As if there hasn't been enough going on in the past year for you. I'm glad you've been able to use this place as an outlet, even if it wasn't completely accepted here as that (despite your disclaimers).
Family does put you in a compromised position in terms of what you can do at work. My father went through a couple of jobs like that, didn't play the game properly, and was made redundant. In one case I know they ended up hiring four guys to do the job he was doing on his own. It sucks that the world is that way sometimes, but with a family it's hard to be uncompromising. So coming here and venting is a good way to go (shame your boy is gone, that would have made things a lot easier). I guess it's time to Shawshank through the crap pipe until you get out clean on the other side with your family. I get the feeling you've faced down worse in your life and made this far so good, staring this down is well within your means.