 102
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| lol I don't think that indicates anything |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 108
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| nope. just playing the game in a smart way. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 116
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| so a guy is cheap because he doesn't want to pay all the time |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 131
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| same way he assumes that a woman is broke b/c she didn't offer |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 135
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| I said freeloader. im talking about being taken advantage of. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 140
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| ^^^^ |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 169
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| Yall niggas ain't Drake |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 176
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| you live a sheltered life. and do not call me nigga, i dont know you. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 181
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| Get over yourself. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 207
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| da fuck? oh PLEASE BELIEVE it's girls out here trying to eat |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 228
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| i don't understand why God left propagation of the species to you ppl. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 5
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| I sweafogod, if I find myself single again |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 7
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| hello. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 11
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| Basically...n/m |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 27
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| *gets in this line* |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 190
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| grass is always greener, man. |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 213
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| JF we >.< bruh |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 244
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| who says they ain't fuck on the first though... don't doubt god!! |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 21
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| look at God! |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 24
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| LOL |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 29
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| you'll get it. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 35
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| ^^^^^how you're supposed to do it |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 98
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| YEP |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 206
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| lol |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 49
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| some folks can make it so so difficult sometimes |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 191
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| But this clearly an issue that you don't have to worry about. |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 225
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| Why are we counting? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 13
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| Some men do... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 36
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| Well they shouldn't |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 52
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| In reality like 90% of the time the dude pays. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 60
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| Did you mean for that reply to go there? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 65
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| .... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 105
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| yea, i might swap a couple of those but it's sound |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 170
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| Yeah thats corny |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 157
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| on the 1st date... EQUALITY!!! |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 15
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| Thats all im asking for is a reach. Is that so much to ask for? |
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Feb 14th 2015 | 234
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| no clue. i never been on a date. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 18
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| This is why arranged marriage isn't the worst thing in the world |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 33
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| agreed. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 38
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| I'm going to go home and kiss my wife for not playing those games |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 40
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| plus she has to earn that kiss. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 42
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| lofl |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 245
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| i begin to agree |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 223
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| Not a specific # |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 34
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| yellow. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 50
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| this too. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 58
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| No hard and fast rule. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 51
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| So what are some exact indicators of interest? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 68
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| Emotionally open, invested flirting. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 75
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| u really don't think a woman paying for a date |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 171
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| If that's the case then a man spending money or paying for a date = |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 179
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| She doesn't "have to" pay, so it's way more meaningful coming from her. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 193
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| On the first date. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 53
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| you should offer to pay every time... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 54
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| ehhh Id just rather go out with my homegirls for all that |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 63
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| date people you'd actually like to cover the bill for in a reciprocative... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 99
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| This works its someone that you already know |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 123
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| yah I'm not about that cold holla life |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 127
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| yup. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 192
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| i live in LA. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 55
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| Even if you hollared at shorty and invited her out |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 139
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| i was mad about the idea of it |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 152
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| SoWhat is right, how can we reap the rewards of gay dating |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 56
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| LOL |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 59
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| A LOT of that bs falls away as you get older tho. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 194
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| I don't know about a certain number |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 61
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| Paying is putting in work? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 66
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| Please don't say you think your mere presence |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 69
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| Im asking lol |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 81
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| It's part of it. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 77
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| there's no reason for it to be a dealbreaker. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 67
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| I can kind of go with that. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 85
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| As long as he initiates, but some "yummy yummy" chicks will take advanta... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 72
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| Yeah, I've fallen into that trap before. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 76
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| talk about it. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 80
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| Problem is, that conversation will often go sideways quick. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 83
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| Thanks for this. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 84
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| trial and error. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 89
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| then fuck that bitch. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 87
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| If it were only that easy. Women's moral high ground is a motherfucker. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 88
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| so it's better to date them, develop resentment |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 90
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| societial pressure initially prohibits men from critisizing women bro |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 126
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| then dont date those bitches. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 128
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| RE: then dont date those bitches. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 134
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| k. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 136
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| Bruh, do you understand the concept of "talking yourself out some pussy"... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 141
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| lulzephees, bro. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 143
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| problem is you're more focused on the pussy than yourself or her |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 149
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| Not only that but... |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 195
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| whoever invites should offer to pay. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 96
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| also, these types of chicks are lame |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 166
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| She should pay BEFORE the 1st date |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 74
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| lol |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 199
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| You just need to know who you're dating. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 79
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| and he needs to know too. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 82
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| I agree, BUT |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 91
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| yup. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 93
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| I dont quite understand that |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 95
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| and that's great. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 100
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| i guess she doesnt understand the consequence for one |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 103
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| that plus ppl love to play 'Gotcha!' |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 106
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| and that was a horrific false equivalency, like Fox News level |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 109
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| it was. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 110
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| so who should the exception be extended to? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 112
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| the answer to most of life's questions aren't black and white |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 114
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| yup |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 119
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| You want rules. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 118
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| Basically. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 107
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| if i don't get a reach on the 3rd date I'm not taking her seriously |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 86
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| why? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 92
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| if she doesn't at least reach for the check on date 3 |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 101
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| if he exepects me to at least reach for the check on date 3 |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 144
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| for reals? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 147
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| Nah I just made assumptions about his charactar based off of.... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 148
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| assumptions nothing |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 155
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| No not really |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 163
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| some women are feminists until it comes to dating |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 97
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| LOL...Basically |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 158
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| who ever initiates should pay |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 104
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| 1st date, I offer dutch. If he accepts, no 2nd date. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 113
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| Him cool with going dutch indicates what? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 122
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| oh cmon that's a little goofy. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 129
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| RE: 1st date, I offer dutch. If he accepts, no 2nd date. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 132
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| this is pretty silly, lol |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 177
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| ^ |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 196
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| i slid my wife a kiss and a butt grab after reading this post |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 115
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| my brussel sprout game is on point |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 120
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| I don't care. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 121
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| i don't know but, the dudes that i know |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 124
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| 2 or 3....and I prolly still wouldn't accept the offer |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 130
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| after 2 generally. we gotta be more willing as a gender to cut bait |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 138
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| If she's not worth the effort then you shouldnt be dating her |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 142
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| it's levels to it. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 146
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| No its called honesty, you should try it out sometime. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 165
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| if he's worth it you should take him out n/m |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 150
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| yea, it's "whoever initiates it" rule is bogus |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 180
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| speak it on bruh |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 217
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| I don't care |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 156
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| Don't care about an "offer". |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 160
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| what the hell is dutch? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 162
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| Half and half, or each party pays for their own. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 164
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| ^^^^ white |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 174
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| Cook & go on a picnic or some low budget shyt |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 167
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| I expect to pay for dates I initiate, and she should do the same |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 168
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| ppl who have all kinds of dumbass rules and techniques... |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 172
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| don't worry, they are all single |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 175
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| yup. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 182
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| i dont like paying for ANY dates |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 184
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| no one LIKES paying |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 185
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| really? because i like doing things for people. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 186
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| why do you have to be a guy to like paying for dates? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 187
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| because i like gender roles. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 188
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| fine. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 189
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| this too |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 211
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| why though? you do realize you're being selective |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 214
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| gender roles do not have to be an expression of patriarchal oppression |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 216
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| and yet they are often one or both of those things |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 222
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| i like them because they feel natural to me |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 227
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| i can dig that |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 229
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| smh @ if i was a guy I would like paying |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 203
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| I like paying. Not so much for early dates, but later ones |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 215
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| lol these posts are always so damn funny... |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 198
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| Its always the same people who are always single or complaining |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 202
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| and they love to stand by these rules that aren't working |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 204
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| ^^^^^ |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 250
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| A woman who's willing to go dutch or pay is usually |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 201
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| After he start eating ass |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 208
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| check please |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 209
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| ^ the real answer |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 210
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| Inbox. |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 221
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| I know that's right |
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Feb 16th 2015 | 236
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| I generally just pay to eliminate any ambiguity |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 212
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| whenever she wanna pay...if never, then never... |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 219
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| sheesh, str8 men are fighting back on u ladies |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 220
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| yep i dont blame em |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 224
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| probably a lot of them are the same men |
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Feb 14th 2015 | 233
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| what straight man likes seeing men in heels? lol... |
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Feb 16th 2015 | 238
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| you got it twisted |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 249
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| yup. cuz if you bought and paid for... |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 251
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| everyone is bought and paid for |
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Feb 17th 2015 | 252
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| Never |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 226
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| this is how i feel |
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Feb 13th 2015 | 230
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| i mean again as things progress i don't find it that way |
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Feb 14th 2015 | 231
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| It's a nice gesture but I never expect it. |
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Feb 15th 2015 | 235
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