60. "I don't get along well with men who didn't have fathers in their life." In response to In response to 0
After my ex it was very clear why I had issues in past relationships as well.
Example: I used to have a bad habit of locking my keys in my car. I called my pops one time to come help me fish them out. My pops was like, "Nah you got a man now, have that nigga come help you!". So I called my ex and he tried to give me a 100 and 1 excuses as to why he couldn't come. I flat out told him what my pops said. He came.
As the course of the relationship went on, certain situations he just had no clue how to handle. He didn't know how to treat me to my expectations. Not because he was an asshole or didn't want to because he simply had no male references. He was winging it! One time he said, I don't know if I can be like ya Pops. My Dad and I don't EVEN get along and he knew that but I knew what he meant.
My pops always fixed shit, he handled it, he got his hands dirty, made a way out of no way, protected his family, took FULL responsibility for our family. In relationships I find it hard when my man is just as clueless as I am... I'm not good at asking for help either and I just expect a man to volunteer or at least suggest.
I always feel like I'm wearing the pants when I date men who grew up without a father. I can always tell when a man had his pops around.