"Poll question: how much does your other half have to know about music?"
my gf at the moment doesnt know much about music. she likes 80s music, rihanna, whatevers in the charts really. im ok with this. i used to go out with an indie rock chick, which led to arguments in the car, but now i dont have any of those. i think its cool to go out with someone who likes some of the same stuff as you. but its not essential. or is it?
1. "RE: how much does your other half have to know about music?" In response to Reply # 0
yeah, I've never dated a girl who was really INTO hip-hop. Actually, that's not true, but it hasn't been since the 90's. It would be a blessing if i could find a chick that did, but it's not enough to Seinfeld her because she don't
Being a music fan and music thinker, I think I'd have a hard time getting along with somebody who wasn't at least half as into music as me. Probably because we wouldn't have much to talk about.
I don't think it's the amount of knowledge one has — for me, it's more about how accepting the other person is of things they're not necessarily into.
~Austin
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28. "sounds about right." In response to Reply # 3
>Being a music fan and music thinker, I think I'd have a hard >time getting along with somebody who wasn't at least half as >into music as me. Probably because we wouldn't have much to >talk about. >
agreed.
>I don't think it's the amount of knowledge one has — for me, >it's more about how accepting the other person is of things >they're not necessarily into. >
unless they listen to some really horrible shit that I can't even tolerate on a purely diplomatic ( as in, "i'm in your car, so I'll listen to whatever you have playing") level.
Ally Al 2003 Member since Oct 02nd 2003 10529 posts
Mon May-21-12 03:36 PM
29. "I always thought it would be the most imporant part of a relationship" In response to Reply # 3
but for me it really isnt
don't get me wrong my wife loves music, but our tastes aren't very similar at all, and she doesn't have that nerdy need for it that i have, she loves to listen but not talk about it endlessly :)
4. "I said "a little" but Sun Ra qualifies as more than a little, to me" In response to Reply # 0
My girlfriend probably doesn't know who Sun Ra is, but she's reasonably up on the mainstreamier side of indie rock. She's better than your typical pop listener, but she's not really into music the way I am, or even 25% of that.
5. "RE: how much does your other half have to know about music?" In response to Reply # 0
My girl really isn't into music that much, she consumes top 40 and country and that's pretty much it. Shes knows the music I dig and she's always been open to it. For example we went to a funkadelic concert last year and she had a great time. Or this past weekend we were on a long car trip and I just bought Quakers and she didn't ask me to switch up the music until I listened to the album 2 times in a row.
Thinking about it I've been with my girl 4 years now, lived together for 2 years and we share EVERYTHING, except music and I think I like it that way.
6. "I think its kinda juvinile to have that music snob dating " In response to Reply # 0
mentality. I was once like that though. I couldn't stand current radio music(still don't care for it)but I'm done with cuttin' down peeps for their individual tastes.
My current GF listens to mainly contemparary gospel, maybe some female pop and rnb vocalists here and there(Beyonce, Rihanna, Whitney). She respects me as a music head and in return I respect her tastes. She's never against what I ask her to take a listen to. She appreciates the message of Dead Prez and a few others. That's really all you could ask for, someone that respects what you like, even though it may not be their style.
On the other hand, I'm actually glad she's not exactly a huge hip hop head, because 9 times out of 10, females that are really into rap have a real "bird mentality" and act like straight chicken-heads. If you don't believe me just talk to some of em'.
9. "Not that I know a whole lot" In response to Reply # 0
I'm just about as much as a music snob as everyone else on this site.
But she doesn't have to know quite as much as I do. She has to love it though. It's always weird when I'm with a girl who isn't really into music.
And I like overlap in taste, but I've never been with a girl who has very similar taste as me. The one I'm with now has the closest, but our overlap is mostly in the electronic music we listen to. I think the only thing I avoid is excessive metal or country. They can be into either or both, but if it's all they listen to there's going to be a problem.
15. "RE: how can anyone date someone who doesn't like music?" In response to Reply # 10
Looking back, I really don't know. The best I can say is that I wasn't in a very good place in my life when I ended up with a girl who was like "I listen to the radio to see what other people are listening to," but she wasn't really into anything.
18. "people that just dont care for music..." In response to Reply # 9
>But she doesn't have to know quite as much as I do. She has to >love it though. It's always weird when I'm with a girl who >isn't really into music.
the types that only listen to it when its on in the background. i find that weird. i feel like cybil shepherd in taxi driver talking to deniro who doesnt get it. then again, she was a kris kristofferson fan lol...
13. "Don't know which poll option to pick" In response to Reply # 0
My girl is big into music, but not the same type as me at all. The only hip-hop she knows is what I force upon her. So she knows music very well, just not my genre.
14. "My brother once declared: "no girls unfamiliar with Eric Dolphy"" In response to Reply # 0
Then he met a 13-years-younger German babe with a knockout bod and great personality who had no idea who Eric Dolphy was. They've been happily married for three years already.
Practically speaking, it's a non-issue for me. I was impressed on our first date that my wife ID'd some of the stuff I played for her. And I was impressed that she was flexible and enjoyed a variety of shows I took her to. But we rarely play records around the house any more, so as a day to day concern it's lower than most other things on the priority list.
i once got chatting with a girl at a record shop who - amazingly - liked MOP but i was already seeing someone at the time, though i do still wish i had gotten her number.
I would love to be in a situation where the opposite sex was into music as much as I. I've never had that chance though.....once I make this move down to VA this summer i'm hoping to come across a jawn that digs it as much I though....would make for great convo
semantics softer than couples at wedding alters this cops and robbers and u cant hold a candle rip ur antlers off and hang them on my mantle str8 rambo--rocket science wouldnt even try it these dudes cant compare their focus is on a diet~me
24. "They don't have to listen to everything I do or know as much" In response to Reply # 0
But definitely can't be a casual listener, music is just such a part of my live that we'd never connect. And some of the best moments I've had with the women I've been with have involved music. Either discussing it, making mixes for each other, going to concerts or just driving around with music on. Might change as I get older but as of now, definitely can't ONLY listen to what's on the radio.
I don't care if she listen's to pop music (cause I do as well when I cut on the radio) but I do want someone who does listen and enjoy music or at least respect that I'm a music fanatic and live & breathe it.
--------- "We in here talking about later career Prince records & your fool ass is cruising around in a time machine trying to collect props for a couple of sociopathic degenerates" - s.blak
26. "a chick whos really into music" In response to Reply # 0
is like the ultimate for me. Its kinda surreal to meet a girl who can go toe to toe and not miss a beat in conversation about it, but it's not necessary at all. I could just as easily date someone who liked bullshit radio, but as long as she appreciated what I liked and had an open mind to hear it (and me ramble on and on about it). I think thats all I need, someone who thinks that shit is at least somewhat interesting, cause thats like 50% of what I think about, so how the fuck are we gonna be cool unless she thinks it is.
------------------- village.fm/okayplayer | @delajoo "Whether you're a rock star or a garbage man, if you think about yourself all the time, you won't be very good at what you do." - Frusciante
30. "It's a nice bonus, but not necessary" In response to Reply # 0
Really all I ask is that she knows she's getting with someone who is heavy into music and she respects that, maybe even finds them interesting.
My girlfriend and I don't really like a lot of the same stuff (her two favorites off the top are Josh Groban and Deer Hunter haha), but she does eff with some of the more popular artists that I happen to also like such as Kanye and Jay.
And actually, she IS familiar with some of the underground stuff I like as her brother is a big hip-hop head. I wouldn't go as far as to say she likes it, but she got a kick out of ME getting a kick out of HER knowing who artists like Kendrick Lamar or El-P (for example) are.
She was like "I know some of this stuff you listen to!"
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Ally Al 2003 Member since Oct 02nd 2003 10529 posts
Mon May-21-12 05:01 PM
31. "(sorry i replied in the wrong place) I thought it would be the most impo..." In response to Reply # 0
of a relationship
but for me it really isnt
don't get me wrong my wife loves music, but our tastes aren't very similar at all, and she doesn't have that nerdy need for it that i have, she loves to listen but not talk about it endlessly
32. "As long as she's passionate about music I'm good" In response to Reply # 0
It doesn't have to be the same shit I'm into but I can't date another chick that just hops in the car and turns on the radio. I'm not dealing with that again. She has to have her own little collection. She ain't gotta have thousands like me but a few hundred at least. Just no more MTV, BET, VH-1 & radio chicks. Never again.
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