the only thing you can control is how you perceive and handle them. If God does actually have a plan, then do not think that means it is one for you to ever fully understand.

It sounds to me like these events are charged with a lot of significance for you because you still haven't gotten over the trauma this person put you through. I suggest you look into symptoms of PTSD, which has a way of processing all of your experiences through the lens of that trauma. Otherwise, you will drive yourself mad trying to project these past experiences into what you think the universe is trying to do "for" or "against" you.