not sure how we change that. It's ingrained in our brain to cringe when a white person says "my Black friends"
We've been hit over the head so long by white folk we tend to look for shit whether its there or not.
I feel like sometimes we miss the big picture because we are looking for a reason to be outraged and spend too much time trying to get others on board with us.
that's a tricky one.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*