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mrhood75
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55. "I've always left it up to them."
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First time I saw it, it was with a close homie of mine. I known shit was doomed the second time he called me to pick him up from his apartment to crash over at his grandparents place to cool off after a fight with his wife. They'd only married a few months, and I knew if they weren't going to try to hash things out that early, it wasn't going to last. During that time I encouraged him to find a way to work things out, even though he knew I thought that they got married too quickly. They made it last a year, and then things fell apart while I was away at grad school. Probably because I wasn't there to pick him up anymore.

Second time, I knew from the get go she was royal pain and that marrying her was a bad idea. Still remained supportive. Fell out of touch, and linked up with him again years later, happy to discover that he left her. Turned out the "divorce" was easy, because they had never actually been technically married. She hadn't signed the marriage license (learned after the fact that she'd held it over him for a while), so they didn't need a divorce.

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When your homey is in a bad marriage.... [View all] , Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Sep-14-17 09:54 AM
 
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you always support him and give advice when asked would be my take
Sep 14th 2017
1
just be there for em whichever way they go.
Sep 14th 2017
2
I try to support them
Sep 14th 2017
3
never talk trash about another man's wife
Sep 14th 2017
4
^^
Sep 14th 2017
5
One doesn't have to "trash talk" his wife to express concern...
Sep 14th 2017
20
      No matter what, it will translate to trash talk.
Sep 14th 2017
23
           nah....if you're clear,
Sep 14th 2017
32
how bad?
Sep 14th 2017
6
This is right on time.One of my boys (just married) is fucking miserable...
Sep 14th 2017
7
was he miserable before he got married?
Sep 14th 2017
10
      Not to my knowledge. He had things on the side and was living it up.
Sep 14th 2017
11
           oh, he closed shop too early
Sep 14th 2017
12
                We're both 37
Sep 14th 2017
33
what constitutes a "bad" marriage from the outside looking in?
Sep 14th 2017
8
how about non-black wife....
Sep 14th 2017
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      hoooomygod
Sep 14th 2017
21
      .
Sep 14th 2017
27
      haha... oh shit, she waited til marriage to do it? she white?
Sep 14th 2017
22
      Not white.
Sep 14th 2017
26
           real talk, I felt like anytime I dated non Black they called me that shi...
Sep 14th 2017
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           I bet money she's Latina
Sep 14th 2017
60
                hmmm... I could see it.
Sep 14th 2017
64
      Grounz
Sep 14th 2017
      ...for...
Sep 14th 2017
35
           RE: ...for...
Sep 14th 2017
40
      Obligatory question: Hard-R or soft-A?
Sep 14th 2017
25
      RE: Obligatory question: Hard-R or soft-A?
Sep 14th 2017
28
      Oh
Sep 14th 2017
34
      lol...she's non white tho
Sep 14th 2017
36
           Hispanic, Latin, or Asian. Just not white or black.
Sep 14th 2017
37
           hmm, I feel like talking about my deepest darkest is worse
Sep 14th 2017
39
           I'm not much of an arguerer. I'd end whatever conversation that is
Sep 14th 2017
41
                Lol, y'all are quick to call it quits
Sep 14th 2017
47
                     You feel safe enough to call me a nigger
Sep 14th 2017
49
                          Well, that's something I think every person in a mixed marriage needs
Sep 14th 2017
52
                               cmon, man...
Sep 14th 2017
56
                               Sorry Kilo
Sep 14th 2017
58
                               To each their own I guess.
Sep 14th 2017
61
                                    I married a Black woman for a reason
Sep 14th 2017
63
                                         I've also eaten 3am sushi from a 7-11
Sep 14th 2017
66
                                              I'm from Western PA
Sep 15th 2017
72
           you've never argue then...
Sep 14th 2017
42
                I don't agree with this.
Sep 14th 2017
44
                hurt people...hurt people
Sep 14th 2017
48
                     there's a line.
Sep 14th 2017
62
                this sounds toxic as shit, to me...
Sep 14th 2017
45
                Same here. I don't do all that screaming and crap but....
Sep 14th 2017
69
                I've argued plenty. You're talking about fighting words.
Sep 14th 2017
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                I ain't never had to fight in my own HOUSE!
Sep 15th 2017
70
                Trinity, name-calling out of anger is crossing the line toward abuse
Sep 14th 2017
67
           right? the fuck is she? Asian, Latina, Indian, French Canadian?
Sep 14th 2017
38
      I dont gotta hear both sides, but there are factors to consider
Sep 14th 2017
43
      breh how do you not lead w/ that lmfao.
Sep 14th 2017
51
      right?
Sep 14th 2017
53
      wait what?
Sep 14th 2017
57
hit him with the TI: IZ YOU HAPPY?
Sep 14th 2017
9
My name's Paul and that shit's between ya'll (c)
Sep 14th 2017
13
why would you encourage him to do it if he had cold feet going in?
Sep 14th 2017
14
A couple weeks before the wedding he called with cold feet
Sep 14th 2017
15
more than likely your words didn't change his mind
Sep 14th 2017
18
man i wouldn't encourage a dude or lady either way
Sep 14th 2017
24
and what is a "bad" marriage?
Sep 14th 2017
16
I keep it real and give the best advice I can with the info that I have
Sep 14th 2017
19
yeah...if this is your mans...how can you be anything but honest?...
Sep 14th 2017
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      I'll be honest but I won't tell him what to do
Sep 14th 2017
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i dont encourage/advise ppl to do sh*t
Sep 14th 2017
50
Yup. Iont want anyone using me as their reason for leaving
Sep 14th 2017
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Spoken like a Trained Therapist
Sep 14th 2017
65
Didn't sign the marriage license?
Sep 14th 2017
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      why would someone not sign the license?
Sep 14th 2017
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           That's just evil
Sep 15th 2017
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