legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 83733 posts
Tue Nov-18-25 05:53 PM
3. "if you don’t want to identify then you don’t get the Auntie/Unc titl..." In response to Reply # 2 Tue Nov-18-25 05:58 PM by legsdiamond
I’m sorry but IMO you are just going to get called by your name if its up to me.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 83733 posts
Tue Nov-18-25 07:48 PM
5. "I actually don’t think its a problem" In response to Reply # 4
the name is the name.. that’s it, that’s all.
Aint got time to be lecturing kids on all that shit.
We trying to go to the trampoline park.. lol.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
32. "I agree. Babying people based on how they identify " In response to Reply # 5
>the name is the name.. that’s it, that’s all. > >Aint got time to be lecturing kids on all that shit. > >We trying to go to the trampoline park.. lol.
is more of a problem.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 83733 posts
Wed Nov-19-25 10:14 AM
10. "gotdamn that is cold" In response to Reply # 7
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
27. "They are lesser people. " In response to Reply # 6
Less developed, less knowledgeable, less intelligent, less strength, less experience, less everything. If they were equals, they'd be telling you what they're going to eat, what time they're going to bed and waking up, etc. They're literally in the process of learning how to be adults, and adults are the ones teaching them. They need to know that and act accordingly. This idea that everybody's equal is what got Chamillionaire thinking he can argue science with Neil Degrasse Tyson.
33. "none of that makes them lesser people." In response to Reply # 27
those views could apply to anyone who's in whatever level of development compared to others, even other adults. someone needing guidance doesn't make them less than.
more so, calling people by their names shouldn't be considered disrespectful. formal titles, sure. call them doctor so and so, or mrs/mr last name for teachers. anything else just seems extra, unless those adults have requested to be addressed that way.
respect doesn't come from calling somebody uncle charlie. it comes from charlie actually being respectable.
8. "My niece has become my nibling. " In response to Reply # 0
Nibling is the non-gendered term for nieces and nephews. You call them by name as much as possible, but sometimes you need context when introducing them to people. I could say "Nibling" (or "Nephew," I guess), but most often I say "this is my SiL's oldest."
What are you going to do? *shrugs*. This child struggles ordering food at a restaurant on their own, but they were able to get gender reassignment surgery without their parents' permission and paid for by the state of NY.
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14. "wow, that's impressive!" In response to Reply # 8
>Nibling is the non-gendered term for nieces and nephews. >You call them by name as much as possible, but sometimes you >need context when introducing them to people. I could say >"Nibling" (or "Nephew," I guess), but most often I say "this >is my SiL's oldest." > >What are you going to do? *shrugs*. This child struggles >ordering food at a restaurant on their own, but they were able >to get gender reassignment surgery without their parents' >permission and paid for by the state of NY. >
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 83733 posts
Mon Nov-24-25 12:07 PM
26. "sounds like an abbreviation for my nicca sibling " In response to Reply # 8
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
Thee Phantom Member since Jul 18th 2005 2861 posts
Mon Dec-01-25 10:29 PM
37. "I thought that was only possible in NY if..." In response to Reply # 8
They met 1 of these 3 criteria:
* Emancipated (e.g., married, in the military) * A parent or pregnant * Experiencing homelessness or receiving services from an Office of Children and Family Services (OCFS)-approved Runaway and Homeless Youth (RHY) program
11. "I'd go with the Spanish "Titi"" In response to Reply # 0
for some reason, it feels very middle of the road. It's no Tia or Tito.
It's Titi.
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Frank Longo Member since Nov 18th 2003 87181 posts
Wed Nov-19-25 01:27 PM
18. "I've seen Titi and Zizi before." In response to Reply # 13 Wed Nov-19-25 01:29 PM by Frank Longo
Something that scratches the itch of aunt or uncle in terms of honorific but also can be said by a child in a way that makes the affection more clear than just calling them "doctor" or whatever.
In these instances, you might speak with the relative and see if they have a preference-- would be a nice gesture to reach out and say "hey, I want my kids to be respectful but I also want them to not misgender you or make you uncomfortable in any way."
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 83733 posts
Thu Nov-20-25 11:13 AM
23. "Question: Have you asked them what they want to be called? " In response to Reply # 0
I think that is the easiest route.
I remember a story about a woman saying she went and bought a bunch of shit for the less fortunate and then realized she didn’t even ask them what they needed.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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