I think that you have made your decision. The thing about people is that we a re animals who can reason ourselves into doing anything. I was noticing that about myself on the train while I was trying to reason myself into doing something that was not right but I wanted to do anyway. I'm not telling you that dating white is not right cuz that would mean I was making my opinion stand as fact but you seem to be finding a way to play down the fact that mixed relationships don't tear at the fabric of black society. I won't let this go on forever so here it is. You WANT that white woman. Just be with her and be happy. For I fear that if you deny yourself what you really want and go for the more community centered choice (I don't care where you stand aboriginal austrailains are more your commmunity than a white girl from the US.) The community centered choice being to date a black woman. You will no doubt 'reason' your way into that or another white woman's arms because that seems to be what you really want. So rather than cause another sister undo pain, rejection, and stress, mind you this goes against everything I think to be true. <P>Go for that white blond/blue. Have brownish colored hazel eyed "good" haired children. Who are we but your community to question you.<P>"God is neither good <BR>nor evil<BR>neither loving<BR>nor hating<BR>God is Power<BR>God is Change<BR>We must find the rest of what we need <BR>within ourselves <BR>in one another<BR>in our Destiny"<P>Earthseed: Books of the Living