Man getting older maintaining friendships is a full-time job!

I spoke to a "friend" this week and said "Wow, you still live in NYC, I thought you moved away", they responded "Srsly??? been in the same place for years now". This is after they came through to the rescue like a true friend and offered something I needed purely out of the graciousness of their heart and our friendship. I felt like poo.

How about you. Do you feel like your are as giving to your friends as you are taking? Or do you want to be not be bothered a lot of the time?

Poll result (17 votes) Great Friend! Always there for folks; Remember Bdays; Call just to say "hi"... (3 votes) Vote Good Friend. Not the best at small stuff, always there when they need me. (9 votes) Vote Ok Friend. "So sorry I didn't get back to you, I was busy with..." (3 votes) Vote Not a good friend. Why do my "friends" keep bothering me. Leave me alone. (2 votes) Vote Other. Explain. (0 votes) Vote

If you fux with me...I fux with you 100.

I'm the guy that will track down someone that was a good friend a decade ago because I can't imagine losing contact with you.

If you are in the clutch and I can affect a change w/o fucking up my situation...I got you.

But I will get little on your ass in a minute and don't even ask me about your birthday. I forgot.

Most of my friends know that about me, tho...so it's part of the deal.

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thinks that they are AT least that.

And I thought I was that...but now I am starting to suspect that I might be less than that.

No shot at you personally.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

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I'm your friend for life
except with menz lol

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

says who?

i dont call on birthdays, i dont call out the blue to say whats up but if we get together after 10 years i dont expect us to skip a beat.

we will laugh, joke, etc.

i have childhood friends who are like brothers. my wife always jokes about how we turn into big ass kids when we go home and I hang with my old friends.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I'm getting worse as I get older, but I think as much as anything it's me realising I need fewer and closer friends the older I get. Most people just feel like a distant second to my partner if I'm honest.

I can't be fucked servicing relationships where we only ever got drunk/hit clubs/whatever these days... but the important ones (1 male, 1 female, both platonic) I probably spend more time on than I used to.

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forever.

every day but if/when u catch me u got me

I don't proactively reach out to nobody tho...
I've never been good with that...
it's the istp in me

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but i am saved as SuperTwat in of my best friends phone bc they know me v well. lol. but im always there for them if they need me, ferociously.

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anything, anytime, drop of a hat

my larger circle of friends...ehh...not so much, green

still got love though

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I am even a better acquaintance and associate!!

I accepted the notion that friends can become lifetime friends and even consider them to be like extended family, but I also to came to the understanding that as one becomes older, friends may not keep in touch a frequently due to starting families, working, relocating to other cities, states, etc.

For me, I have on a very few people that I could say are true friends. The vast majority are acquaintances and associates. Some people may have been good friends at one point and due to circumstances may have been bumped down to acquaintanceship and associateship status.

The latter two seems to work best because they are not in your business and vice versa. Keeps the drama low to non-existent. I respect people's space and cool with whatever level I am placed in.