I'd trust her to care for my children for an extended period, if necessary.

But raising them, doing the actual work of instilling values, discipline, actually educating them on how to deal with the world around them, etc? I can't see I feel at ease over the proposition.

It's not for lack of love. She just doesn't have the mindset for it, for me.

She actively steered my wife away from college, in favor of entering the workforce right away. And yes, she instilled certain self-image stigmas that my wife struggles with to this day.

I have no way of knowing how much of that she's learned from, and what she would differently though.

I'm not he is in many- not all- ways, stereotypical of her generation, philosophically and sociologically.

There's other examples of poor decision making that I won't get into here. But in a lot of ways, my wife turned out as well as she did in spite of her upbringing.

Of equal importance, her health isn't where it needs to be in order for her to keep up with them. Weekend visits had to decrease significantly for this reason.

By and large she's a great grandmother. I trust her overall, from a love, care, and her concern for their well-being, but I do have some concerns over the idea of her actually raising them to adulthood.

Far as my own mother, not a chance, under any scenario. The idea of her raising my kids is an absolute joke. She lost every last one of her kids to foster care, at some point or another. She doesn't know how to raise kids, nor should she ever be entrusted to the care of any human being.