thank you hon, for holding such a high opinion of black women in general (sarcasm intended).<P>I find it interesting that more & more white males are marrying non white & nonamerican women (though nonblack) because they consider white american females to be unfeminine, demanding, materialistic, controlling YET black men are saying that THESE SAME white females (being rejected by white males) are LESS demanding & easier to deal with than sistas (??!!). Clearly there's a contradiction. <P>If all these white women love these black men for "them" then where were they when the brothas were broke or down & out? The numbers don't lie, most black men (particularly the rich) are marrying nonblack women who are less educated, less financially independant, etc than they are. Again, a contradiction.<P>I think that "black women are more fucked up in the head than white women" excuse is bullshit. Black women have historically and consistently dealt with brothas of all income levels and backgrounds. Want proof...study history & look around. Generally, we have never had the luxury of being stay @ home moms...a STANDARD set by white males for how THEIR women should be treated. Black women have always worked and for the most part have never been taken care of. THAT IS A FACT.<P>Most EVERY black man can get a female and even the worst of the bunch has female companionship and someone to bear his children. At the same time, very eligible black women are either alone or dealing with males that are not their peers socially, economically or educationally. So which side of the gender divide is really more willing to bend and compromise the white patriarchial standards? If black women were so materialistic - most of y'all wouldn't be able to get any ass and CLEARLY that is not the case. As I said, LOOK AROUND..if we were all waiting for brothas with 6 figures, we'd all be alone, there'd be less single moms, etc. Fact is, most black women take damn near any man & while we complain about a n*gg* doing...its because many of us have been pulling more than our fair share of the weight for a long time now.<P>Here's what I think. Some black men have been brainwashed to think white aesthetics are more valuable than black ones. Speaking generally, every woman (regardless of race) knows that the "prettier" you perceived to be the more shit a man is willing to ignore and the more a man will do. Many black men are willing to ignore the same so-called negative qualities in white women that they claim to hate in black women because they view the white woman's aesthetic as more valuable and are blinded to the negative qualities of their "prize".<P>Also, many of the black men dating interacially select involve themselves with black women on 1 social level then get loot or whatever and date white women of a different social level and try to compare the 2. That's not fair. Of course a struggling woman of any background are more inclined to view a man for his ability to provide. Being that white women were the true beneficiaries of affirmative active, many of them got to be MISS INDEPENDANT on the backs of the black civil rights struggle and can now afford to look for other qualities BESIDES assets. Then y'all brothas want to turn around and get salty at black women for needing black men economically when its racism and systematic oppression that makes it possible for white women NOT to have those same needs? <P>WHATEVER.