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 So, basically you want to put a dude into the friendzone? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 1
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 but we have GRRREAT conversations and always have a good |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 2
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| The main problem is TIME. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 31
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| and i wouldn't be mad at him at all |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 36
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| it's selfish i'd say |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 3
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| if you all are friends, you are friends. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 4
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| it hasn't gotten to that point yet. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 8
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| just dont be mad at the hail mary/habitual line stepping |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 5
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| Lol come on yo. You know its fucked up. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 6
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| RE: Lol come on yo. You know its fucked up. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 12
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 you still want to fit a square peg in a round hole tho |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 23
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 most men want to fuck tho, lol. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 38
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| and? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 48
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| RE: and? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 54
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| Oh okay. Good luck. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 91
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| thanks, lol |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 112
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| Yes and many, many women are guilty. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 7
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| people like attention |
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Dec 01st 2014 |
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| I don't need attention. I like his company and conversation. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 21
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| of course you do. he really is offering his best material |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 40
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| so you like HIS attention |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 41
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| nope, lol. i like our intellectual conversations. seriously. if i liked |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 49
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| I believe you |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 58
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| thank you, trey |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 62
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| now you lying to yourself |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 45
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| so i should cut him off? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 17
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| Ask yourself why he's coming around |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 200
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| Why? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 9
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| yeah it's wrong and it's on the other person to see it |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 10
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| but damn, i'm not using him. i'm being a cool ass friend. why i |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 24
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| you don't. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 55
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| *sigh. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 60
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| wait! |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 124
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| okay yes! |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 156
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| again: is he your only friend? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 165
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| no but he offers things the other friends dont |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 173
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| this is spot on. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 119
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| Let the church say amen. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 152
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| pretty much. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 30
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| hook him up with one of your friends |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 11
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| i would if a) i had a friend who i thought would be interested, and |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 28
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| THE PLOT THICKENS |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 32
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| he aint innocent ;) |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 39
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| if he was single would everything more or less stay the same between |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 46
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| can we take bets now? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 51
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| yerp lol |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 53
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| yall are foul, lol. but youre right about me not being attracted to |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 70
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| yeah that's pretty straightforward really |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 90
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| exactly! and a lot of men play this game. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 101
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| yes. at one point i did entertain the idea of an 'us' but then |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 65
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| i never understood why the girl's in the wrong |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 13
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| in his mind, you're keeping him around because you like him a little |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 19
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| *shrug* sorry, my sympathy levels are so low on this |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 25
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| ^^^^^^ |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 33
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| lots of people say one thing and do another |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 34
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| your words should match your actions. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 37
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| and those things build feelings |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 42
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| they build feelings, and illusions, and thoughts of '... one day' |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 43
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| and then when it finally sinks in that it will NEVER happen |
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Dec 01st 2014 |
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| LOL for real. it's not worth it. and im IN THIS SITUATION |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 61
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| ^^^ |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 71
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| ^^ correct. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 77
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| bingo |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 80
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| i think that since i lecture him sometimes and i'm frank and shit |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 74
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| try a little empathy. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 59
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| for real. it's tough w/ the feelings |
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Dec 01st 2014 |
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| yup. having been on the bad side of this |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 76
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| sometimes you gotta save people from themselves |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 82
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| agreed. especially if they truly ARE your friend |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 85
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| this should be the quote that defines this post. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 111
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| Yup. Definitely. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 116
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| because emotionally you can end the charade lol |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 22
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| because patriarchy I guess. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 27
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| If men accepted every no as final we would literally never get laid |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 29
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| the boyfriend that sat by the door |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 35
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| LOL |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 75
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| LOFL |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 198
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| this is where i'm at, IN THEORY |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 84
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| "Why should the dealer apologize to his fiends?", they cried. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 99
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| if you care about him, leave him alone. otherwise, youre a piece of shit... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 14
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| I'm in the give him some camp |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 15
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| -_- bin, i dont just give out samples of my cooch all willy nilly |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 44
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| ^^^^the core issue right there! why not?! |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 177
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| leave him alone |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 16
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| QUESTION: are you all friends like for real? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 18
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| is he a good friend because he is attracted to her? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 47
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| good question. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 50
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| i was ASKING if they were friends. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 56
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| and I'm asking a different question... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 57
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| the only real female friends are either ugly or family. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 64
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| ^ homosocial. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 69
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| i answered your question. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 66
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| you trying to hard bruh... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 93
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| yes it's because i care so deeply. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 95
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| whatever it is, you are doing too much of it. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 98
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| right on. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 108
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| men sometimes make great friends. too much estrogen gets |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 86
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| I feel you... and also just read he has an SO |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 96
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| right! lol, he's a predator |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 106
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| i am selective w/ who i label as a friend. EXTREMELY selective |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 72
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| as long as you are OK with him hollaring every few days |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 20
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| she might feed off of him hollaring every few days. sick shit. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 26
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| yup, I have witnessed it first hand. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 52
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| the attention/ego boost they brought was the center of the friendship |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 63
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| i seriously aint that chick so please stop. the times he's tried |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 81
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| okay. i'll fall back on that. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 97
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| I see you get FZ'd often...... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 191
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| and you said he has someone else... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 103
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| right, he is not a victim here. im thinking that maybe we should |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 110
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| that reads all types of wrong |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 128
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| - |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 132
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| death by a thousand little cuts instead of just ending it definitively |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 139
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| damn so if i'm wrong and he really doesn't want me then i just |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 146
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| my position is that he needs to end himself but if he can't do that then... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 151
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| i think something is being missed here |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 142
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| fine. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 147
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| thank you because i'm positive that there is no actual love |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 148
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| then proceed. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 153
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| lol, see this is why i need more male friends |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 157
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| then you may not wanna be this guy's friend... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 159
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| probably not, lol. ugh |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 164
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| you made your intentions clear...you've done your part |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 67
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| so you really expect him to act like he don't want you? for real. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 68
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| lol @ "hungry look" ...if a dude's at that point, then he's got issues |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 73
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| wingwoman? fuck those. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 79
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| this helps your chances. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 83
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| and the mark will be ever more intrigued in stealing you away |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 89
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| Nothing gets their attention faster than seeing you with another woman |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 87
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| this makes sense. but is dependent on the security of the mark. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 92
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| if you conceive of objects of your affection as "marks," |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 102
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| believe it or not, i not a fan of 'games'. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 113
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| i am not surprised that he ain't pick up on this. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 94
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| don't be surprised, i think i just handle myself (socially) better than ... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 100
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| no, that hungry look kinda worries me |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 78
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| That's his burden, not yours |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 88
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| whats the point of a clear conscience when the nigga is trying to fuck |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 104
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| that's his burden, not hers |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 114
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| why continue something that you know isn't genuine? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 107
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| They're adults |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 115
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| typing "they're adults" doesn't mean anything. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 117
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| RE: typing "they're adults" doesn't mean anything. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 163
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| you typed big boy pants. i can't take you seriously |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 118
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| You have a good day then. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 170
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| i hope too. you as well. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 171
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| yep, my conscience is super clear. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 109
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| a real friend would have more empathy for their friend. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 120
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| i can't clap loud and long enough to this. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 121
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| agree |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 122
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| so what if i have a talk with him and he's all like 'girl! psh! im over ... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 123
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| i had a friend that picked up on the fact that i was falling for him. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 126
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| 3 more outings and you will be in love again |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 130
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| that shows how much you know. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 138
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| :) |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 133
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| yeah...distance is key. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 136
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| he will probably be lying if he says he is over it. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 127
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| that's on you. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 129
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| ^^^^^^^^^^^ |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 131
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| yup |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 135
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| *double sigh |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 137
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| I've been on both sides of scout's situation |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 141
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| i have too and it's not what i thought initially. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 144
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| agreed |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 125
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| imma have a chat with him and see how things seem to me |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 140
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| RE: agreed |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 149
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| this guy doesn't wanna love her, he wants to bone her. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 155
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| actually, he told me that he's not in love and that they are |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 160
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| he wants the booty |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 166
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| word up. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 167
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| dont hold back, now. i came here for okps opinion |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 169
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| yeah, he's lying in wait. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 179
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| see you should have included all of this in the OP. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 172
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| it wasn't the point of the op |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 174
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| asking our opinion was |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 185
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| lol, honestly i didnt see how all of that complication was relevant |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 192
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| It's completely relevant to the situation |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 201
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| i'd also say it's about accountability |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 202
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| it's not a faux friendship. i genuinely like his as a friend |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 216
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| there is no way any of that info would have elicited accurate |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 215
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| You don't think more info=more accurate opinions? |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 239
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| Not always. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 158
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| RE: Not always. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 168
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| Women made such swell friends. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 105
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| ...said the man with the broken dong |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 154
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| you're the only one here who ever read a book i see |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 205
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| i couldnt leave you hanging after a reference like that |
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Dec 07th 2014 | 240
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| Chick friends are cool. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 134
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| If women cut off every male friend who showed interest in us, we'd |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 143
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| and? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 150
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| Women are generally delusional about this. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 161
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| that's what i'm saying, lol. sowhat has no problem having both |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 175
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| not every dude wants to be romantical |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 176
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| Not all guys want a relationship, but most straight guys will try you up... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 181
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| my GUESS is he just wants 'a bang' |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 182
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| I be trying, tho. I hit him up every quarter just to see if he still gay... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 178
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| lol |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 183
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| I see you, lfresh and I are gonna have a fight to the death huh? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 186
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| I mean...we might have to scrap it out |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 187
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| see I'm poly so I know how to share |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 189
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| yeah, naw. When he mine, he MINEZ. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 190
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| lol! |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 229
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| yes but i'm not close to any gay dudes who want the goodies |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 180
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| so even if you made your goodies available none of your friends |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 184
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| no. none of them who are my friends would bite. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 188
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| lol @ because no |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 193
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| Wrong? No. Self-sabotage? Absolutely. It’s just a terrible idea. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 145
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| the original OP sounds like she wanted to force a friendship... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 162
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| he's going to go in it thinkin' he'll eventually wear you down or grow o... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 194
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| stranger things have happened. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 196
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| maybe I read this wrong but it sounds like you are playing a lil game |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 203
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| i'm bullshitting. i already know what i'mma do. he stands no |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 209
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| *daps* |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 217
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| RE: *daps* |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 236
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| girl, bye. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 206
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| Why don't you switch roles? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 195
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| so basically u want to be friends with his representative |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 199
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| i like to think i'm a good judge of character. if this is his A game |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 212
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| dude gotta be mature |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 204
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| I'd wager he's a fool. or already has a plate-full of pussy, or both. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 207
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| do you change clothes around him? do you mind if he notices a nipple? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 208
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| 0_o the hell? the f*ck? maaaan, c'mon now. quit playing |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 210
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| it happens. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 214
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| nope. i have a guy friend like that... |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 211
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| i mean, that's not so bad, right? |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 213
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| smh homie gonna be feeling like this at dinner |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 218
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| dinner with you is torture. you ain't shit. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 219
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| I dunno, given how he's pining after her, she might be the shit |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 220
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| He's being taken advantage of. She's bored. Its common. Its life. |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 222
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| u stupid... but also 100% correct |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 225
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| this |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 228
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| nope. there is mutual benefit. mono y mono |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 235
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| lol |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 234
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| nope, because men want to screw everyone anyway |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 221
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| exactly. you may as well ask if it's okay to have male friends... |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 232
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| this is wrong and not true |
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Dec 07th 2014 | 241
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| No man wants to be just friends with you |
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Dec 01st 2014 | 223
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| Stop speaking for all men |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 226
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| No |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 227
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| RE: is it wrong to try to force a friendship w/ someone you know wants |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 224
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| and what he wants aint wrong and very selfish? |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 233
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| hits kinda close to home....wish i had advice |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 230
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| Not if you make it abundantly clear that it's not going to happen. |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 231
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| right. no mixed signals whatsoever, capt. i'm fair and kind |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 237
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| Yes. |
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Dec 02nd 2014 | 238
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