*lines may be taped*

Instead, feel free to share the man rules you follow when it comes to text-based communication and social media.

in a text... its only mentally connecting to one person.

in a text... the connection must loop back (reply) or it terminates if there is no response.

in social media, the connection is broadcasted so the connection keeps going even if no one replies you know multiple people saw it.

there really no meaning relationship-wise except maybe you can interpret that he likes being connected to you but maybe not TOO intimately.

it also depends on the context of the initial text.

the context of the text was a response to something he said he wanted to do with me. I replied with a date/time, got no reply back.

In the age of the text, the signal drop happens. I shrugged. But he's still watching my snapchat stories. He has to click on those to even see them, so it's not a passive thing.

Again, I'm good, but I'm just curious.

Edit to add: We aren't dating and that wasn't even the thing. It was on some "hey, we like the same things, let's get to know each other"- type stuff. And the outing was his idea.

I realize the title implies we were, but I just wanted a perspective from hetero men.

otherwise

so yes, he probably wants your attention for no reason, or doesn't know why he wants it, or wants it, but doesn't know what to do with it, or wants something, but doesn't know how to communicate it, or ask for it, or get it, or whatever...

grown ups will make themselves plain for the most part

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fairweather

>RE: man you have to assume people are children unless they show otherwise

Right. But when children act childish, do you ignore them? Pander to them? Respond in-kind?

>so yes, he probably wants your attention for no reason, or
>doesn't know why he wants it, or wants it, but doesn't know
>what to do with it, or wants something, but doesn't know how
>to communicate it, or ask for it, or get it, or whatever...
>
>grown ups will make themselves plain for the most part

I feel like I'm the direct chick that men claim they want. I just think people draw their opposites, regardless of their gender. I'm pretty plain. Just looking for the same.

Edit to add: Why would any of this matter in a platonic situation though?

its however you feel like rolling

but if i've chosen to respond, i still stay my grown up self, no reason to try to manicure your responses, that doesn't serve anyone imo

and this all stays the same regardless if its a platonic encounter or not, at the end of the day you deserve to feel easy and comfy communicating

also, hi ~

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fairweather

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

But, depending on the person, I will engage in texting as well as communicate via facebook messenger.

Both should be used as a means to communicate, but not the sole means. Personally, I prefer to talk on the phone which leads to in person interaction.

As far as your situation that you shared with another poster,it seems to me that dude is playing games and/or is not into you enough to set up a date, hang out session or whatever you would call it. Otherwise, he would respond via text or better yet call you to confirm an outing with you.

If I was you, I would not bother unless he wants and acts upon setting up an in person outing with you.

>As far as your situation that you shared with another
>poster,it seems to me that dude is playing games and/or is not
>into you enough to set up a date, hang out session or whatever
>you would call it. Otherwise, he would respond via text or
>better yet call you to confirm an outing with you.


But seriously, I figured as much. I'm a direct, clean break kinda person, so I'll have the "i'm not interested" convo and have had it several times. Crazy how many people don't favor the direct route.

>If I was you, I would not bother unless he wants and acts
>upon setting up an in person outing with you.

He's cancelled. I'm just trying to figure out how to get him to stop watching my SC stories. I'm tempted to block him but that makes it seems like I feel a way. When I'm done with people I'm just annoyed when I'm reminded of their existence, that's all.

n/m

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fairweather

>
>>As far as your situation that you shared with another
>>poster,it seems to me that dude is playing games and/or is
>not
>>into you enough to set up a date, hang out session or
>whatever
>>you would call it. Otherwise, he would respond via text or
>>better yet call you to confirm an outing with you.
>
>
>But seriously, I figured as much. I'm a direct, clean break
>kinda person, so I'll have the "i'm not interested" convo and
>have had it several times. Crazy how many people don't favor
>the direct route.


Because rejection is a hard pill to swallow. It is also a hard pill to administer to someone. You have many people who like to indirectly reject someone which I find a bit cowardly. If you don't wanna be bothered, then say so. You don't have to be mean about it. There is a respectful way of letting people know that you aren't interested.
>
>>If I was you, I would not bother unless he wants and acts
>>upon setting up an in person outing with you.
>
>He's cancelled. I'm just trying to figure out how to get him
>to stop watching my SC stories. I'm tempted to block him but
>that makes it seems like I feel a way. When I'm done with
>people I'm just annoyed when I'm reminded of their existence,
>that's all.

I understand, but I would suggest not being concerned about his feelings and be more concerned about your peace of mind. If blocking him will prevent him from watching your stories, then so be it. He is a man, so he will get over it and move on.

...after we've been out a few times and there's an obvious connection then I'll have conversations etc via text. I don't do the flirting shit via text early up. I save that for when we're face to face.
I've found that texting too much before we've established that there's chemistry etc can just lead to more and more texting and less meeting up. . It's really hard for me to get to know someone via text these days. Maybe I'm old school now. It's weird because I used to text a lot up to a few years ago. I don't have the time for that now and it doesn't feel right to me. Shrug.

I also don't text people I'm getting to know after 9pm. And I find it intrusive when someone I've been on a few dates texts me in the middle of the night or before 8am. Established friends....no problem. But someone I'm just getting to know and we haven't been intimate yet....naw.

Vast majority of my regular texting time is for my male friends (who are all busy with work and family...so we don't meet up as much) where we talk about current affairs, and regular shit happening in our lives (group chat)....or my parents.

nothing breaks the ice and keeps things light with the modern media savvy woman than a well timed gif
especially ones that aren't all over the internet already
deep album cut gifs
they're basically better than actual conversation

and if all she sends you are rihanna gifs
walk away son

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