and yes, holding a race-based dating preference does make you a racist. b/c you're literally engaging in race-based prejudice (aka pre-judging ppl based on their race) and even deciding which race is superior. it all adds up to 'race' and 'ism'. now, whether you find that a negative or positive is on you, i guess. i don't think it has to be a negative thing. maybe you prefer ppl of a certain race b/c you want to make biological children w/them and you want those kids to be of a particular race - that's all good. and it's racist as fuck. again, do you. if you like it i love it.

i feel hold my own prejudiced preference myself, i think - if/when i marry a dude i would prefer it if he's Black. i have pre-judged non-Black men based on their race and decided they will make inferior husbands. i have decided that Black men are superior - based on their race. i think my reasons are primarily positive. but this is a race-based preference that's rooted in prejudice. b/c i haven't met every single non-Black man or every Black man so how do i know that no non-Black man out there can make a great husband for me? how do i know that there's no non-Black man out there who would be better for me as a husband than a Black man? i don't but i'm using my prejudices and stereotyping dudes. and i'm okay w/that, for the most part. though i fear if i stick w/the absolute of my prejudiced preference i may miss out on a good man. but is he 'good' if he's not what i say i want? i dunno.

IMO the holding of the prejudice is racist and stating it is definitely racist. b/c why say that shit? what is the point otherwise? i can keep that shit to myself and just tell non-Black dudes i'm not interested on a case-by-case basis w/o alerting them to my prejudice. all they need to know is that i'm not interested - they don't need to know that i will never be interested solely b/c of their race. which isn't even about THEM as individuals it's about biological and social science facts that are beyond their control. they don't need to know that i'm not interested in getting to know them as ppl - i have written them off. they don't need to know but i tell them anyway and that's racist, i think. or it's at least hurtful and unnecessary.

anyway, yeah. DAS RACIST! but fuck it.

fuck you.