I get my son up early enough in the morning to spend time with him. We make breakfast together, I'll help him get dressed and he talks to me about everything. ( I really mean everything, he has stories to tell at age five.)He's only 5 now I hope to keep this openness forever. Children know when you are bullshitting them , when I'm half listening he won't speak until he has my full attention.You have to make time for your children.